The voice holding you back isn’t life… it's the way you talk to yourself.

Dr. Karen Bluth is a leading researcher, author, and educator in self-compassion, whose work spans decades of mindfulness research and mental health education. But Karen’s story starts with her, as a teenager, struggling with self-doubt and quietly discovering practices that would later transform her life — and the lives of thousands of others.

Karen joins Mercedes and Anastasia to unpack the practical science and tangible practice of self-compassion, and why learning to be kind to yourself isn’t “soft”, it’s one of the most powerful skills you can build at any age. Karen shares how self-compassion reduces anxiety and depression, builds resilience under stress, and actually increases motivation and courage!

After this episode, you'll know:

– The difference between self-pity vs self-compassion.

– Hacks to showing yourself self-compassion.

– Science behind by self-compassion = more motivation + happiness.

– 'Back pocket' tools for calming down in moments of stress.

– How to rewire your inner dialogue.

Whether you’re a teen navigating pressure and expectations, a parent trying to support your child, or an adult feeling overwhelmed, stuck, or not-enough, Karen’s insights will change the way you think about yourself.
After this episode, you’ll feel calmer, more grounded, and equipped with next steps you can use immediately — starting today.

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Ready to Hack Your Happiness some more? Listen to our interview with creator of Everybody Loves Raymond and star of Somebody Feed Phil, Phil Rosenthal. In this episode, Phil shares his learnings from traveling the world, his favourite food, and hacks for being more spontaneous: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠listen + watch now!

(00:00) Welcome, Dr. Karen Bluth!

(01:42) Getting Into Self-Compassion

(04:40) She's Meditated For 50 Years - Here's What Karen Has Learned

(07:12) What is Self-Compassion?

(12:12) Do I Have a Healthy Relationship With Myself?

(16:01) MOST Surprising Findings About Self-Compassion

(19:48) Why is Being a TEEN GIRL So Challenging?

(21:55) Hack For Being Self-Compassionate

(23:21) Your Sign to Support a Friend or Family Member

(24:01) Try This Self-Compassion Exercise

(31:01) Does Self-Compassion Reduce Motivation & Productivity?

(34:06) Self-Compassion vs Self Pity

(37:23) How Does ADHD Impact Self-Compassion?

(39:21) Your Friends Affect Your Self-Talk

(41:41) Imagine This...

(47:50) A Daily Habit We've Been Loving

(48:22) Karen's Inner Voice At 16

(51:41) Advice For Parents: Help Your Kids Build Self-Compassion

(55:58) A Moment She'll Never Forget

(57:51) Karen's Mood Boosting Song

(58:07) Karen To Her Teenage Self

(58:30) What Brings Karen A Small Bit of Happiness?

(59:35) Karen's Motivational Quote

(1:01:07) Find Karen Here

(1:02:26) We Interviewed Karen's Classmate From High School!

What happens when you stop forcing a path, and start listening to curiosity instead?

Ellen Mirojnick is a legendary costume designer whose work spans decades of film and television, including Bridgerton, Oppenheimer, and The Greatest Showman. But Ellen's story doesn’t start with certainty or a perfect plan. It starts with being asked to leave fashion school, not fitting the mold, and choosing courage, communication, and perseverance anyway.

Mercedes and Anastasia are joined by Ellen to explore the mindset behind a career and life built on curiosity, adaptability, and deep connection. Ellen shares how she 'accidentally' discovered costume design, navigates self-doubt, and leads massive creative teams in one of the most demanding industries in the world. This episode isn’t about fashion alone; it’s about learning how to think on your feet, trust your instincts, and build a life that grows with you.

After this episode, you'll know:

– How to build real confidence without having all the skills.

– The communication skill nobody teaches but everybody needs.

– What perseverance looks like (while maintaining boundaries & avoiding burnout).

– Hacks for thinking on your feet.

– A blueprint for tackling situations that feel overwhelming.

Whether you feel boxed in and overwhelmed, are questioning your choices and direction, or are a creative trying to make your passion into something bigger, Ellen’s wisdom will challenge the way you see school, work, and yourself. After this episode, you will feel braver, more curious and excited about life, and ready to lean into what’s next.

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Ready to Hack Your Happiness some more? Listen to our interview with the Oscar-winning costume designer from the sets of Black Panther and Malcolm X, Ruth E. Carter. In this episode, Ruth dives into hacks for managing criticism, how to be a better teammate, and she takes us BTS of some of the most iconic film sets: ⁠⁠⁠⁠listen + watch now!

(00:00) Welcome, Ellen!

(02:09) Getting Into the Fashion & Movie Industry

(03:20) Redirecting Her Path

(04:29) Top Tips For Feeling Confident

(06:45) Leaving Fashion School: Doubt? Uncertainty?

(08:53) The MOST Important Hack

(11:35) Trying To Be Everything To Everyone

(13:07) Your Blueprint To Becoming A Better Communicator, TODAY

(15:44) Finding Joy Despite Challenges

(19:15) How Can I Think On My Feet?

(21:13) Why YOU NEED Communication Skills!

(22:47) Spread Some Happiness

(23:37) A Moment Ellen Will Never Forget

(24:36) BTS of the Costume Design Process

(29:06) Tips For Becoming Curious

(34:00) How Does Ellen Choose Her Projects?

(36:49) The Costume That Stands Out to Ellen

(38:12) Transform Your Sleep

(38:38) Want To Become a Costume/Fashion Designer? Here's Your FIRST Step!

(41:43) Ellen’s Favorite Classic Films

(43:11) Which Era in Fashion Would Ellen Re-Visit?

(44:22) Ellen To Her Teenage Self

(46:52) What Brings Ellen A Small Bit of Happiness?

(47:47) What’s Next?

What do you do when life completely falls apart? Michael Chernow’s answer: you build it back, one healthy habit at a time. This episode will meet you where you are, then show you how to move forward with discipline and results.

Michael Chernow is a serial entrepreneur, founder of The Meatball Shop, Seamore’s, and Kreatures of Habit, host of the Kreatures of Habit Podcast, and a professional athlete and coach. But, his real story starts with addiction, trauma, and a decision to change his life, one small step at a time.

Mercedes and Anastasia sit down with Michael to unpack the powerful mindset shifts behind his transformation — from flatlining after a heroin overdose to building a life grounded in structure, family, and joy. This episode isn’t about recovery; it’s about how anyone can rewire their routines, build real resilience, and achieve anything through small and attainable changes.

Get ready to learn:

– The first step to making a change in your life.

– What to do when motivation disappears.

– Hacks to rewire your habits.

– Michael's cookie-cutter morning routine + non-negotiables.

– Tips for 'off-days'.

Whether you’re stuck, starting over, or simply ready to feel better in your body and mind, Michael’s story will challenge you, move you, and leave you with a clear path to a life that feels as good as it looks.

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Ready to Hack Your Happiness some more? Listen to our interview with former co-owner of the #1 restaurant in the world, Eleven Madison Park, and bestselling author, Will Guidara. In this episode, Will explains the pros and cons of perfection vs authenticity, how to make others feel seen, and hacks for being intentional: ⁠⁠⁠listen + watch now!

(00:00) Welcome, Michael!

(01:07) Michael's Story: Childhood, Addiction, Becoming Sober

(22:51) Transform Someone's Life, Today

(23:31) What Are The Three C's?

(30:14) What Does 'Wellness' Mean to Michael?

(31:25) The Battle of The Two Wolves

(35:04) How Can I Stay In The Present Moment?

(38:07) Michael's Lessons To His Children On Wellness, Sobriety, and Phones

(42:54) Hacks For Setting Boundaries

(46:39) Step Into Your Best Sleep Yet

(47:39) How Can I Focus On My Small Wins? Why Is This Important?

(54:50) Scared You'll Quit? Michael's Advice For Sticking To Positive Change

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If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed by stress or stuck in anxious loops, and wondered, “Why am I like this?”, you’re not alone. In this episode with one of the internet’s most trusted psychiatrists reframes anxiety, helps you build resilience, and reveals practical tools anyone can use in minutes.

Dr. Tracey Marks is a psychiatrist, bestselling author, and YouTuber whose straight-to-the-point videos have helped millions take control of their mental health.

Mercedes and Anastasia are joined by Dr. Marks to unpack the real difference between stress and anxiety, why avoidance makes social anxiety grow, and how “body tools” can calm a racing mind when “mind tools” are out of reach. We talk teen/tween mental health post-pandemic, ADHD and attention in a distracted world, building resilience like a brain skill, and the self-awareness habits that make change possible.

Get ready to learn:

- How to tell if you're experiencing stress vs anxiety.

- A toolkit of body & mind tools to use whenever you're stressed or anxious.

- Simple exposure ladder to shrink social anxiety without overwhelm.

- The ADHD Rundown: All that YOU need to know.

- What the non-negotiables of resilience actually are.

Whether you’re a teen, a parent, a teacher, or anyone who wants more calm and control, Dr. Marks reminds us that anxiety isn’t something to eliminate, it’s something we can manage, and resilience isn’t a personality trait, it’s a practice. After this episode, you'll be set on your way to have more of both in your life!

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Ready to Hack Your Happiness some more? Listen to our interview with Harvard stress expert Dr. Aditi Nerurkar. In this episode, Dr. Nerurkar describes good vs bad stress, shares quick + easy stress resets, and the differences between our ancient brain and modern brain: ⁠⁠listen + watch now!

(00:00) Welcome, Dr. Tracey Marks

(01:58) What Drew Dr. Marks to Medicine?

(03:42) It's OK To Pivot Your Interests/Career

(05:35) Anxiety vs Stress + How to Tell Which One You're Experiencing

(07:57) Tips For Feeling Less Stressed and Anxious

(13:56) Is There MORE Anxiety Today?

(16:10) Do I Have Social Anxiety?

(20:50) Impacts of COVID's Isolation On Us Today

(22:44) How Can I Feel More Comfortable in Social Situations?

(26:08) Why You Get Physical Stress Side Effects + Tips For Reducing Them

(34:10) Disassociate? Try This Hack

(37:31) BIGGEST Takeaway From 'Why Am I So Anxious?'

(40:09) The ADHD Chapter: How to Communicate

(43:20) Most Requested YouTube Video Topics

(47:26) Does ADHD Impact Mood + Happiness?

(50:06) Ask Yourself These Questions to Become More Self-Aware

(54:39) Hacks For Building Resilience

(59:39) Dr. Marks to Her Teenage Self

(1:00:13) What Brings Dr. Marks A Small Bit of Happiness?

(1:00:45) Dr. Marks Motivational Quote

(1:01:18) Find Dr. Marks Here

(1:02:22) Key Takeaways

If you’ve ever felt like giving up on a dream - even one you’ve loved for years - you are not alone. This episode will show you how one of the world’s most beloved authors nearly walked away from her biggest idea more than once… and how trusting her gut changed everything.

Shannon Messenger is the #1 New York Times bestselling author of the Keeper of the Lost Cities series, a global fantasy phenomenon with over 7 million copies sold. But long before the fame, Shannon spent years chasing the wrong dream, then battling fear, loneliness, and self-doubt on her way to finding the right one.

Shannon sits with Mercedes and Anastasia and opens up about leaving her art career behind, rewriting her first book 20 times, and how she learned to listen to her own voice instead of the noise around her. We talk resilience, introversion, managing pressure, and how to protect your joy - even when the world is watching.

Get ready to learn:

- How to know when to quit… and when to dig deeper.

- The surprising story behind how Shannon actually wrote a bestselling series.

- Why being yourself wins over popularity (and tips for embracing your authentic personality).

- The life lessons Shannon hopes we all walk away with after reading the Keeper series.

- Shannon’s hacks for handling pressure, feedback, and feeling not good enough.

Whether you’re chasing a creative dream, pursuing a goal, or figuring out your next step, Shannon reminds us that happiness grows not from perfection, but from the courage to persist, the clarity of purpose, and the freedom to be fully yourself.

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Ready to Hack Your Happiness some more? Listen to our interview with the bestselling mother & daughter duo behind the Dork Diaries book series, Rachel and Nikki Russell. In this episode, Rachel and Nikki share their story of working as a mother-daughter team, hacks for boosting family connection, and advice for embracing your authentic self: ⁠listen + watch now!

(00:00) Welcome, Shannon!

(00:44) How Did Shannon Get Started?

(02:36) Childhood Dream vs Current Career

(06:17) Knowing When To Give Up

(10:25) Keeper of the Lost Cities Took 20 Drafts Before Publication! What Kept Shannon Going?

(20:48) Spread Some Happiness

(21:28) How Can I Be More Perseverant?

(29:16) Feeling Isolated & Finding Your Tribe

(35:47) Holiday Gift Idea You Need!

(36:16) Your Blueprint To Becoming More Like Sophie Foster

(40:53) Hacks For Managing Pressure (+ navigating a growing fandom)

(47:03) Step Back And TRUST Your Story

(49:02) Personal Touches Within Keeper of the Lost Cities

(53:45) GAME! Keeper or Creeper

(57:10) Shannon To Her Teenage Self

(57:36) What Brings Shannon a Small Bit of Happiness?

(58:11) Shannon's Motivational Quote

(59:00) Find Shannon's NEW Graphic Novel!

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If you’ve ever felt unhappy for reasons you couldn’t name, your room COULD be part of the problem! This episode will show you why your space may be quietly influencing your happiness more than you think, and reveals exactly how to reverse engineer your space for more happiness.

Michelle Ogundehin is one of the most trusted voices in design. She is the former ELLE Decoration editor-in-chief, head judge on Interior Design Masters, and author of Happy Inside. At her core, Michelle's message is that our homes influence our happiness, and we can influence our happiness by re-shaping our homes!

Joining Mercedes and Anastasia, Michelle is here to show us how the walls around us mirror the life within us and how even small changes in our homes can spark massive shifts in our mood, focus, and overall well-being.

Get ready to learn:

- How your home and your happiness are secretly connected.

- Hacks for decluttering your mind by decluttering your space.

- Which colours boost calm, productivity, and joy.

- Top tips on how to optimize your space for more happiness.

- Essential items for all home owners!

Whether you’re feeling overwhelmed, uninspired, or just ready to fall back in love with your space, Michelle’s insights will remind you that happiness isn’t something you search for, it’s something you design.

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Ready to Hack Your Happiness some more? Listen to our interview with Food Network Star, Anna Olson. In this episode, Anna takes us BTS of filming for Food Network, shares hacks for lessening your fear of failure, and tips for anyone to learn from their setbacks: listen + watch now!

(⁠00:00) Welcome, Michelle!

(01:05) How Michelle Got Into Home Design

(02:08) What is a 'Home's Therapist'?

(03:20) Is Your Home Empowering or Sabotaging You?

(05:25) Take This FIRST Step to Happify Your Space

(09:52) Which Colors Boost Productivity & Calm Us?

(13:11) Hacks For When You Work/Study From Home

(17:01) Discovering The Link Between Home & Happiness

(20:13) Michelle's Home Non-Negotiables

(25:02) Who Comes to Mind?

(25:47) Tips For Finding YOUR Style!

(29:23) Must-Know Japanese Concepts of Living

(34:18) Happy Inside TEASER

(35:48) The Signature 4 C's + Hacks For Incorporating Them Into Your Life

(37:47) How Can I Speak With Confidence?

(39:43) BTS of Filming Interior Design Masters

(44:16) Reseting & Recharging

(45:47) Moving Into Your FIRST Home? Get These Affordable Essentials

(48:46) Boost Your Sleep!

(49:11) Michelle To Her Teenage Self

(51:06) What Brings Michelle a Small Bit of Happiness?

(55:20) Michelle's Motivational Quote

(56:23) Find Michelle Here

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Paige Adams-Geller has redefined how women feel in denim, but the real story is how she rebuilt confidence from the inside out.

Paige Adams-Geller went from teenage model in NYC to the founder of a global fashion empire, PAIGE. Mercedes and Anastasia are joined by Paige as she shares how moving from Alaska to NYC at 16 shaped her identity, what it took to heal from toxic environments in the modeling industry, and the moment she stepped away from it all to rediscover who she really was. She also gives an inspiring behind-the-scenes look into building PAIGE from a premium denim brand into a full lifestyle fashion house, and the science behind why what we wear can genuinely change how we feel.

In this episode:

- From Alaska to NYC at 16: how a bold move shaped her identity and confidence.

- The truth about growing up in the modeling industry.

- Tips for building a positive self-image & body-image.

- How Paige rebuilt her support system.

- What to wear to feel happier + more confident.

- Life lessons from philanthropy, advocacy, and sitting on boards that once helped her.

- Hacks for self-acceptance & setting boundaries.

Whether you’re navigating self-image, dreaming of launching a creative career, or simply trying to feel more empowered in your own skin, Paige’s story will remind you that confidence is built, not born, and that you are stronger than you think, no matter what chapter you’re in.

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Ready to Hack Your Happiness some more? Listen to our interview with 4x Oscar-winning costume designer and producer, Catherine Martin. In this episode, Catherine shares her top tips for collaboration, finding balance, and hacks for boosting your confidence: https://open.spotify.com/episode/0U5IjZZnu6KzYSVbkWP9Vw?si=SY2ienY5Rq-e7Ah6k-8nJg

(00:00) Welcome, Paige!

(02:14) How Paige Got Into Fashion

(03:50) What is a FIT Model?

(07:18) Moving To NYC At 16

(09:56) Life-Changing Moments in Paige's Career

(13:00) How Can I Accept Myself?

(17:38) A Look Into Paige's Brain As a Fashion Designer

(21:00) BTS of Growing Paige: Challenging vs Rewarding Moments

(24:56) How Can I Deal With Doubters?

(30:02) Coming Full Circle

(36:21) How Can I Build A Strong Support System?

(39:36) What Would Paige Change About Her Journey?

(42:16) Your Style Guide For More Confidence & Happiness

(45:12) Sources of Creativity & Inspiration

(47:45) The Meaning Behind 'Living in Loving Kindness'

(50:43) GAME! The Happiness Closet

(56:02) Want To Become a Fashion Designer? Here's Your FIRST Step!

(56:53) Swapping Closet With ANY Celebrity

(57:45) Paige To Her Teenage Self

(59:09) Hacks For Being Authentic

(1:01:42) What Brings Paige a Small Bit of Happiness?

(1:02:14) Find Paige Here

(1:03:49) Key Takeaways

Ever wondered how to break into fashion design? Paige Adams-Geller shares her journey, offering valuable inspiration for aspiring designers. From building a denim brand to empowering women, Paige's insights promote authenticity and self belief, fostering true confidence and self expression.

She became a bestseller before graduation. Today, we’re asking: what does joy look like after the dream comes true?

Chloe Gong started writing at 13, turned a love of stories into a #1 New York Times–bestselling career by 21, and built a global community by simply being herself. Mercedes and Anastasia sit down with Chloe to talk about turning early doubt into momentum, lessons from her New Zealand and Chinese culture, and tips for balancing life with the pursuit of self-growth and following your aspirations.

In this episode:

- How Chloe went from teen storyteller to #1 NYT bestselling author at 21.

- Bringing culture to the center: diaspora, language, and tiny details.

- A teaser from Chloe's new book, Coldwire!

- Hacks to time management from college to career: calendars, trade-offs, and communicating your limits.

- Tips for overcoming feelings of overwhelm.

- TRUTH about achieving success early in your career.

Whether you’re pushing yourself into self-growth, rewriting old habits, or simply trying to figure out your next step in life, Chloe’s insights will help you find joy in the process - not just the finish line.⁠

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Ready to Hack Your Happiness some more? Listen to our interview with bestselling author of Powerless, Lauren Roberts. In this episode, Lauren shares her top tips for self-discipline, the role of BookTok in building a career as an author, and hacks for managing internal + external pressure: https://open.spotify.com/episode/5jefOhHdrXDysOuCIJ53dI?si=PhHUijqDRF6G_zp4qrUQKA

(00:00) Welcome, Chloe!

(02:10) I Started Writing At 13

(05:47) What It Felt Like to Become One of the YOUNGEST NYT Bestselling Authors

(10:29) "We're Living in a Different Time"

(11:15) Finding Success Before Most People Find Confidence

(14:47) What Inspired Chloe to Base Her Books on Romeo & Juliet?

(18:21) How Chloe Blends Herself Into Her Books

(23:38) Do You Know Someone Who Has A BIG Goal?

(24:29) Greatest Lessons From Chloe's Chinese + New Zealand Culture

(28:45) Where Does Chloe Find Inspiration?

(33:14) Coldwire (Chloe's New Book) Teaser

(35:01) Hacks For Not Feeling Overwhelmed

(38:23) How Does Chloe Develop Her Characters?

(40:56) Tips For Pushing Yourself (in a healthy way)

(42:49) Being An Author + Full-Time Student: Chloe's Roadmap For Productivity

(48:22) How Can I Stay True to Myself?

(52:54) Looking Ahead: Where Chloe Sees Her Career Going

(54:53) Our Favorite Sleep Hack!

(55:19) GAME! The Joy Edit

(1:02:08) Chloe to Her Teenage Self

(1:04:06) What Brings Chloe a Small Bit of Happiness?

(1:04:32) Chloe's Motivational Quote

(1:05:00) Find Chloe Here

(1:06:08) Key Takeaways

Ever wondered how a book goes from idea to bestseller? Chloe Gong shares her journey, offering valuable writing tips for aspiring authors. From the initial spark to publishing a book and navigating the world of literary agent, Chloe's insights on authors and books provide a roadmap for success.

If you’ve ever felt too different, too quiet, too you - this episode will remind you that those are the best parts of you. Today's conversation will change how you see yourself, and your “dorky” side.

Rachel Renée Russell once put her writing dreams on hold after harsh criticism. Decades later, after her daughter, Nikki, underwent harsh bullying, they created Dork Diaries. This is a book series that turns middle school awkwardness into a global celebration of self-acceptance. With over 55 million copies sold, their stories have helped kids (and grown-ups!) everywhere realize that being different isn’t something to hide, it’s something to celebrate.

Mercedes and Anastasia are joined by the iconic mother–daughter duo behind Dork Diaries, Rachel and Nikki Russell, to talk about turning rejection into resilience, transforming insecurities into creativity, and finding happiness by embracing your most authentic self.

In this episode:

• How Dork Diaries began as a family project inspired by real middle school experiences

• Hacks for embracing who YOU are

• The behind-the-scenes magic of their creative collaboration as a mom–daughter team

• Tips for you to strengthen your family bond

• Most rewarding + challenging parts of writing a hit series

If you’ve ever felt unseen, stuck in your head, or unsure how to truly accept yourself, this episode will change the way you see yourself and others. Dr. Caroline Fleck has coached CEOs and taught at Stanford. She has made it her life’s work to help people turn pain into purpose. But her insights come from more than research - they come from living it. After battling depression, multiple sclerosis, and breast cancer, Dr. Fleck learned that the key to happiness and fulfillment isn’t avoiding pain…it’s transforming it.

This week, Mercedes and Anastasia are joined by Dr. Fleck to reveal how we can turn pain into purpose, make others feel truly seen, and find validation within ourselves when life gets hard (+ understand the importance of validation). With practical tips, real vulnerability, and profound wisdom, this episode is a masterclass in emotional strength and understanding yourself and your needs.

In this episode:

• Why we're wired for validation (and why it's different from praise!).

• Tips for self-validation & ways to make others feel seen.

• The theory of 'Energy Is Not Created Nor Destroyed'.

• Hacks to get out of your own head.

• Your guide to being there for others who are going through a difficult time.

Whether you’re struggling to find your place, rebuilding after a setback, or simply trying to understand yourself better, Dr. Fleck’s story and actionable advice will remind you that self-acceptance isn’t weakness, it’s the foundation of real strength.

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Ready to Hack Your Happiness some more? Listen to our interview with psychologist, Sonja Lyubomirsky. In this episode, Sonja breaks down tangible ways to feel happier daily, how + WHY you should connect with loved ones, and reveals some of her most fascinating research: https://open.spotify.com/episode/5s4N05921PxTTiSYeVwCwf?si=cA4nWAZrQyuPOe3Rvgn7-A

(00:00) Welcome, Dr. Caroline Fleck!

(02:10) Curing Depression?

(05:55) What is DBT?

(07:50) Here's What it Means to Feel 'Seen'

(10:29) Tips For Making Others Feel Seen

(16:37) What If I Don't Feel Seen?

(20:11) Hacks For Self-Validation

(21:57) Copy Dr. Fleck's Nightly Self-Validation Routine

(26:34) Energy Cannot Be Created or Destroyed

(31:08) A Dark Moment That Taught Dr. Fleck a Life Lesson

(33:23) Praise vs External Validation

(35:53) What is the Validation Ladder?

(37:24) Hacks For Getting Out of Your Head

(42:36) Tips For Communicating Your Struggles

(46:55) Why is Acceptance Important?

(49:53) Biggest Lessons Dr. Fleck Teaches to Fortune 500 Companies

(52:23) Blueprint to Supporting Loved Ones Through Tough Times

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