Guiding Frequency

🎙️ GUIDING FX — EPISODE 28 
Podcast Show Notes
Episode Title: Enough
What if being enough had nothing to do with how much we could carry?
Episode Description
How much of your life are you spending trying to prove that you're enough?
We measure our productivity, our accomplishments, the love we give, and how much we can carry before we finally break. Somewhere along the way, we can begin to believe that being useful is the same as being worthy, that rest must be earned, and that love means giving more than we have.
But what if there is another way?
In Episode 28 of Guiding FX, I'm sharing some deeply personal reflections on facing the possibility of death, changing my relationship with fear, and discovering that I don't have to keep carrying everything that brought me here.
I'll take you above the clouds, where the sun is shining even when the world below is dark and gloomy. I'll share a childhood memory of white toast with butter and jam that reminded me of the beautiful feeling of being loved and belonging to my family.
And I'll explore what happens when we stop protecting ourselves from every possible disappointment and begin trusting that, whatever happens, we will have our own backs.
This is a conversation about family, inherited pain, belonging, self-trust, and the freedom that comes when we stop trying so hard to be someone and start allowing ourselves to live.
Because we can honour the people who came before us without carrying all their pain.
We can love people without taking responsibility for their choices.
We can give without abandoning ourselves.
And we can enjoy our lives without waiting until everything is done.
I've learned how to survive. Now I'm ready to thrive.
Maybe it's time for you, too.
In This Episode, We Explore
• The pressure to be enough: Why do we measure our worth by how much we accomplish, give, and endure?
• Above the clouds: How changing our perspective can help us see beyond fear and darkness.
• Choosing a different road: What happens when we recognize an old pattern and decide we're ready for another way.
• Putting down inherited pain: Honouring our mothers, grandmothers, and those who came before us without continuing to carry their struggles.
• The toast that reminded me I was loved: A childhood memory that brought me back to the feeling of family, safety, and belonging.
• Opening our hearts again: Learning that we don't need guarantees about other people's behaviour when we trust ourselves to show up for us.
• Measuring work against joy: Why rest, laughter, and fun deserve a place in our lives before everything is finished.
• Moving from surviving to thriving: Making choices that reflect the life we want to live today.
Questions to Reflect On
As you listen, consider these questions:
1. Where in my life am I still trying to prove that I'm enough?
2. What am I carrying that I no longer need to carry?
3. Have I confused being strong with never needing help?
4. Am I protecting myself from disappointment at the expense of connection?
5. What would change if I trusted myself to have my own back?
6. Do I allow myself to have fun, or do I believe I have to earn it?
7. What is one thing I could put down this week to make more room for joy?
You don't need to answer every question today. Sometimes, simply noticing is where change begins.
A Few Words to Take With You
I am enough.
I don't have to finish everything.
I don't have to carry everyone.
I don't have to protect myself from every possible disappointment.
I can honour where I've come from without remaining there.
I can love deeply without abandoning myself.
I can choose fun, rest, connection, and peace.
I have learned how to survive.
Now, I'm ready to thrive.

Short Description for Podcast Platforms
What if you stopped measuring your worth by how much you could carry? In Episode 28 of Guiding FX, we explore inherited pain, family, belonging, self-trust, and the freedom of choosing joy. Through a deeply personal story of facing mortality and rediscovering love, we ask what it means to stop surviving and start thriving. Because you don't have to break yourself to prove you're enough.

Podcast 27: What Do You Need- When Your Inner Bully Shows Up
What if creating a more peaceful life starts with creating a more hospitable environment inside yourself?
In this episode, we explore what it means to become a kinder place for yourself to land—especially when guilt, fear, shame, self-doubt, or your inner bully starts taking over.
We talk about:
• What a “hospitable environment” really means—and why it isn't just about your physical surroundings.
• How the way we speak to ourselves can create either safety or stress.
• Small shifts that can help us move from guilt toward spaciousness.
• Turning fear into curiosity, fun, and exploration.
• What to do when your inner bully shows up.
• The simple question that helped me finally settle after a difficult mental weekend: “What do you need?”
• Why we don't always need to fix ourselves—we sometimes just need to listen.
• How questions can create space for possibilities we can't currently see.
• Becoming more open to receiving goodness, connection, ease, trust, and possibility.
• Creating a relationship with ourselves that allows growth instead of restriction.
At the end of the episode, I'll guide you through a series of questions designed not to be answered immediately, but to simply float around with you and create space for possibility.
You don't have to know the whole plan.
You don't have to have all the answers.
You can simply become a little more available to what might be possible.
A question for you this week:
What would it feel like to make your internal environment a little more hospitable?
Take a breath.
Relax your body.
And see what happens.

Guiding Frequency — Episode 26
Care Without Carrying
This episode started with a painting—and a simple realization: I was choosing colors I didn't even like.
As I painted, I realized how much this reflected my life right now.
This has been a heavy week. I've been caring for my mom and dad after a family medical emergency, putting many of my own needs and priorities on hold. Even my sore shoulder felt like another reminder to pay attention to what I'm carrying.
The painting reminded me that choosing for myself matters too.
It doesn't have to be a big choice. It can be a color you love, a moment of rest, asking for help, saying no, or doing something simply because it brings you joy.
In this episode, I share two simple daily practices for changing the pattern of over-giving:
• Pause before you give. Ask, “Do I genuinely want to give this, or do I feel like I have to?”
• Give yourself one thing before giving to someone else. Ask, “What do I need right now?”
You don't have to become less generous. You can learn to give from choice while staying connected to yourself.
I can care without carrying.
 I can give without abandoning myself.
 I am allowed to choose.
Maybe today, you can choose the color you like.

Kari's book: "The Frequency of Life "

Before the Dust Settles
What happens when we stop judging ourselves in the middle of the process?
In this episode of Guiding Frequency, Kari reflects on a chalk pastel drawing, grief, and the unsettling space between what has been and what is becoming. Through the metaphor of dust floating before it settles, we explore allowing life to be unfinished, breathing through uncertainty, and finding peace without needing everything to make sense.
A gentle invitation to slow down, notice what is here, and trust your own rhythm.

Kari's  book, "The Frequency of Life "

Guiding Frequency – Episode 24: The Power of Perspective: Focus on Your Inner Home
This weekend I spent time with my family, and those conversations brought up so many insights, healing moments, and new realizations. Sometimes the people who know us the longest also become our greatest mirrors.
In this episode, I'm sharing three powerful perspective shifts that helped me move from blame to connection and from living outside myself to coming home.
We explore:
• Why blame keeps us stuck in loops—and how looking inward creates freedom.
• How honoring both your perspective and someone else's can create deeper connection.
• Why our focus matters. Are we chasing the finish line, or are we choosing to fully live each day?
I also share two beautiful metaphors that came to me:
• Betsy following a scent—sometimes life isn't about rushing to a destination. It's about staying curious, trusting the path, and experiencing the journey.
• Radar calling us home—our inner self is always inviting us back. When we become caught in distractions, conversations, and everyone else's energy, we can lose connection with ourselves. Coming home to our inner world allows us to reconnect with our own frequency and show up more fully for others.
Reflection Exercise
Grab a piece of paper and a pen.
Take a few slow, deep breaths.
Draw a dot in the middle of the page.
Around the dot, draw a circle.
Now begin drawing squiggly lines that move outward from the circle and then return back to the dot. Continue creating different lines, always returning to the center before heading back out again.
When you're finished, take a moment to notice your drawing.
What do you see?
For me, the center kept wanting to expand, and I found myself drawing more circles around it. It made me wonder if the center represents us, while the circle represents how we hold ourselves, our boundaries, or our sense of home.
The squiggly lines become our experiences in the world. We go out, we connect, we experience life... and then we return home to ourselves before going back out again.
Every drawing will be different—just like every person's journey.
My invitation for you this week is simple:
Take yourself with you wherever you go.
Come home to yourself often.
When you're connected to your own frequency, your relationships naturally become more authentic, grounded, and meaningful.

How do people talk to you? We cannot control how people talk to us. We can only can control our reaction. The blame victim scenario does not work. It keeps creating more of the same, how do we talk to ourselves and others?  How we talk to ourselves affects how we talk to others , and it usually controls how we talk to others.
1. Step back , be quiet , acknowledge where you are and observe.
2. Help yourself first: use breathing techniques or grounding techniques Or any other technique that , you know , to calm yourself down and allow yourself to be out of fight and flight mode.
4. Organize yourself, replacing the old self with a new, healthy self and the old replacing the old patterns with the new healthy patterns.And this helps you accept your new way of being and doing.
5. Welcome your new self.This is all about confidence boost to do this.You may look in the mirror and say to yourself.Hey , I am so happy with you. Or I love you very much.

The practice for today is to zoom out and give yourself space and be further away from all of the things that do not align with you. 
Taking a few minutes to breathe and be with yourself gives you more confidence and that you are on the right path and listening to your guiding Frequency.

Podcast 22: Finding Joy by Coming Home to Yourself

In this episode, I reflect on the wisdom of our inner child and the quiet ways joy continues to show up throughout our lives.

We explore what it means to notice the echoes of love, joy, and abundance—even during difficult seasons—and how shifting our perspective can help us reconnect with hope.

I also share a story about a meaningful friendship, the changing nature of relationships, and why the most important relationship we nurture is the one we have with ourselves.

Together, we reflect on questions like:

What would your inner child want you to remember?
What would your 90-year-old self encourage you to do?
Where are the echoes of joy already present in your life?
Who do you want to become, and who do you want beside you on that journey?

The episode closes with a simple invitation to reconnect with yourself through your breath and your senses, creating space to notice the joy that has been there all along.

Podcast 21 Comfort Curiosity and Celebration

In this podcast Kari explores the wonder and awe of small Celebration. As well as questioning comfort, does it bring pain or can Curiosity allow wonder and awe. Peace can come from being in these moments. Following your instincts of having family with you to celebrate and having a peaceful nap, in this we can find wonder. Kari reads from "The Joy of Loving" by Mother Teresa as well as from her own book, "The Frequency of Life . "   These three excerpts seem to bring the whole session together. 

Some of the things touched on today:

*Loving you first

*breathe into your life

*comfort may not be what we are looking for. What about Curiosity?

Books

"The Joy of Loving" Mother Teresa 

"The Frequency of Life " Kari Beyer 

Guiding Frequency – Episode 20 “When Fear Stops Leading: The Art of Expansion”
In this reflective episode, I share insights from recent walks in the woods and the unexpected lessons that emerged from staying on familiar paths.

When flooded trails limited how far I could travel, I discovered something surprising: although I was covering less distance, I was seeing more. Familiar places revealed new details, new beauty, and new perspectives.

This experience became a powerful metaphor for life.

Many of us measure growth by movement, achievement, or how far we've progressed. But what if expansion isn't always about going farther? What if some of the deepest growth happens exactly where we are?

In this episode, I explore:

• How fear can quietly shape our decisions and shrink our world
• The moment I recognized a fear-based pattern in my own life
• Why courage doesn't require the absence of fear
• What nature teaches us about change, patience, and presence
• The difference between experiencing an emotion and carrying a story about it
• How limitations can sometimes reveal unexpected opportunities for growth
• A simple drawing exercise to help visualize expansion in a new way

Together we'll reflect on the beliefs, fears, and experiences that shape our paths, while exploring how new perspectives, choices, and moments of courage can create richness around the life we're already living.

If you've been feeling stuck, restricted, or uncertain about your next step, this episode offers a gentle reminder that growth isn't always measured by distance traveled. Sometimes our horizons expand not by moving farther, but by seeing more deeply.

Take a moment to slow down, breathe, and notice what may already be growing around you.

Thank you for listening.

Until next time, may you continue finding your guiding frequency, one step, one choice, and one moment of courage at a time.
"THE FREQUENCY OF LIFE"

PODCAST 19 – Truth Without Armor

This week was full of conversations, emotional clarity, unexpected connections, and a deeper understanding of truth.

One of the biggest realizations I had was how often I deliver truth through sarcasm, humor, or “realism.” I’ve spent years approaching life with this energy of:
“Tell the truth. Don’t keep secrets. Life is rough.”

But this week I noticed something important:
Sometimes sarcasm is armor.

When I softened my approach and allowed myself to simply be present with difficult truths instead of performing them, I could actually listen more deeply — to others and to myself.

I share a deeply personal experience of finally speaking openly with my nonverbal mother about something I had been carrying for a long time. Even without words from her, the conversation felt healing and less painful than I expected.

I also talk about an unexpected encounter with a man living with dementia who asked me for help while driving around confused and lost. What unfolded became one of those sacred human moments where kindness, patience, and presence mattered more than having answers.

This episode explores:
• Truth without performance
• Softness versus emotional armor
• Boundaries and connection
• Grief, presence, and the body
• Higher frequency living
• Hope, belonging, and trust
• The idea that love itself can become the boundary

A major takeaway from this week:
Maybe the goal is not building harder walls.
Maybe the goal is becoming so aligned with love, truth, and peace that your energy naturally protects you.

This episode also includes:
• A grounding visualization practice
• Breathwork for emotional clarity
• Reflection prompts
• Homework for practicing gentle honesty

Homework for the week:
Tell one truth softly.
Without sarcasm.
Without overexplaining.
Without armor.

Just honesty.

And notice how your body responds.

"The Frequency of Life: a collection of wordart and artwork" book