In this flirty, playful episode of "Girl Talk with Jenny Raven," Jenny cozies up with the fabulous Saurora, a tantric healer, erotic empowerment sexologist, and pro domme with a heart for queer and disabled-inclusive intimacy.

Together, they giggle and get real about sexual awakening, overcoming shame, and the delicious freedom of living authentically. From lingerie confessions to kinky rope secrets, Saurora spills all, while Jenny shares her own journey of self-expression and cross-dressing.

It’s a juicy, feminine celebration of pleasure, healing, and embracing your wild, wonderful self, no matter what anyone thinks.

• Introduction & Rapid Fire Questions (00:00:00) Saurora and Jenny introduce the episode, followed by a series of playful, rapid-fire questions about preferences and kinks.
• Saurora’s Self-Description & Philosophy (00:02:48) Saurora describes her personality, approach to life, and her work in sexology, empowerment, and challenging sexual shame.
• Jenny Reads Saurora’s Bio & Sets Episode Themes (00:04:48) Jenny reads Saurora’s website bio, highlighting her activism, inclusivity, and the main topics: erotic empowerment, sex work, and intimacy.
• Personal Journeys into Sexuality (00:06:04) Both discuss their early experiences with sexual feelings, repression, and the journey toward embracing their sexual identities.
• Saurora’s Sexual Awakening & Family Dynamics (00:08:02) Saurora shares her early sexual curiosity, family background, and the impact of her mother’s attitudes on her development.
• Exploring Kinks, OnlyFans, and Shame (00:10:44) Saurora recounts discovering kinks, starting OnlyFans, and navigating secrecy, shame, and community in fetish spaces.
• Mother’s Death as a Turning Point (00:11:44) Saurora explains how her mother’s passing catalyzed her decision to fully embrace her work and identity.
• Retraining & Embracing Sex Work (00:12:41) Saurora details retraining as a tantric sexologist, her motivations, and the integration of sex work and healing.
• Disability-Inclusive Intimacy (00:14:38) Saurora describes working with disabled clients, breaking taboos, and her passion for accessible, inclusive sexuality.
• Building a Life of Sexual Freedom (00:16:32) Saurora discusses building a dungeon, living authentically, and the healing power of sexual self-acceptance.
• Jenny’s Reflections on Repression & Cross-Dressing (00:17:23) Jenny shares her own experiences with repression, cross-dressing, and the challenges of generational shame.
• The Hidden Lives of Cross-Dressers (00:21:26) Jenny discusses survey findings about cross-dressers, secrecy, and the emotional toll of unexpressed identity.
• Saurora on Supporting Clients’ Self-Expression (00:24:22) Saurora explains how she supports clients in expressing their desires, especially men wanting to dress up.
• Navigating Partner Disclosure & Shame (00:27:33) Jenny and Saurora discuss the difficulties and potential rewards of coming out to partners about kinks and cross-dressing.
• Religion, Community, and Risk of Rejection (00:28:33) They explore the impact of religion and community on sexual expression, and the risks and rewards of living authentically.
• Choosing Authenticity Over Fear (00:30:04) Saurora and Jenny discuss the cost of hiding versus the freedom of living openly, and finding new, supportive communities.
• Jenny’s Personal Journey with Partner Acceptance (00:34:19) Jenny shares her experience of coming out to her partner, therapy, and the surprising outcomes of honesty.
• Advice for Introducing Kinks to Partners (00:37:15) Jenny offers practical advice for introducing cross-dressing or kinks to partners, starting small and private.
• The Power of Being Seen and Heard (00:40:06) Saurora explains the importance of being seen and heard in relationships, and how this can reduce obsessive urges.
• Experimenting with Gender Expression (00:42:32) Saurora suggests trying gender expression “like a jacket,” encouraging gradual exploration and comfort.
• Sensual Comfort of Clothing (00:43:26) Discussion on the sensuality of women’s clothing and the arbitrary gendering of fashion.
• Prostate Orgasms & Expanding Pleasure (00:45:15) Saurora encourages men to explore new forms of pleasure, including prostate orgasms and sex toys.
• Exhibitionism & Desire to Be Seen (00:47:12) Jenny and Saurora discuss exhibitionism, the need to be seen, and Saurora’s journey to embracing her visibility.
• Saurora’s Confidence & Rebellion (00:48:11) Saurora recounts her path from acting to hairdressing, regaining confidence, and rejecting societal expectations.
• Teaching Through Sexual Empowerment (00:54:18) Saurora reflects on becoming a teacher in her own way, helping others through her work.
• Parental Influence & Healing (00:55:43) Jenny and Saurora discuss their parents’ intentions, mishandling of sexuality, and the ongoing process of healing.
• Best Things About Living Authentically (00:58:09) Saurora shares the benefits of her current life: strength, security, chosen family, and the health impacts of authenticity.
• Erotic Energy as Life Force (01:03:12) They discuss the concept of erotic energy, its role in creativity and well-being, and how to cultivate it daily.
• OnlyFans Experience & Advice (01:08:12) Saurora gives practical advice for starting an OnlyFans, emphasizing self-love, community, and experimentation.
• Advice for Those at a Crossroads (01:10:55) Saurora encourages listeners to reach out, try new things, seek community, and embrace their desires.
• Closing Remarks & Resources (01:13:23) Jenny wraps up the episode, inviting listeners to her website and mailing list for more resources and stories.

In this vibrant conversation, Jenny Raven sits down with Jedy, a Dubai-based techno musician, cross-dressing performer, visual artist, and unapologetically unique creative force. Together they dive into identity, ADHD creativity, stage personas, kink culture, horror aesthetics, and what it truly means to live boldly without fear of judgment. It's left field for Jenny, but then, isn't everything left field?

00:00:00 Intro

00:00:22 Meet Jedy

00:00:50 Who Jedy Is

00:01:37 Creativity & ADHD

00:03:38 Discovering Dressing Up

00:04:18 Wanting to Stand Out

00:04:45 Fangs & Vamp Vibes

00:05:39 Stage Personas

00:06:38 Cross-Dressing Expression

00:07:44 Stop Caring What People Think

00:08:05 Power of Performing

00:08:45 Finding Your Audience

00:10:17 Horror & Fetish Shows

00:11:57 Advice to Hidden Selves

00:13:01 Where to Hear Jedy’s Music

00:13:51 Outro / Music Play

Get ready for a fabulously flirty episode! Jenny Raven cozies up with the dazzling Sofia Anderson, a cross-dresser from Australia, for a playful, intimate chat about all things feminine. From favorite lingerie and sky-high heels to the delicious dance between masculine and feminine energies, these two share their journeys, fantasies, and the cheeky thrill of embracing their true selves. With giggles, confessions, and a dash of daring, Jenny and Sofia explore self-acceptance, sensuality, and the joy of living authentically—heels, lipstick, and all. It’s girl talk with a twist, and you’re invited!

• Introduction & Setting the Scene (00:00:04) Jenny introduces Sofia, their connection, and the purpose of the conversation.
• Quickfire Questions: Preferences & Playfulness (00:01:38) Rapid-fire questions about fashion, style, and playful preferences.
• Sophia’s Favorite Outfit & Style (00:03:33) Sophia describes her ideal outfit and her attraction to classic, mature femininity.
• Attraction to Classic Femininity (00:04:28) Discussion on why Sophia prefers a timeless, sophisticated look over girlish styles.
• Ideal Social & Intimate Company (00:06:07) Sophia shares her favorite company and social experiences as Sophia.
• Perfect Evening & Social Dynamics (00:06:53) Sophia details her ideal night out, the mix of personalities, and the importance of female energy.
• Masculine Sexual Energy vs. Feminine Erotic Energy (00:09:53) Jenny introduces the concept of masculine vs. feminine sexual energy and their personal experiences.
• Sophia’s Experience of Feminine Energy (00:12:06) Sophia reflects on her enjoyment of foreplay, seduction, and mutual pleasure as Sophia.
• Integrating Feminine and Masculine Personas (00:15:39) Discussion about embodying feminine personas in real life and the differences in behavior and energy.
• Public Expression & Social Reactions (00:18:05) Jenny and Sophia discuss the challenges and implications of being publicly out as cross-dressers.
• Visibility, Acceptance, and Social Media (00:20:24) Jenny shares experiences with public reactions, social media, and the spectrum of acceptance.
• Creativity, Intelligence, and Tolerance (00:23:01) Exploring whether creative industries are more accepting and the role of intelligence and tribalism.
• Honesty, Relationships, and Family (00:26:38) Jenny discusses coming out to her partner, concerns about her son, and generational differences in acceptance.
• Transformation & Public Presentation (00:29:48) Sophia and Jenny talk about changes in mannerisms, public outings, and the risk of being recognized.
• Identity, Labels, and Integration (00:32:02) Reflections on being oneself beyond gender labels and integrating all aspects of identity.
• Personal Histories & Early Experiences (00:33:48) Jenny and Sophia share their childhood experiences, early desires, and the evolution of their feminine personas.
• Sexuality, Gender Roles, and Relationships (00:36:40) Discussion on sexual preferences, gender roles, and the impact on relationships.
• Private vs. Public Expression of Femininity (00:39:50) Sophia questions whether keeping Sophia private allows for more rebellion and playfulness.
• Sexual Energy, Taboo, and Media (00:41:45) Exploring how sexual energy was expressed in youth, the impact of cultural taboos, and media influences.
• Eroticism, Porn, and the Power of Writing (00:48:24) Frustration with mainstream porn, the appeal of erotic writing, and the importance of mental stimulation.
• Aging, Testosterone, and Freedom (00:53:45) How aging, changing hormones, and life circumstances allow for more freedom and expression.
• Living Authentically & Regret (00:57:00) Encouragement to embrace femininity early, but also acceptance if it happens later in life.
• Therapy, Support, and Small Steps (00:59:16) Advice on seeking therapy, finding support, and taking incremental steps toward self-acceptance.
• Recognizing Allies & Coming Out (01:00:21) How to identify supportive women and the ease of coming out to receptive people.
• Conclusion & Next Episode Tease (01:01:06) Wrapping up, excitement for the next conversation, and Jenny’s closing remarks.

In episode nine of my podcast, I interview erotic author Helene Noire about our journeys as writers of erotic fiction. We discuss Helene’s inspirations, creative process, and the challenges of publishing erotica, including navigating Amazon’s restrictive content policies. Our conversation explores the differences between masculine and feminine erotica, the importance of authenticity, and the vulnerability of sharing personal fantasies. Helene and I also reflect on our supportive partnership and the empowering nature of writing erotica, offering advice for aspiring writers and highlighting the value of creative freedom and honest self-expression. 

• Opening & Introduction (00:00:01) Helene shares a favorite sentence from her writing; Jenny introduces the podcast and Helene Noire.
• Quick-Fire Questions & Character Introduction (00:01:09) Jenny asks Helene rapid-fire personal and erotic questions; Helene describes her writing persona.
• Writing Journey & Inspiration (00:03:20) Helene discusses how she started writing erotica, her inspiration, and the creative process.
• Creative Fulfillment & Literary Qualities (00:05:53) Both discuss the personal and literary satisfaction of writing erotica and the importance of honesty.
• Impact on Other Writing & Emotional Truth (00:07:35) Helene explains how writing erotica influences her other, more serious literary work.
• Preferred Niche & Audience (00:08:33) Jenny and Helene describe their erotic niches and the audiences they write for.
• First Publication Experience (00:10:10) Helene recounts publishing her first book on Amazon and the emotions involved.
• AI Authors & Motivation for Writing (00:12:01) Discussion about AI-generated erotica, financial realities, and the intrinsic motivation to write.
• Masculine vs. Feminine Erotica (00:13:08) Exploring differences between masculine and feminine erotic writing and reader expectations.
• Erotic Structure & Creative Challenges (00:13:56) Helene discusses the repetitive structure of erotic stories and the challenge of keeping them fresh.
• Recurring Characters & Universe Building (00:15:07) Both talk about the organic development of recurring characters and interconnected story universes.
• Favorite Book & Confessional Style (00:17:04) Helene shares her favorite book, "Under the Table," and her confessional writing style.
• Writing Partnership & Public Writing (00:18:09) They discuss their supportive writing partnership and the thrill of writing erotica in public spaces.
• Publishing Process & The Amazon Dungeon (00:20:00) Challenges of self-publishing, marketing, and dealing with Amazon's content restrictions ("the dungeon").
• Editing & Creative Constraints (00:23:14) Helene finds value in re-editing after being "dungeoned" and discusses using Amazon categories as creative prompts.
• Writing Routine (00:25:27) Helene describes her daily writing habits and how she balances erotica with other writing projects.
• Plotting vs. Pantsing (00:28:19) Both discuss their approaches to story structure—plotting versus improvisational "pantsing."
• Using Shame & Trauma in Writing (00:29:18) Jenny talks about channeling personal shame and trauma into authentic, powerful erotic stories.
• Sharing Work & Vulnerability (00:32:01) Helene and Jenny discuss the vulnerability of sharing erotic writing with friends and the impact of silence or rejection.
• Discovery of Shared Interests & Safe Collaboration (00:36:00) How they discovered their mutual interest in erotica and built a safe, supportive creative partnership.
• High Points & Empowerment (00:36:51) Helene reflects on the empowering aspects of publishing and embracing her identity as a writer.
• Mistakes & Writing for the Market (00:37:49) Helene considers what she’d do differently, including writing more to market tropes and story structure.
• Character Focus & Real-Life Tension (00:40:21) Discussion of character-driven writing and the tension between fantasy and real-life desires.
• Advice for Aspiring Erotic Writers (00:42:47) Helene offers advice to new writers: write authentically and from the heart.
• Reader Connection & Safe Spaces (00:43:45) The importance of connection with readers and having a safe space to express erotic creativity.
• Learning from Other Writers (00:44:28) Helene discusses how reading others' work helps her discover what turns her on and improves her writing.
• Gender, Fantasy, and Identity (00:48:47) Jenny explores cross-dressing, cosplay, and the complexities of gender and fantasy in erotic writing.
• Intimacy, Fantasy Fulfillment, & Relationship Dynamics (00:51:24) They discuss the challenges of sharing fantasies in relationships and maintaining mystery and desire.
• Story Endings & Maintaining Mystique (00:54:04) Jenny gives Helene feedback on story endings and the importance of leaving readers wanting more.
• How to Find Helene Noiree (00:55:01) Helene shares her social media and where listeners can find her books and connect online.
• Closing & Listener Invitation (00:56:08) Jenny thanks listeners, invites them to her website, and offers access to free stories and audio experiences.

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Crossdressing, Identity, and Personal Freedom: My Intimate Conversation with LadyC

This episode was such a joy to record. Sitting down with my dear friend LadyC, who has an endless curiosity about human sexuality, felt like two friends sharing secrets over coffee. We laughed, we reminisced, and we explored a subject that has shaped so much of my life: crossdressing.

I came into this conversation with the results of a survey I conducted with over 1,000 people, most of them Baby Boomers, GenXers, and older Millennials. The responses were fascinating and revealed how different generations view gender and sexuality. Early on I found myself saying something that has been sitting in my heart for a long time: “Crossdressing is such a harmless sexual kink, or as we’re going to discuss, it may well be partly identity as well.” That idea, that what we wear can be more than just clothing and can reflect who we truly are, set the tone for everything that followed.

It was not just about numbers and theories. LadyC and I both shared personal stories and I opened up about my own journey in a way that felt both scary and freeing. I even went back to childhood memories, those innocent and confusing moments when you first start to wonder about sexuality. I laughed as I recalled, “I knew that sperm made babies, but I didn’t quite know how it came out of me.” It is funny now, but those early questions planted the seeds of a lifelong curiosity about identity and desire.

The deeper we went, the more we talked about the energy of crossdressing. There is something so electric and yes, erotic, about it. For me, slipping into a different set of clothes is not just a physical act. It feels like stepping into another dimension of myself. LadyC and I explored how that “erotic energy” is not only about sex. It is about transformation, empowerment, and the thrill of becoming another version of me. At one point I said, “It is not just about wearing clothes, it is about inhabiting a different version of yourself,” and I still feel that truth vibrating inside me.

We also unpacked society’s shifting attitudes. It struck both of us how, in many ways, it is now more socially acceptable to transition fully to another gender than to embrace a crossdressing alter ego. That observation shows how complicated and sometimes contradictory our culture’s understanding of gender expression really is.

Perhaps my favorite part of the conversation was when we talked about liberation. There is such joy in this kind of self-expression. I found myself confessing, “When I slip into the feminine, I don’t have any fear of what my body looks like.” Clothing can be transformative in that way. It can dissolve shame and invite freedom.

By the end, LadyC and I were practically buzzing with excitement. We are already planning to attend future events in costume and to keep exploring this world together. At one point I exclaimed, “We have unleashed the wild woman,” and we both burst into laughter.

That is the heart of this episode for me: the wild woman, the hidden self, the part of us that wants to be seen, celebrated, and free. Crossdressing is not just about looking pretty in a dress. It is about stepping boldly into every part of who I am and inviting others to do the same.

Crossdressing, Identity, and Personal Freedom: My Intimate Conversation with LadyC

This episode was such a joy to record. Sitting down with my dear friend LadyC, who has an endless curiosity about human sexuality, felt like two friends sharing secrets over coffee. We laughed, we reminisced, and we explored a subject that has shaped so much of my life: crossdressing.

I came into this conversation with the results of a survey I conducted with over 1,000 people, most of them Baby Boomers, GenXers, and older Millennials. The responses were fascinating and revealed how different generations view gender and sexuality. Early on I found myself saying something that has been sitting in my heart for a long time: “Crossdressing is such a harmless sexual kink, or as we’re going to discuss, it may well be partly identity as well.” That idea, that what we wear can be more than just clothing and can reflect who we truly are, set the tone for everything that followed.

It was not just about numbers and theories. LadyC and I both shared personal stories and I opened up about my own journey in a way that felt both scary and freeing. I even went back to childhood memories, those innocent and confusing moments when you first start to wonder about sexuality. I laughed as I recalled, “I knew that sperm made babies, but I didn’t quite know how it came out of me.” It is funny now, but those early questions planted the seeds of a lifelong curiosity about identity and desire.

The deeper we went, the more we talked about the energy of crossdressing. There is something so electric and yes, erotic, about it. For me, slipping into a different set of clothes is not just a physical act. It feels like stepping into another dimension of myself. LadyC and I explored how that “erotic energy” is not only about sex. It is about transformation, empowerment, and the thrill of becoming another version of me. At one point I said, “It is not just about wearing clothes, it is about inhabiting a different version of yourself,” and I still feel that truth vibrating inside me.

We also unpacked society’s shifting attitudes. It struck both of us how, in many ways, it is now more socially acceptable to transition fully to another gender than to embrace a crossdressing alter ego. That observation shows how complicated and sometimes contradictory our culture’s understanding of gender expression really is.

Perhaps my favorite part of the conversation was when we talked about liberation. There is such joy in this kind of self-expression. I found myself confessing, “When I slip into the feminine, I don’t have any fear of what my body looks like.” Clothing can be transformative in that way. It can dissolve shame and invite freedom.

By the end, LadyC and I were practically buzzing with excitement. We are already planning to attend future events in costume and to keep exploring this world together. At one point I exclaimed, “We have unleashed the wild woman,” and we both burst into laughter.

That is the heart of this episode for me: the wild woman, the hidden self, the part of us that wants to be seen, celebrated, and free. Crossdressing is not just about looking pretty in a dress. It is about stepping boldly into every part of who I am and inviting others to do the same.

• Introduction & Podcast Overview (00:00:16) Jenny introduces Lady C, outlines the episode’s focus on sexuality, cross-dressing, and self-discovery.
• Origins of the Cross-Dressing Survey (00:00:52) Jenny explains the genesis of the 2024/2025 cross-dressing surveys and their connection to personal biographies.
• Early Friendship & Shared Exploration (00:02:23) Jenny and Lady C reminisce about their first meeting and early conversations about sexuality and kink.
• Survey Demographics & Generational Differences (00:05:04) Discussion of survey respondent demographics, generational attitudes, and terminology differences (cross-dressing vs. trans).
• Changing Landscape of Gender Identity (00:07:10) Lady C reflects on evolving distinctions between cross-dressing and transgender identity, especially among younger generations.
• Personal Childhood Experiences & Shame (00:09:12) Jenny shares early experiences with cross-dressing, parental reactions, and the impact of shame.
• Inclusivity & Female Perspectives (00:10:38) Lady C discusses the need for more female voices and perspectives in cross-dressing research.
• Survey Data: Frivolity and Melancholy (00:12:02) Exploration of playful and melancholic themes in survey responses, including relationship challenges.
• Positive Survey Story: Acceptance in Relationships (00:13:43) Jenny highlights a survey response about a supportive spouse and positive cross-dressing experiences.
• Survey Story: Janice’s Lifelong Struggle (00:14:26) Lady C discusses a respondent’s journey from childhood cross-dressing to late-life struggles with acceptance.
• Sexual vs. Identity Components (00:17:22) Jenny and Lady C explore the dual nature of cross-dressing: sexual pleasure and personal relaxation.
• First Experiences with Lingerie (00:20:07) Jenny recounts early experiences acquiring and wearing women’s lingerie, and the secrecy involved.
• Erotic Awakening & Shame (00:24:10) Jenny describes the emotional and sexual impact of first orgasms while cross-dressed, and the associated guilt.
• Being Desired & The Camera (00:28:59) Discussion about the allure of being seen and photographed while cross-dressed.
• Media Influence & Female Beauty Standards (00:29:23) Lady C questions the impact of media and movie stars on perceptions of femininity and self-image.
• Confidence in Femininity vs. Masculinity (00:30:45) Jenny reflects on feeling more confident and sensual when cross-dressed than in masculine presentation.
• Erotic Energy & Creativity (00:34:27) Both discuss how erotic energy fuels creativity and confidence, and the boundaries around expressing it.
• Clubbing & Social Spaces (00:37:23) Conversation about the desire to go clubbing together in cross-dressing-friendly spaces.
• Aphrodisiac of Women’s Clothing (00:39:03) Discussion of the powerful sensual appeal of women’s clothing and the attention it brings.
• Sensory Experience of Fabrics (00:40:23) Comparison of the tactile sensations of men’s and women’s underwear and clothing.
• Nails, Leather, and Gender Expression (00:43:03) Exploration of how accessories like nails and leather impact feelings of power and gender expression.
• Societal Acceptance & Boundaries (00:44:28) Reflection on changing social norms, past fears about acceptance, and the limits of heteronormativity.
• Attraction to Tomboys & Authenticity (00:46:24) Jenny discusses attraction to tomboyish women and the authenticity of personal relationships.
• Cosplay, Fantasy, and Cross-Dressing (00:51:18) Comparison of cross-dressing to cosplay and the role of fantasy and costume in self-expression.
• Desire to Dress as Villainous Females (00:54:32) Lady C shares her fantasy of dressing as Poison Ivy and the appeal of villainous feminine personas.
• Peer Groups & Erotic Energy (00:57:41) Discussion of the importance of supportive peer groups and the energizing effect of shared erotic expression.
• Outro & Community Invitation (00:59:29) Jenny invites listeners to join her website and mailing list for stories and community engagement.

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From Shock to Acceptance: A Partner's Journey with Crossdressing

When I sat down with Anna for this episode, I knew we were about to share a story that so many people need to hear. As a crossdresser myself - and an erotic author who writes about the delicate dance of gender expression - I’ve had countless conversations about identity, desire, and relationships. But Anna’s journey with her husband Harry truly moved me.

Anna told me about a Friday night that completely flipped her world upside down. Eight years into their marriage, Harry dropped what felt like a bombshell: he wanted to share his desire to cross-dress. In that moment, Anna’s mind raced. She admitted her first thought was that something far worse was coming, an affair, a terminal illness. But instead, Harry’s revelation opened the door to an unexpected journey of love, acceptance, and growth that changed their relationship forever.

What I love about Anna’s story is her honesty. She shared how, after the initial shock, she had to quiet all those “what will people think?” voices in her head and focus on her own feelings. “If I ignore society, if I ignore what other people might think about this, how do I feel about it?” she asked herself. Hearing her say that gave me chills. That kind of raw self-reflection is exactly what creates space for true connection.

And here’s the beautiful twist: their intimate life actually blossomed. Anna lit up when she described how, when Harry becomes Harriet, it feels like they’re back at the very start of their relationship, those early butterflies and nervous excitement returning after years of marriage. How many couples can say they’ve rediscovered that spark in such an unexpected way?

But Anna and Harry didn’t stop at their own relationship. They recognized how few resources there were for couples navigating cross-dressing together, so they created CrossDressed.uk, a safe, welcoming space for crossdressers and their partners to find real support and information. No judgment. Just honesty, understanding, and care.

Of course, our conversation also wandered into my world—my erotic writing. I explained how I approach cross-dressing in my stories, not with graphic explicitness, but by capturing the subtle moments: the glances, the anticipation, the emotional charge when two people truly see each other. For me, those quiet, tender details are far more erotic than anything overt.

Before we wrapped, Anna shared some heartfelt advice for anyone thinking of coming out to their partner. Timing is everything. Honesty is crucial. And most of all, you have to listen, really listen, to your partner’s reaction without defensiveness. Sharing your truth is only half the journey; creating a safe space for them to process it is just as important.

This conversation reminded me why I started this podcast in the first place. Love isn’t about fitting into society’s boxes. It’s about creating a space where both partners can be their truest selves. Anna and Harry’s story proves that with patience, understanding, and open communication, relationships can not only survive unexpected revelations, they can thrive because of them.

From Shock to Acceptance: A Partner's Journey with Crossdressing

When I sat down with Anna for this episode, I knew we were about to share a story that so many people need to hear. As a crossdresser myself - and an erotic author who writes about the delicate dance of gender expression - I’ve had countless conversations about identity, desire, and relationships. But Anna’s journey with her husband Harry truly moved me.

Anna told me about a Friday night that completely flipped her world upside down. Eight years into their marriage, Harry dropped what felt like a bombshell: he wanted to share his desire to cross-dress. In that moment, Anna’s mind raced. She admitted her first thought was that something far worse was coming, an affair, a terminal illness. But instead, Harry’s revelation opened the door to an unexpected journey of love, acceptance, and growth that changed their relationship forever.

What I love about Anna’s story is her honesty. She shared how, after the initial shock, she had to quiet all those “what will people think?” voices in her head and focus on her own feelings. “If I ignore society, if I ignore what other people might think about this, how do I feel about it?” she asked herself. Hearing her say that gave me chills. That kind of raw self-reflection is exactly what creates space for true connection.

And here’s the beautiful twist: their intimate life actually blossomed. Anna lit up when she described how, when Harry becomes Harriet, it feels like they’re back at the very start of their relationship, those early butterflies and nervous excitement returning after years of marriage. How many couples can say they’ve rediscovered that spark in such an unexpected way?

But Anna and Harry didn’t stop at their own relationship. They recognized how few resources there were for couples navigating cross-dressing together, so they created CrossDressed.uk, a safe, welcoming space for crossdressers and their partners to find real support and information. No judgment. Just honesty, understanding, and care.

Of course, our conversation also wandered into my world—my erotic writing. I explained how I approach cross-dressing in my stories, not with graphic explicitness, but by capturing the subtle moments: the glances, the anticipation, the emotional charge when two people truly see each other. For me, those quiet, tender details are far more erotic than anything overt.

Before we wrapped, Anna shared some heartfelt advice for anyone thinking of coming out to their partner. Timing is everything. Honesty is crucial. And most of all, you have to listen, really listen, to your partner’s reaction without defensiveness. Sharing your truth is only half the journey; creating a safe space for them to process it is just as important.

This conversation reminded me why I started this podcast in the first place. Love isn’t about fitting into society’s boxes. It’s about creating a space where both partners can be their truest selves. Anna and Harry’s story proves that with patience, understanding, and open communication, relationships can not only survive unexpected revelations, they can thrive because of them.

• The Revelation (00:00:00) Anna describes the night Harry revealed his crossdressing to her, her initial shock, and immediate emotional response.
• Introducing the Podcast & Anna (00:00:17) Jenny welcomes Anna, introduces the episode, and sets the stage for discussing partners of crossdressers.
• Life Before the Revelation (00:01:10) Anna shares her and Harry’s life before the revelation, their background, and her openness to diversity.
• Kink or Identity? (00:03:19) Discussion about whether Harry’s crossdressing is a kink, an identity, or somewhere in between.
• The Night of the Revelation (00:04:20) Anna recounts the details and emotions of the night Harry came out to her.
• Initial Reactions and Aftermath (00:06:24) Anna describes her questions, confusion, and the difficult weeks and months following the revelation.
• Societal Roles and Shock (00:08:08) Jenny discusses societal expectations, the shock of revelations, and the journey of couples facing hidden truths.
• Harry’s Transformation and Boundaries (00:10:12) Anna talks about Harry’s excitement, spending spree, and the process of setting boundaries as they adjusted.
• Harry’s Unchanged Core (00:12:41) Reflection on how Harry remained the same person, just with a new dimension, and Anna’s feelings about it.
• Jenny’s Personal Journey (00:14:39) Jenny shares her own experience with crossdressing, coming out to partners, and how honesty shaped her relationship.
• Intimacy and Bedroom Dynamics (00:18:36) Anna discusses how crossdressing was introduced into their intimate life and her evolving feelings about labels and attraction.
• Labels and Acceptance (00:21:16) Jenny and Anna reflect on the usefulness of labels, societal expectations, and embracing partners as they are.
• Going Out as Harriet (00:23:11) Anna explains whether Harriet goes out in public, their decisions regarding family and children, and societal influences.
• Deceit vs. Survival (00:26:19) Exploring the difference between feeling deceived and understanding the survival instinct behind keeping crossdressing secret.
• Societal Shame and the Spectrum (00:27:39) Jenny discusses shame, societal reactions, and the broad spectrum of gender expression.
• Strength in Sharing (00:30:50) Jenny and Anna talk about the courage it takes to reveal crossdressing and the strength of their relationship.
• Advice for Partners and Crossdressers (00:33:44) Anna offers advice to both crossdressers and their partners on navigating revelations and emotional responses.
• Crossdressing as a Benign Kink (00:35:07) Jenny compares crossdressing to other kinks, emphasizing its harmlessness and playfulness.
• Coming Out to Friends and Family (00:35:50) Anna discusses who knows about Harry’s crossdressing, reactions from friends, and concerns about family and community.
• Societal Reactions and Personal Drama (00:37:28) Jenny reflects on how most people react briefly and move on, and the importance of context in coming out.
• Aging, Testosterone, and Embracing Femininity (00:40:06) Jenny discusses how aging and hormonal changes can influence the desire to express femininity.
• Survey Insights: Unhappy Relationships (00:42:23) Jenny shares survey results about crossdressers feeling trapped and the risks of coming out.
• Advice for Women Discovering a Partner’s Secret (00:44:13) Anna gives advice to women whose partners have just come out as crossdressers, emphasizing research and open-mindedness.
• Creating Supportive Resources (00:48:08) Anna explains why she and Harry started their website, aiming to provide honest, supportive information for the community.
• Mother-Daughter Fantasies and Social Media (00:49:00) Jenny describes a viral post about mother-daughter dressing up, and the overwhelmingly positive response online.
• Advice: Don’t Throw Away Relationships Lightly (00:52:41) Jenny shares relationship advice: consider carefully before ending a relationship over crossdressing.
• Rediscovering Intimacy (00:53:43) Anna describes how introducing crossdressing rekindled excitement and intimacy in her marriage.
• Relationship Cycles and Recommitment (00:54:58) Jenny discusses the natural cycles in long-term relationships and the importance of recommitment.
• Reading Jenny’s Books (00:56:06) Anna reviews Jenny’s books, describing them as spicy and refreshing, and discusses the genre of trans erotica.
• Writing and Experiencing Trans Erotica (00:57:09) Jenny explains her approach to writing erotica, focusing on tease, sensuality, and the veneer of femininity.
• Audiobooks and Immersive Experience (01:00:04) Anna shares her experience with Jenny’s audiobooks and how they enhance the stories’ immersive quality.
• The Art of Tease in Storytelling (01:02:12) Jenny discusses the importance of tease and anticipation in her writing and the essence of crossdressing.
• Character-Driven Stories (01:04:21) Jenny talks about her character-driven approach to storytelling and the real-life inspirations behind her books.
• Launching Crossdresser UK (01:05:23) Anna introduces their website, its resources, community growth, and upcoming premium features.
• Final Advice for Coming Out (01:08:32) Anna gives practical advice for crossdressers planning to tell their partners, emphasizing timing, honesty, and self-care.
• Closing Remarks (01:09:47) Jenny thanks Anna, wraps up the episode, and invites listeners to join her website and mailing list.
• Are you happy with the results?

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My Enlightening Chat with Trish from Be A Lady

I recently had the absolute pleasure of sitting down with Trish, the amazing woman behind Be A Lady, and let me tell you - it was one eye-opening conversation! As someone who's personally explored cross-dressing, I was thrilled to chat with someone who's dedicated her life to supporting people like me on their journey of self-discovery.

Right from the start, Trish's energy was infectious. We kicked things off with some fun rapid-fire questions about clothing preferences, and her motto "live once, try twice and don't die wondering" really set the tone for our entire chat. I love how she approaches everything with such openness and enthusiasm - it's exactly what this community needs.

What really struck me was hearing about how Trish started Be A Lady. She shared this fascinating story about her early days working in adult shops and her first encounter with cross-dressing clients. You could really hear the passion in her voice when she explained how she went from being somewhat naive about the whole thing to creating this amazing safe space for people to explore their identity.

One of the most powerful parts of our conversation was when we dove into the challenges many cross-dressers face. Trish revealed that most of her clients are secret cross-dressers who haven't come out to their partners, which really hit home for me. We talked about how society's attitudes are slowly changing, but there's still so much fear and stigma to overcome. It's why spaces like Be A Lady are so incredibly important.

The way Trish described the transformation process at her service was absolutely beautiful. It's not just about putting on makeup and a dress - it's about that moment when someone looks in the mirror and sees their true self for the first time. She told me about clients having these incredible moments of realization, saying things like "Oh my God, that's me. The real true me that needs to shine every now and again." Those stories gave me goosebumps.

We also got into some really interesting discussions about the emotional and erotic aspects of cross-dressing, which I know can be a sensitive topic for some. But Trish approached it with such professionalism and understanding, explaining how it's all part of exploring one's identity and feeling sexually empowered. It was refreshing to have such an honest, judgment-free conversation about these aspects that often get swept under the rug.

Throughout our chat, we kept coming back to this idea of self-discovery and personal liberation. Trish's approach really resonated with me - she believes in creating a space where people can safely explore who they are, try new things, and never have to live with the regret of wondering "what if?" Her service isn't just about transformation; it's about empowerment and acceptance, something that I think we could all use a little more of in our lives.

Introductions and Icebreakers (00:00:04) Jenny welcomes Trish, light banter, and a series of fun rapid-fire questions to loosen up.

Origins of "Be a Lady" and Cross-Dressing Community (00:02:01) Trish explains the beginnings of "Be a Lady," her adult shops, and her first experiences with cross-dressing clients.

Generational Change and Evolving Terminology (00:04:30) Discussion on changing attitudes, language, and acceptance of cross-dressing and trans identities over the years.

Secrecy, Stigma, and Relationship Challenges (00:06:56) Exploring the stigma around cross-dressing, secrecy, and the impact on relationships and family life.

Personal Disclosure and Acceptance (00:09:16) Jenny shares her own journey of coming out to her partner and the emotional aftermath.

Fear of Disclosure and the Role of "Be a Lady" (00:11:27) Trish discusses clients' fears of being discovered and how "Be a Lady" provides a safe, supportive space.

Booking and First-Time Experiences (00:14:06) Trish describes the process of booking, the initial phone call, and what clients experience when they arrive.

Studio Environment and Makeover Process (00:15:37) Details about the studio setup, clothing, wigs, and the transformation process for clients.

Emotional Release and Safe Expression (00:17:47) The emotional impact of cross-dressing, including fear, excitement, and the importance of non-judgmental support.

Therapeutic Value and Overcoming Shame (00:20:34) Jenny and Trish discuss the therapeutic benefits of open conversation and confronting internalized shame.

Progression and Returning Clients (00:23:01) Clients' journeys from first visits to more public outings, and the importance of ongoing support.

Generational Differences and Early Experiences (00:24:43) Reflections on how younger generations experience more freedom, and Jenny’s early cross-dressing memories.

Eroticism, Play, and the "Itch" (00:27:07) Exploring the erotic, playful aspects of cross-dressing and the persistent "itch" or urge to dress.

Integration and Public Outings (00:34:07) Jenny seeks advice on integrating her feminine side and what it’s like for clients to go out in public.

Societal Judgment and Changing Perceptions (00:37:21) Trish shares experiences with societal judgment, stigma in the adult industry, and her mission to help others.

Popular Looks and Makeover Choices (00:40:00) Discussion of the most requested styles, the fascination with breastplates, and the evolution of clients’ desired looks.

Admiration, Self-Love, and Female Energy (00:44:15) The desire to embody and be admired as a woman, and the intoxicating experience of feminine energy.

The "Be a Lady" Experience and Impact (00:48:09) Trish emphasizes the unique, affirming experience her studio offers and the lasting impact on clients.

How to Connect and Final Advice (00:48:40) Trish shares her social media and website, and offers advice: "Live once, try twice, don’t die wondering."

Reflections on Trying Twice and Personal Growth (00:50:18) Jenny and Trish discuss the importance of trying things more than once and embracing self-expression.

Closing Remarks and Podcast Outro (00:52:53) Jenny thanks listeners, promotes her website, and encourages audience engagement.

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In this powerful and deeply intimate episode of Gurl Talk, Jenny Raven delves into her personal journey of self-exploration and discovery with therapeutic kink practitioner Emily Letts. Emily, based in Boulder, Colorado, shares her expertise in using kink and BDSM as tools for transformation and healing. The conversation delves into the complexities of unlocking suppressed desires, navigating societal expectations, and embracing one's true self.

We cover a wide range of topics, including the intersection of divine masculine and divine feminine energies within us, the importance of exploring one's squishy emotions, and the power of breath in processing pain and pleasure. Emily offers valuable insights on how individuals can approach their journey of self-discovery with curiosity, authenticity, and a commitment to embracing all parts of themselves.

Don't miss this raw and authentic conversation that shines a light on the transformative power of embracing one's true desires and embarking on a journey of self-discovery.

• Fun Rapid-Fire Questions (00:00:37) Jennie asks Emily playful, quick-fire questions about preferences in clothing, sensuality, and self-description.
• Emily’s Background and Path to Therapeutic Kink (00:01:46) Emily shares her upbringing, education, and journey into therapeutic kink and BDSM as a healing practice.
• Client Journeys and Why People Seek Therapeutic Kink (00:06:09) Emily describes the typical clients she works with, their backgrounds, and what draws them to her practice.
• Jennie’s Personal Journey and Community Sadness (00:07:57) Jennie discusses her own experience as a cross-dresser, writing erotic fiction, and the sadness in the cross-dressing community.
• Themes of Power, Control, and Being Seen (00:10:20) Jennie reflects on themes of being seen, accepted, and desired, and how these relate to her writing and identity.
• Sadness in Masculinity and Divine Energies (00:10:48) Emily introduces the concept of divine masculine and feminine energies, and how societal expectations create sadness in men.
• Explaining Divine Masculine and Feminine (00:13:20) Emily elaborates on tantric principles, the balance of masculine and feminine energies, and their impact on identity.
• Emotional Repression and Healing for Men (00:15:12) Emily discusses how men are socialized to repress feelings, and how her work helps them reconnect with their feminine side.
• Jennie’s Masking and Early Trauma (00:17:14) Jennie shares her experience of putting on a “mask” in childhood, early trauma, and the impact on her adult life.
• Societal Systems, Family, and Gender Healing (00:23:03) Emily connects her background in reproductive justice to the need for healing men and normalizing gender exploration.
• Prevalence of Gender Exploration Among Men (00:25:25) Jennie and Emily discuss how common gender exploration is among men, and the difference between those who embrace it and those who don’t.
• Oppression of Men and Success Narratives (00:26:46) Emily critiques societal definitions of success and how they oppress men, stifling creativity and playfulness.
• Challenges in Relationships and Expression (00:27:52) Jennie brings up the difficulty many men face expressing their true selves in relationships, and partners’ reactions.
• Archetypes, Roles, and Relationship Dynamics (00:30:27) Emily explains archetypes, the rigidity of gender roles, and why shifting them can threaten relationship structures.
• Navigating Self-Expression and Relationships (00:32:03) Emily gives advice on committing to self-exploration, the futility of suppressing one’s true self, and the importance of honesty.
• Steps for Coming Out to a Partner (00:34:10) Emily outlines practical steps for self-inquiry, building safety, and approaching partners about kink or gender exploration.
• Jennie’s Experience with Partners and Coasting (00:40:59) Jennie describes her own relationship dynamics, letting “Jenny” out, and the resulting flatness in her partnership.
• Living a Double Life and Fear of Rejection (00:44:38) Jennie admits to living a double life, the fear of being alone, and the deep attachment wounds from childhood.
• Transforming Pain into Power and Healing (00:48:19) Emily encourages reframing painful memories as sources of healing and discusses the power of integrating the feminine.
• Advice for Older Adults Exploring Hidden Selves (00:54:40) Emily offers advice for older individuals wanting to explore repressed aspects, emphasizing breath, curiosity, and pleasure.
• Finding Community and Emily’s Work (00:56:58) Emily talks about her group work with men, the importance of brotherhood, and following pleasure rather than forcing it.
• Closing and How to Connect with Emily (00:58:20) Emily shares her website and social media, and Jennie wraps up the episode with information about her own website and offerings.

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