I was filling out my TEDx application when I caught myself doing it again. “What category would your talk fall into?” My brain immediately went to “I don’t know”, right before I proceeded to explain exactly what I do and who I help.

That’s the pattern. “I don’t know” becomes an exit door, a way to soften the blow of stepping into something that makes us visible. But everything that comes after “I don’t know” is actually a belief, whether it’s true or not, whether it serves us or not.

In this video, I break down why this protective reflex kicks in when we’re facing uncomfortable feelings, imposter syndrome, or fear of success. I share my own messy middle of working through the fear of being fully seen on a TEDx stage, and I walk you through how to sit with that discomfort instead of outrunning it.

This is me doing the work in real time, and bringing you along for the process.

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The JP Mom Program reached out years ago. I wasn’t ready then. My son was waiting for a transplant, life was lifing. Years later I finally committed, got waitlisted, got in and almost immediately felt out of place. I’d already lived every lesson. But I stayed and while I was pouring into the other women in the program, the facilitator, the cohort, all of them started reflecting something back to me: you should be coaching, you should be speaking, you sound like a therapist. The program didn’t teach me the material. It handed me the mirror…

full story here

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We celebrate women for being strong and silent, but stopping the tears isn’t the same as healing the wound. In this episode, we’re breaking down the dangerous difference between true emotional recovery and simply getting better at hiding your pain.

what we cover:

- the myth of “quiet healing” and why bleeding privately is still bleeding

- how we confuse silencing our pain with finding peace

- when “setting boundaries” is actually just avoidance and self-deception

If you’re tired of just surviving and want to know what real growth actually requires, this is for you.

Ready to start your healing journey? Read my book “the mind reset” and connect with me on threads: @therealashlimccoy

#healingjourney #themindreset #traumarecovery

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You already know what’s wrong. You can name the pattern. You can see the cycle. And you’re still stuck in it. Everybody keeps telling you how self-aware you are like that’s supposed to fix something. It doesn’t.

In this episode I talk about why knowing isn’t enough, what actually has to shift underneath the awareness, and what happened when I realized the tools I was using to heal weren’t built for someone who already understood the problem.

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If you have to ask how to submit to a man who isn’t leading, that’s your answer.

Nine times out of ten, the woman who built him is not the woman who benefits. So why are we still having this conversation?

Your desire for a relationship should never outweigh your standards for yourself. Stop shrinking your standards to fit a man who isn’t showing up.

Stop building men who aren’t ready. Find the ones who are already ready to build with you.

This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit growngirlconfessions.substack.com

This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit growngirlconfessions.substack.com