Growing Up Raising Us

In this episode, we are joined by Lily from Leid by Design ⁠@leidbydesign⁠ (previously known as Launch Mama). Lily is a mother to two, and a certified Career and Corporate Psychology Practitioner.

Lily joins us on the podcast to answer the question of how we can better align our careers with our motherhood identities and demands. The intersection between career and motherhood is such a complex, multifaceted one and looks different for us all. We talk:

• imposter syndrome, and common challenges parents face when they return to work;

• Ikigai, identity shifts, and how to make sense of any new career goals or priorities 

• How to make practical changes that work in this season of motherhood 

This episode is part of our How Do I series, a segment of the pod where we unpack questions that have been on our minds. This series has been designed to answer your targeted questions, and leave you with practical takeaways. 

You can find Lily ⁠⁠@leidbydesign⁠⁠. She offers Leadership coaching and workshops; Career discovery and development coaching; Cycle syncing support to improve wellbeing in the workplace; and Human Design & Astrology readings. 

Please know: Lily has recently rebranded to Leid by Design, and in this episode we refer to the previous name of Launch Mama. Where you hear Launch Mama - think Leid by Design.

Join our Growing community on instagram ⁠⁠⁠@growingupraisinguspodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to see photos of our weekly guests, behind the scenes moments, and keep up to date with episode releases.

This podcast was recorded on the unceded lands of the Taungurung, Wurundjeri and Boon Wurrung/Bunurong peoples of the Kulin Nation. We acknowledge that sovereignty of the lands on which this podcast was recorded was never ceded and pay our respects to the original storytellers of this land. 

How long do you have? In all seriousness, we love dads, and millennial dads are absolutely raising the bar on what it looks like to be a father. 

This chat is about society, and why dads seem to get praised for their parenting while mums are just… plain old parenting (and complaining about it on their hot mum walks, IYKYK). Our listeners had a lot to say on this one when we opened the polls up – 96% of you thought that dads do get more praise for parenting. 

Is it because of deeply entrenched traditional gender roles? Is it a general lack of care for mothers and motherhood? Is it mums being cast as the ‘default’ parent who are *just” doing what’s expected of them? Is it stereotyped language around dad’s being ‘hands on’ or ‘babysitting’ their own kids? 

Listen and hear from us, as well as you, our listeners, as we break this one down together. 

Studies/articles mentioned in this chat:

• Grattan Institute Research on parenting dynamics in early years.

• UN Data 2023 on Unpaid Domestic Work in Australia and NZ.

• Household, Income and Labour Dynamics in Australia (HILDA) Survey 2022 on housework division.

• Australian Survey of Social Attitudes 2022 on Traditional Gender Norms.

• University of Queensland study on gender pay gap and parenting roles.

Join our Growing community on instagram ⁠⁠⁠@growingupraisinguspodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to see photos of our weekly guests, behind the scenes moments, and keep up to date with episode releases.

This podcast was recorded on the unceded lands of the Taungurung, Wurundjeri and Boon Wurrung/Bunurong peoples of the Kulin Nation. We acknowledge that sovereignty of the lands on which this podcast was recorded was never ceded and pay our respects to the original storytellers of this land. 

Wow, this episode is so powerful and so precious. Hayley joins us on the podcast to share her story with Harry, her beautiful son who is now 4 years old and absolutely thriving.

Hayley and her partner, Jordan, welcomed their boy into the world at just 24 weeks old, weighing a tiny 700 grams. Harry spent the first 16 weeks of his life in the NICU after being born so prematurely, miraculously coming home on his due date. 

Hayley talks us through her entire story, from her joy at falling pregnant, to being hospitalised for premature labour and the anxiety-filled weeks that followed while medical staff tried to stop her labour progressing. She shares her birth with Harry, and the complications that arose for them both.

Hayley talks vulnerably on the day-to-day NICU experience with a micro-preemie - the milestones of Harry opening his eyes for the first time, buying his first clothes and blankets, and also the challenges of waiting for his lungs to mature, navigating pumping and feeding, and sitting by his cot without being able to cuddle him. 

Finally, Hayley and Jordan were able to bring Harry home and Hayley shares what these first few weeks and months looked like as they adapted to life outside of the hospital, and what has changed over the years as Harry continues to thrive. 

This is such a beautiful episode, about a beautiful family. Hayley speaks so openly of an experience that so few walk, and we are so grateful for her sharing her’s and Harry’s story. 

Links Hayley mentioned in the episode:

• Life’s Little Treasures Foundation

• Miracle Babies Foundation

Join our Growing community on instagram ⁠⁠⁠@growingupraisinguspodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to see photos of our weekly guests, behind the scenes moments, and keep up to date with episode releases.

This podcast was recorded on the unceded lands of the Taungurung, Wurundjeri and Boon Wurrung/Bunurong peoples of the Kulin Nation. We acknowledge that sovereignty of the lands on which this podcast was recorded was never ceded and pay our respects to the original storytellers of this land.

Ideally, we’d be raising our children in community – with others from different generations, backgrounds and skill-sets. Somebody to entertain the older kids, somebody to focus on feeding, to plan the day, to tend to the mothers in early postpartum, to hold sleeping babies, to help with laundry. In reality, most of us are doing all of this tending by ourselves, and mostly in isolation. 

In this episode, Alice (@themodern.doula) joins the podcast to chat about all things modern day village. Alice is a doula and mother to two, so perfectly positioned to share how we can create (and contribute to) meaningful support systems in motherhood when they may not be available or close by. 

This episode is part of our How Do I series, a segment of the pod where we unpack questions that have been on our minds. This series has been designed to answer your targeted questions, and leave you with practical takeaways. 

Join our Growing community on instagram ⁠⁠⁠@growingupraisinguspodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to see photos of our weekly guests, behind the scenes moments, and keep up to date with episode releases.

This podcast was recorded on the unceded lands of the Taungurung, Wurundjeri and Boon Wurrung/Bunurong peoples of the Kulin Nation. We acknowledge that sovereignty of the lands on which this podcast was recorded was never ceded and pay our respects to the original storytellers of this land. 

Today’s episode is a playback episode from the early days of the podcast – when it was run solely by Chelsea. In this important conversation, Chels was joined by Cleo (she/her), who is now a mother to two beautiful boys. 

Cleo spoke with Chels back in 2023, just after her first son had turned one. Before becoming parents, Cleo and her husband lived busy lives socialising, DJing, and wining and dining their way around Geelong. 

Having always struggled with her mental health, she thought postnatal depression may be likely, so Cleo put plans in place for pregnancy and postpartum support. She was in the Midwife Group Program, had a planned c-section organised to ease her anxiety, great support from family and friends, a freezer full of food, regular appointments with a psychologist and a baby that mostly slept at night but, Cleo says that even then her mental health still declined.

In our chat, she speaks candidly about her experiences with postnatal depression, anxiety and OCD, and intrusive thoughts. She also speaks openly on her positive and life changing experience of being admitted to the Mother Baby Unit, where things started to gently improve. This is such an important topic – thank you so much, Cleo, for sharing your story with us.

CW: Postnatal Depression, Anxiety and OCD, Intrusive thoughts, Admission to Mother Baby Unit (MBU).

*Please note that the episode involves mention of specific intrusive thoughts from 41.50-43.56*

If the contents of the episode bring anything up for you, we encourage you to visit the support services listed below:

Beyond Blue: ⁠https://www.beyondblue.org.au⁠

PANDA: ⁠https://panda.org.au/⁠

Lifeline: https://www.lifeline.org.au/

Join our community on instagram ⁠⁠⁠@growingupraisinguspodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to see photos of our weekly guests, behind the scenes moments, and keep up to date with episode releases.

The podcast theme music was written by Hagan Mathews and produced at ⁠⁠⁠@sleeplessfootscray⁠⁠⁠.

This podcast was recorded on the unceded lands of the Taungurung, Wurundjeri and Boon Wurrung/Bunurong peoples of the Kulin Nation. We acknowledge that sovereignty of the lands on which this podcast was recorded was never ceded and pay our respects to the original storytellers of this land. 

In today’s episode we are joined by the incredible Zoe, who shares her experience with egg freezing here in Naarm/Melbourne. Zoe shares her experience from the perspective of a single woman in her 30s living with PCOS. She talks us through the decision to undertake egg retrieval, the process itself, practicalities of the procedure and how she was feeling along the way. Zoe also discusses her experience with ovarian hyperstimulation, a complication that can occur following egg retrieval.

Zoe is so open and thoughtful in this episode, and we hope you enjoy listening. You can’t really know the ins and outs of an experience like this unless you’ve gone through it, and we’re so grateful to Zoe for sharing her own journey. 

You can also find Zoe @orgpsych.adventures.

Please note this episode cannot be considered as medical advice and only represents Zoe’s views and experiences. Please know Zoe does also mention the number of eggs collected if this is a sensitive topic for you.

Resources mentioned:

• Knocked Up podcast

• Monash IVF free fertility nurse on call service

  
  

*We recorded this episode before the recent event involving an incorrect embryo transfer occurred in QLD, Australia. We are sending you so much love and care if this news impacts you*

Join our community on instagram ⁠⁠⁠@growingupraisinguspodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to see photos of our weekly guests, behind the scenes moments, and keep up to date with episode releases.

This podcast was recorded on the unceded lands of the Taungurung, Wurundjeri and Boon Wurrung/Bunurong peoples of the Kulin Nation. We acknowledge that sovereignty of the lands on which this podcast was recorded was never ceded and pay our respects to the original storytellers of this land. 

We are so excited to bring you this episode with Mikaela Ladocki. We had a beautiful chat with Mikaela all about her motherhood story. She speaks on her births and postpartum experiences with her two children, postpartum during covid, navigating breastfeeding challenges and choosing to formula feed, navigating the return to work after parental leave, showing up authentically on social media, and how she prioritises herself in motherhood even when it’s hard.  

It’s a beautiful chatty episode – Mikaela is a joy to listen to and shares the ins and outs, ups and downs of her story. We hope you love listening. 

Please be aware towards the middle to end of this chat, we do discuss weight loss and weight loss in postpartum. 

Mikaela's instagram is @mikaelaladocki.

Mikaela's Tik Tok is @mikaelaladocki.

Join our community on instagram ⁠⁠⁠@growingupraisinguspodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to see photos of our weekly guests, behind the scenes moments, and keep up to date with episode releases.

This podcast was recorded on the unceded lands of the Taungurung, Wurundjeri and Boon Wurrung/Bunurong peoples of the Kulin Nation. We acknowledge that sovereignty of the lands on which this podcast was recorded was never ceded and pay our respects to the original storytellers of this land. 

In today’s snappy ep we are discussing the “7 types of rest” through the lens of motherhood. Have you heard of them?

This is such an important conversation for mothers and new parents, when our most obvious form of rest (AKA sleep) goes out the window. We chat through the 7 types and how they can show up in motherhood.

The 7 types of rest were identified by Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith, a US physician. She describes ways to incorporate rest and restoration in these 7 different aspects of our lives: physical, mental, emotional, social, sensory, creative, and spiritual. 

Join our community on instagram ⁠⁠⁠@growingupraisinguspodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to see photos of our weekly guests, behind the scenes moments, and keep up to date with episode releases.

This podcast was recorded on the unceded lands of the Taungurung, Wurundjeri and Boon Wurrung/Bunurong peoples of the Kulin Nation. We acknowledge that sovereignty of the lands on which this podcast was recorded was never ceded and pay our respects to the original storytellers of this land. 

Take the 7 types of rest quiz: https://www.restquiz.com/quiz/rest-quiz-test/

More information on Dr Dalton-Smith and the 7 types of rest.

*when we say 133 days, we mean 133 nights - the sleep deprivation is bad but not that bad!

Today's ep is with Jane of @doingmotherhood. Jane is a mother of two and a mental health occupational therapist specialising in matrescence and the perinatal period, currently working at @themindfulbirthmovement. 

Jane joins us to discuss:

This is such an insightful episode. Jane describes how motherhood is unique because most of us are really thrown into parenthood without any real opportunity to learn or practice the skills and tasks that come with mothering. It makes sense then, that our sense of self and confidence may be rocked through the experience, and that this can have flow-on impacts to our functioning. Jane shares why this all occurs and what we can do about it. 

Jane offers the newly launched ‘Birth of Us’ antenatal program - a program designed to help parents step into parenthood with confidence and practical knowledge. 

Resources, counselling and support are also available at The Mindful Birth Movement.

Join our community on instagram ⁠⁠⁠@growingupraisinguspodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to see photos of our weekly guests, behind the scenes moments, and keep up to date with episode releases.

This podcast was recorded on the unceded lands of the Taungurung, Wurundjeri and Boon Wurrung/Bunurong peoples of the Kulin Nation. We acknowledge that sovereignty of the lands on which this podcast was recorded was never ceded and pay our respects to the original storytellers of this land. 

Welcome to the first episode of our new segment – How Do I – a series where we unpack questions that have been on our minds – sometimes with wonderful experts, sometimes between us, your co-hosts, and often with experiences shared by you, our beautiful listeners. This series has been designed to answer your targeted questions, and leave you with practical takeaways. 

In our first How Do I, we are joined by a return guest, Caitlin, for a timely ep on co-regulation as we head into the Victorian school holidays! 

Caitlin (@unmaskednaturopath) is a naturopath, nutritionist, and mother of two boys. Caitlin and Chels chat all things co-regulation with your child – the importance of co-regulation, what it actually is and how we can support our nervous systems as parents, and co-regulate with our children. As an AuDHD mother to a son with cerebral palsy and autism, Caitlin also shares her insights on co-regulation in a neurodiverse family.

Join our community on instagram ⁠⁠⁠@growingupraisinguspodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to see photos of our weekly guests, behind the scenes moments, and keep up to date with episode releases.

This podcast was recorded on the unceded lands of the Taungurung, Wurundjeri and Boon Wurrung/Bunurong peoples of the Kulin Nation. We acknowledge that sovereignty of the lands on which this podcast was recorded was never ceded and pay our respects to the original storytellers of this land.