Hey everyone, welcome to episode number 30 of "Guidelines." I'm Andrew Robinson, and I'm thrilled to be here on our 30th episode. When we started this podcast, I never imagined we'd make it this far. Your questions and comments have been instrumental in shaping our content, and I'm grateful for your support. So let's dive into something exciting today.
We're going to discuss a concept that's incredibly powerful and relevant to communication. It's the distinction between "how" and "what." This concept will tie together everything we've discussed so far and offer new insights. I'll introduce the idea in this episode and delve deeper into its applications in subsequent episodes.
First, let's understand the basic premise. Imagine reading a transcript of this episode. The words you see are the "what." They're the content, the data. But how I communicate those words, the tone, the emphasis, the delivery—that's the "how."
For example, picture us in a meeting. I ask you to close the door. The words, "Can you close the door?" are the "what." But if I say it passively or assertively, the "how" changes. Interestingly, studies show that the "how" of communication carries about 90-93% of its significance, while the "what" is only about 7-10%.
This is crucial because as humans, we tend to fixate on the "what." Think about arguments you've had. Often, they revolve around trivial "what" details. But focusing on the "how" can transform conversations. It's like a communication chiropractor, realigning our interactions.
Now, let's apply this to public speaking. I used to obsess over the content of my presentations, but nailing the "what" isn't enough. If I don't focus on the "how," the delivery, I'm just talking at people, not with them. This applies to all interactions. When you overemphasize the "what," you hinder others from reaching their own conclusions.
Consider the movie producer Christopher Guest. He creates films with structured improvisation. Similarly, we need structure and freedom in our communication. It's like having note cards for each interaction. You know how it starts and ends, but the journey is created in the moment. This approach turns presentations into unique, co-created experiences.
Remember, future-oriented voices tend to wing it, while present-oriented voices can be overly structured. Knowing your tendency helps you strike a balance. This concept has transformed my coaching, workshops, and interactions. I create a structure, but within it, there's room for spontaneity.
So, observe your tendencies and where you might overemphasize the "what." Whether at work or home, be aware of the "how." Start applying this concept to create engaging, memorable experiences. Stay tuned for more practical applications in upcoming episodes.
In closing, remember that taking care of yourself is essential. Just as you're the most important variable in change, self-care grounds you. Prioritize it in both your personal and professional life.
Until next time, take care, everyone.