It can be really tough to talk about guilt. No one wants to focus on a mistake they’ve made, and it can be especially hard to own and admit when we’ve done something wrong if we’re wracked with shame and beating up on ourselves.   But guilt can be a very healthy emotion when it comes from The Adult Chair — when it’s a path to healing rather than self-shaming. In this episode, I walk through the ways guilt serves us and how it can be a tool to let us know when we need to repair relationships. I’m also breaking down how you can tell when guilt is irrational or unnecessary and how to release guilt once you’ve made amends.   Listen to discover:  The difference between shame and guilt When guilt is healthy and when it is unhealthy Steps for working through guilt How to (truly) apologize and repair a relationship How to stop ruminating on guilt and move forward Recognizing false guilt    I see so many people who struggle with unhealthy guilt, whether they feel guilty for something they didn’t do or can’t forgive themselves when they’ve done something wrong...especially during the holidays and this pandemic. Guilt should never be all-consuming like this...and it doesn’t have to be when you:    Own it Apologize Take action and Let it go from your healthy Adult Chair    "There's a big difference between guilt and shame. People often fall into shame and label it as guilt." - Michelle Chalfant   "It's a choice to continue to beat up on self." - Michelle Chalfant   "It's ok if other people are upset and disappointed if you're making a choice to protect yourself and your family." - Michelle Chalfant   Resources StoryWorth Storyworth.com/adult $10 off your first purchase   More Adult Chair The Adult Chair Website https://theadultchair.com    The Adult Chair Membership https://theadultchair.com/membership/   The Adult Chair Workshop https://theadultchair.com/events/   The Adult Chair Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/   Stay Connected Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/ The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant   *** EPISODE CREDITS: If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment. He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com

239: Guilt from The Adult Chair

In The Adult Chair, Michelle Chalfant applies her holistic approach to healing and transformation as a foundation for better understanding our relationship with ourselves and our relationship with stress, anxiety, depression, physical health, self-love, peace, emotional balance, and how our understanding of ourselves impacts the most important relationships in our lives.

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  Lately, there’s been something stirring in my soul.     I don’t know exactly what it is yet, but I feel like it’s going to be BIG – like something new is coming, and I need to go inward and listen for what it is.      Have you ever felt this way? When this happens, I believe it’s our soul tugging at us, trying to tell us something about our mission and purpose on the planet.     And I have made it my intention to always listen when the soul calls.     It’s something I like to call “soul alignment” — a practice of going within and listening to the soul to get clarity on who we are and our illuminated path.     In this episode, I’m teaching you how to tune into the voice of your soul (the part of you that is seated squarely in the Adult Chair), why this is so important and how to clear the blocks that stand between us and our souls.     The five simple practices I share in today’s podcast will help you hear your soul’s whispers and nudges, know and feel the next steps on your path and take aligned action — not from the Adolescent Chair but from the Adult Chair.     Listen to discover:    The power of “soul alignment”    The importance of “deep listening”    How the ego gets in the way of listening    5 steps to listen to your soul    How to unlock greater passion, purpose and peace     The ego is rooted in fear, lives in the past and future and often screams at us in a loud voice. The soul lives in the present moment and speaks to us in a whisper, which is why we have to get still to hear it.      This episode will help you get out of your mind and into your heart, go inward and listen deeply to find your true purpose and guidance from within.      “When we align with our soul, we are guided.” - Michelle Chalfant      "When you're aligned with your soul, even the things that feel – to the ego – bad, what we find is that these things are the most beautiful gifts that we could have ever received." - Michelle Chalfant      “What your soul has in store for you is unlike anyone else on the entire planet.” - Michelle Chalfant      “Meditation is simply a practice that brings you into the present moment.” - Michelle Chalfant      “You’re going to feel nudges or feel pulled or moved to do things. That’s your soul. Pay attention.” - Michelle Chalfant       “Your soul’s not going to talk to you from your head. Your soul’s going to talk to you through your heart.” - Michelle Chalfant      “Ego lives in past and future only. Soul lives in present moment only.” - Michelle Chalfant      MORE ADULT CHAIR     The Adult Chair®  Website  https://theadultchair.com        Instagram   https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant      Facebook  https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/      The Adult Chair®  Facebook Group  https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/      YouTube  https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant  

403: How To Listen to Your Soul

  What if the secret to better sleep, less inflammation and reduced pain was as simple as walking barefoot in the grass?     Both the earth and our bodies have an electrical charge, and “grounding” (or “earthing”) refers to the practice of connecting our bodies to the earth – keeping the body’s charge at an optimal balance and unlocking tremendous health benefits.     If you think this sounds like something made up by a crunchy tree hugger, think again: the father of grounding, Clint Ober, is actually a cable guy.     Clint had a strong connection with nature from growing up on a ranch out West and great knowledge about how electrical currents work from his career in the cable industry.      One day, he saw a group of tourists all wearing thick rubber-soled shoes (a non-conductive material), and it hit him:     Could our modern lifestyle be keeping us from grounding into the earth?     This has led to a new frontier of health research, with very promising findings about the impact of grounding on inflammation, stress, autoimmune disease and more. It’s the real deal!      I had the chance to talk to the man himself, Clint Ober, about how grounding works in the body, why our society is so ungrounded, the many, many health benefits of grounding and how anyone can start grounding – for FREE and today.     Listen to discover:    What earthing and grounding is    Why our bodies need to be connected to the earth's electrical charge    How grounding works in our immune system    The positive effect grounding can have on pain and chronic disease     How you can start grounding today     Grounding is so simple – it literally just requires going outside with bare feet (or conductive shoes).     And unlike so many health hacks or miracle cures on the market, this isn’t something to be added to your health…instead, it’s a return.      A return to nature, our design and the natural harmony that occurs when we’re connected to our bodies and the earth.       "The earth is basically electrical." - Clint Ober      "We can heal these illnesses we're walking around with by grounding." - Michelle Chalfant       "We've totally insulated ourselves from the earth when we're wearing shoes." - Clint Ober       "You can't have inflammation in a grounded object." - Clint Ober      "As soon as you get grounded, then you have the earth's energy all around your body, and it pushes away all of this environmental stuff." - Clint Ober      "If you want to take 10 years off your [age], just go outdoors and stick your bare feet on the grass." - Clint Ober      "The body is always striving to heal itself. Always. We are in the way." - Michelle Chalfant     LINKS & RESOURCES      Clint Ober Earthing and Grounding Products  https://www.earthing.com/     Earthing Studies  https://earthinginstitute.net/      Earthing Movie  https://www.earthingmovie.com/     MORE ADULT CHAIR     The Adult Chair®  Website  https://theadultchair.com        Instagram   https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant      Facebook  https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/      The Adult Chair®  Facebook Group  https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/      YouTube  https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant  

402: Healing Through Grounding with Clint Ober

  Have you ever gotten a “gut feeling” that something was going to happen…and then it did? Or sensed that someone wasn’t trustworthy or that you shouldn’t move forward with a decision?      This is your intuition at work!     Intuition is something we all possess, and something we’ve all undeniably experienced, but how it works remains largely a mystery. Is it something spiritual? Psychological? Biological?      Laura Day grew up feeling like her brain was “different” in some way. She knew she had ADD and a number of head injuries, but she didn’t know she had an uncanny intuition until one day, she saw a television program about ESP research. She immediately  related to it, picked up the phone, called the researchers and said, “I can do that.” For years, she participated in research studies about intuition and how it works.     Since then, Laura has built a high-profile career using her intuition for large companies and organizations and teaching others how to develop and tap into their innate intuition. A math, science and data nerd, Laura had no preconceived notions about intuition, which has given her a practical, grounded approach to learning and teaching about this ability.     In this episode, Laura shares her insights into what intuition actually is, how to tell the difference between intuition and fear, how to enhance your intuition and why intuition alone isn’t enough – we must direct it towards action.      If you’ve ever been curious about how those gut feelings and seemingly “sixth senses” work, you’re going to love this episode!      Listen to discover:    Whether or not we’re all born intuitive    How to tell the difference between intuition and fear    Why we all need to learn how to use our intuition     How to enhance and direct your intuition     The power of moving from intuition to action      Laura believes intuition is less a sixth sense and more an extension of the five senses we already have. But like a muscle, we have to exercise it and develop it.     When we learn to connect more deeply with ourselves and pay attention to what’s going on around us using all five senses, it’s amazing what we can uncover – and how that can help us direct our lives and relationships towards greater wisdom and wellbeing.     “We are all born intuitive.” - Laura Day      "If it's a persistent fear, it's not intuition. Intuition is accurate, immediate and actionable." - Laura Day      "It's a misnomer that intuition is a sixth sense. It's not. It's an extension of all of your senses in time and in space." - Laura Day      “So many people stay stuck, and they don’t realize that they are powerful creators and that they can get their way out of it.” - Michelle Chalfant       "The first thing you do to open your intuition or direct it effectively is you have goals." - Laura Day      "Intuition will show it to you, but it won't fix it for you." - Laura Day     LINKS & RESOURCES      Laura Day Website   https://lauraday.com/       Laura Day Instagram   https://www.instagram.com/lauradayintuit/      MORE ADULT CHAIR     The Adult Chair®  Website  https://theadultchair.com        Instagram   https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant      Facebook  https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/      The Adult Chair®  Facebook Group  https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/      YouTube  https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant  

401: Practical Intuition with Laura Day

  2023 is behind us, and 2024 is here! The new year represents a clean slate and new chapter where you can begin manifesting the year – the life – you want.      I believe that, as creative beings, we are always in “creation mode.” Like gravity, we can’t turn the laws of manifestation on and off – they just are.      So, then the question becomes:  What do you really want? And what is it that you are creating with every thought you have and word you speak?     In this episode, I’m giving you everything you need to get more intentional with your creations this year, whether you have a dream you’re finally ready to manifest or there’s something you want to change in your current reality, beginning with the words you’re telling yourself.     We’re covering four keys for POWERFUL manifestation, how to tune your “energetic dial” into the “radio frequency” of your deepest desires and a 10-step process to help you clear the unconscious beliefs that are blocking your creations…this is the missing piece to manifestation that no one talks about but makes ALL the difference!     Listen to discover:    How manifestation works    Getting clear on what it is you truly want    Why things aren’t manifesting in your life    The missing piece of manifestation that no one talks about     A 10-step process to clear blocks and barriers to manifesting    Four powerful keys to manifestation      You’re going to want to get pen and paper out for this one, because I’m giving you all the details, all the nuances and all the secrets to manifestation that I’ve learned over the years – with real-life examples to help you begin applying these principles today.     Whatever it is you want in 2024 (and even if you’re still figuring that out), this episode is step 1 to finding freedom from limiting beliefs, clearing unconscious blocks and changing the trajectory of your life this year.     “We are beings that are able to create. And we create our reality with every thought we have.” - Michelle Chalfant     "Once you clear your unconscious blocks, then you can attract in your creation." - Michelle Chalfant     "We have to have what I call a 'consistent manifesting mindset.'" - Michelle Chalfant     "Everything is possible – everything and anything. You just have to line up with it." - Michelle Chalfant     "The more you focus and expect and live as if this creation is coming in and already here, the faster it will come to you." - Michelle Chalfant     "I promise you can get and create the life that you want. Your thoughts and your spoken words are powerful. So, be really mindful of what you're saying." - Michelle Chalfant     "We're always in creation mode. It does not turn itself on and off, just like gravity. So, if you don't like your reality, you do have the power to change it with your thoughts." - Michelle Chalfant     LINKS & RESOURCES       2024 The Adult Chair®  Coaching Certification  -  Doors Close January 5!   https://theadultchair.com/certification     MORE ADULT CHAIR     The Adult Chair®  Website  https://theadultchair.com        The Adult Chair®  Coaching Certification  https://theadultchair.com/certification      STAY CONNECTED     Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant      Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/      The Adult Chair®  Facebook Group:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/      YouTube:  https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant  

400: The Art of Manifestation: How To Manifest Your Dream Life

  Kute Blackson is no stranger to miracles. Growing up the son of a spiritual leader in Ghana, Africa, Kute witnessed healings and transformation that were nothing short of awe-inspiring.     But when he realized it wasn’t his calling to take over his father’s ministry in the way his family expected, it led him on a challenging and transformational journey of his own: one in which he discovered the magic of surrender and how it can heal our lives.     In this episode, Kute delivers so much wisdom about what surrender really is (it’s not passive like you might think), the role of the ego in our lives, why the challenges we face are an essential part of our soul’s journey and how to let go and live open to the possibilities – the miracles – life holds for us.      Listen to discover:    Kute’s story of courageously following his calling even in the face of adversity    Why challenging experiences are essential to our soul’s growth    What surrender actually is and why it’s so powerful    How to tell when we’re in the flow    What to do when you feel stuck and are struggling to surrender    Where resistance comes from    Why surrender requires grieving what we think we know and how it opens us up to more love and joy     Each of us is here with a purpose, and even the difficult moments in our lives hold something important for our growth. When we can relinquish control and what we think our lives should look like, we discover that there are divine possibilities beyond what our mind can even think of or dream up…and what a truly exciting, miraculous journey that is!    “Those challenges [don’t] mean you’re on the wrong path. It sometimes means you’re on the right path; you just have to go through, on a human level, the soul test.” - Kute Blackson      “Forgiveness frees you.” - Michelle Chalfant      “It doesn’t mean that when something difficult is in your path, it’s not God-inspired, soul-inspired.” - Michelle Chalfant      “Life is a university for our soul’s evolution…We’re always succeeding when we’re learning the lessons, even if it’s difficult.” - Kute Blackson      “In our culture, we have this misconception that surrender is weak.” - Kute Blackson      “In true surrender and letting go, what if you actually got more than you could have intended and planned with the limited concept of your own mind?” - Kute Blackson      “Surrender is when we stop trying to force life to fit into our limited idea of what we think it should look like.” - Kute Blackson      “Many of our goals are often projections of unmet needs from our childhood.” - Kute Blackson      “The mind is constantly seeking to understand why…which is another form of control.”  - Kute Blackson     “It’s the journey that brings us the happiness.” - Michelle Chalfant     “Many times people think that they’re feeling the feeling, but they’re actually thinking about the feeling.” - Kute Blackson     “To truly surrender requires the willingness to move through the portal of grieving.” - Kute Blackson     LINKS & RESOURCES       Kute Blackson Website  https://kuteblackson.com/      Kute Blackson Instagram  https://www.instagram.com/kuteblackson/      “The Magic of Surrender” (Kute Blackson Book)   https://www.amazon.com/Magic-Surrender-Finding-Courage-Let/dp/0593189094       2024 The Adult Chair®  Coaching Certification  -  Doors Close January 5!   https://theadultchair.com/certification     MORE ADULT CHAIR     The Adult Chair®  Website  https://theadultchair.com        The Adult Chair®  Coaching Certification  https://theadultchair.com/certification      STAY CONNECTED     Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant      Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/      The Adult Chair®  Facebook Group:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/    YouTube:  https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

239: Guilt from The Adult Chair

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