Listeners have written to us to express their inner battle with being able to love themselves. The lifeless seeds plated by others left them feeling barren and unsure of themselves ... and lacking confidence in God's love for them. They often have to deal with well-meaning but judgmental types who will wag their finger at them for doing things they enjoy but may be considered taboo to those snared in their own religious bondage. They'll quote Bible verses as though they are 'demands' from God instead of exhortations from apostles who were attempting to exhort and encourage those to whom they were writing.
The victims wallow and wade in the murky swamp of guilt and condemnation, sometimes leading to more problems, including depression. It leaves them feeling distant from God, living in a place of fear and uncertainty. We may not have all the specific answers for overcoming these struggles that are unique to each person. But we do know God doesn't want this for any of His creation. Allowing Him to reveal His love to each heart will not only lift us to heavenly places, it will establish grace and self-esteem, assurance ... and empower us to love others - as well as ourselves - in the same way.
The old way of a useless law under the first covenant was centered on people working and striving at loving God with everything they had. 'Do it or else.' In a better covenant established by Jesus, it has never been about our effort at trying to love God but rather coming to realize God first loved us. Get this backwards ... and we'll keep missing the blessings God freely gives.
"In this is love, not that we have loved God but that he loved us and sent his Son to be the propitiation for our sins" (1 John 4:10).
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