I recorded this episode about 5 days ago in the midst of clearing out my office.   Whilst working through the physical clutter (such as the accumulation of paperwork, books, certificates, flyers etc) it got me thinking… We collect things.   We collect crap.  We hold onto ‘stuff’ that doesn’t serve us. 

As we have more access to space/years/knowledge we hold onto more stuff.   Remember when you were a baby or a small child - you owned nothing; no belongings you’d purchased yourself, not many long term memories, no “baggage”, not many self limiting beliefs (if any), no fully developed awareness of self and others, no articulated learned experience.   But fast forward to our 30’s and 40’s and beyond and what we do have/hold - tonnes of crap, and not just in our homes but also in our mind and body!

So this podcast is just a positive ponder on the art of decluttering our life.  We do it with our rooms, our homes, our car, our careers even, but do we do it with ourselves???   Do we let go and metaphorically ‘bin’ the things that no longer serve us?  If we don’t then we have to deal with the impact of accumulation and overcrowding and hanging onto things that we no longer need or don’t provide value anymore.   Holding onto all of this mental (and embodied) clutter is going to cause chaos in your relationships with yourself and others, which is only going to lead to challenges in physical and mental wellbeing.

So today, let’s talk about this analogy of decluttering where I’ll bring in a snapshot of thoughts and wisdom of others from their teachings and shares, and give you a bit of food for thought with how we should cleanse and renew ourselves on the regular for a closer shot at living a life of clarity and joy.

As always, if you like the podcast then please don't forget to connect at our other channels and download/share/subscribe to this episode and to the subsequent ones!  Also, if you're feeling generous and like what you hear then any ratings and feedback would be welcomed! 

Please contact me directly if you have any Q&As or topics to be explored in future shows.  Also, if you’re interested in coaching with me then please connect with me on social media or via the details in the shows home page, alternatively you can pop a discovery chat in the diary with me by using this link: https://calendly.com/vitalvibe/discovery-call 

Much love!

Gen xoxo

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Imagine if you could use your tough, ikky, hard emotions to expand yourself!   Well you can.     In today's masterclass I’m going to cover the emotions of fear, sadness, grief, anger, confusion, loneliness, jealousy and guilt, and help you reposition them so that you can find their power AND their message.   But to do this you've got to listen to their noise…  get ready to turn up the volume!

Life is a myriad of shit-storms amongst our preferred bed of roses, but when we get struck with a difficult situation and it brings with it the “negative” emotions the last thing we want to do is bury them - this might seem counter-intuitive, but by being in the emotion we get some clarity of intention.  Let’s stick to a plan of action to celebrate the message in the mess.

In this week’s episode I’ll take you through a technique that you can use to re-frame your hard emotions through the use of words and colours alongside embodiment and leaning into the emotion itself.  But we’re not re-framing them in a way to ignore them or discount them, but rather letting them stand in all their glory and delivery of their message.  By choosing acceptance of these feelings/emotions then we can move into a place of expansion where growth becomes our driving force.

And if that wasn’t enough, I’m also going to take each of the hard emotions I’ve focused on and give you at least 3 activities that you can do to allow you to lean into the emotion and teach yourself a new way of acting on it.  As the teacher and the student you will then be able to cherish these emotions as expansive and transformational by positively receiving the subliminal messaging they deliver with much more clarity.

As always, if you like the podcast then please don't forget to connect at our other channels and download/share/subscribe to this episode and to the subsequent ones!  Also, if you're feeling generous and like what you hear then any ratings and feedback would be welcomed! 

Please contact me directly if you have any Q&As or topics to be explored in future shows.  Also, if you’re interested in coaching with me then please connect with me on social media or via the details in the shows home page, alternatively you can pop a discovery chat in the diary with me by using this link: https://calendly.com/vitalvibe/discovery-call 

Much love!

Gen xoxo

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Life is such a myriad of assumptions, requirements, projections and standards, especially when it comes to interpersonal and romantic relationships.  We take our unique style and try to find someone to complement that and also even mirror it.   But it’s pretty impossible because we’re all different.

Yet we give advice and receive advice throughout our life and how can this advice always ring true for you - it’s received by you but given by someone else.  What works for one person may not work for another, and therefore we receive and perceive everything so differently.  That’s why we just all need to be ourselves and make our own choices without guilt, shame or judgement.   The key here is to accept and own ourselves with grace and compassion, and extend this human right to others in your space.

We’re all products of our own environment, our past, our present, our genetics, our epigenetics, our childhood and our adult relationships - we are shaped by so much and this is even more apparent as we move through life.  When you hit your 40’s you’ve usually worked out who you are and are ready to either lean into that or make some changes so you can become the person you’re now ready to be.  We can't be railroaded to be who someone else wants us to be.  So just be you and do your own thing.

In this episode I’ll go through what shapes us in life from trauma to attachment types to societal conditioning, personal values and even your horoscope.  If you mix everything up we will never be a mirror image of anyone.  And that’s okay.  We need to embrace the value of difference and accept who and how we are.    The episode will finish with a snapshot of how to do you for you.

As always, if you like the podcast then please don't forget to connect at our other channels and download/share/subscribe to this episode and to the subsequent ones!  Also, if you're feeling generous and like what you hear then any ratings and feedback would be welcomed! 

Please contact me directly if you have any Q&As or topics to be explored in future shows.  Also, if you’re interested in coaching with me then please connect with me on social media or via the details in the shows home page, alternatively you can pop a discovery chat in the diary with me by using this link: https://calendly.com/vitalvibe/discovery-call

Much love!

Gen xoxo

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Let’s talk about doing stuff wrong.   Hands up if you’ve EVER made a wrong choice or a bad decision?  Hmmm, I can see a lot of hands going up here (honestly, I can).  I put both my hands up, and my feet!     Sooooo many times.   But hey, I don’t regret it (even the costly ones), but I do recognise that feeling of “oooohhhh sh!t, what have I done??”

We’ve all been there and realised we’ve made a boo-boo of the highest order.  We’ve misused our time, our money, our energy, our intentions.  We’ve backed the wrong horse and it has created a real dilemma.     But it’s about owning this and stepping up to reclaim the situation and deal with it!    Not ignore it.   No, deal with!  

In this week's podcast I’ll talk about regret, calculated risks, damage limitation and the sunk cost fallacy.  I’ll also highlight the chaos of emotions we feel from bad choices; anger, guilt, frustration, annoyance, sadness, and despair.     And it’s okay to stay in this place for a short while as emotions need to play out, but you CANNOT stay there.   Let’s get you back on track.

I’ve give you a viewpoint on a few examples and then I’ll highlight some key actions that you must take to get yourself out of harm's way, because the more you  sit and don’t act, the more you’ll get deeper and deeper into stress, regret and despair.     The best thing you can do in these situations, as always, is take agency and own yourself.     We are flawed human beings, no one is perfect, period.   So as soon as we recognise that life isn’t a series of great choices and best decisions then the sooner we can roll with those punches and get back up when we go down.

As always, if you like the podcast then please don't forget to connect at our other channels and download/share/subscribe to this episode and to the subsequent ones!  Also, if you're feeling generous and like what you hear then any ratings and feedback would be welcomed! 

Please contact me directly if you have any Q&As or topics to be explored in future shows.  Also, if you’re interested in coaching with me then please connect with me on social media or via the details in the shows home page, alternatively you can pop a discovery chat in the diary with me by using this link: https://calendly.com/vitalvibe/discovery-call

Much love!

Gen xoxo

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TRIGGER WARNING: It’s taken 2 years for me to activate my voice on this matter but with the recent media events of a famous comedian, it’s opened the door for me to stand in my power and talk out about my own experiences of sexual assault. In doing so I hope that more women will feel stronger to speak out of their experiences, and even more importantly that any men listening will get a reminder that this behaviour is not okay. If this will trigger you then you may choose to skip the episode, or feel safety in knowing that you are not alone.

I’m a feminist but that doesn't mean I dislike men - in fact the very opposite is true. But most countries and cultures are inadvertently governed by the patriarchy, either historically or currently, and only in recent years have women gained more rights for equality and to activate their voice and power, but this hasn’t been as rapid and is by no means equal. Hence why I’m a feminist; for equality of power and rights.

As a woman it’s super hard for us to find our voice after abuse and sexual assault, although with the #metoo movement and the furore after a British police officer sexually assaulted and murdered a member of the public that he was employed to protect, there have been some changes. I’ve had experiences with the police where they’ve not effectively, or empathetically, listened to my allegations and I wanted to speak out after my last experience ended up in me NOT going to the police. As women, we don’t talk about our encounters due to the shame, the guilt, and the potential assumptions that people will make as well as the reliving and the extension of the trauma. I’ve had 5 sexual boundary violations throughout my life (I say 5 as the more serious but of course cat calling, slapping your bum and just general maltreatment of me as a woman will account for way more than 5 times). I’ll also talk about relationships and encounters with dark triads, sexual predators and misogynists and how this can hold us in a trauma bond whilst they demean us and break us down with their bad behaviour and unscrupulous ways.

This is why boundaries and self agency are so important. Because, way back when, I didn’t have any. Not that boundaries stop a sexual predator, but they do potentially move you a little out of harm's way. It took a cancer diagnosis to make me sit up and listen to my nervous system and its people pleasing tendencies that had developed over years in the trauma response. I developed acute symptoms of PTSD (after my experience in 2021) and I’ve since done work on this and identified why I was a possible target (attachment type, ADHD, empath, self esteem, people pleaser, lack of boundaries). EMDR has helped me massively.

**Disclaimer - none of this was my fault/is your fault. I’m just explaining why I might have been easy prey after the perpetrators sussed me out. So be your own bodyguard and get yourself some boundaries.**

As always, if you like the podcast then please don't forget to connect at our other channels and download/share/subscribe to this episode and to the subsequent ones! Also, if you're feeling generous and like what you hear then any ratings and feedback would be welcomed! Please contact me directly if you have any Q&As or topics to be explored in future shows. Also, if you’re interested in coaching with me then please connect with me on social media or via the details in the shows home page, alternatively you can pop a discovery chat in the diary with me by using this link: https://calendly.com/vitalvibe/discovery-call

Much love!

Gen xoxo

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Have you ever felt that your value and contribution isn’t being recognised and your brilliance is being overshadowed by some kind of dumbing-down?  This could be in work, relationships, or life in general, but either way it’s impacting your confidence and self esteem.  But the worst part is that this isn’t even an accurate reflection of how you feel about yourself but rather how someone else is treating you, and therefore making you feel…

When we’re not fulfilled or given the chance to shine we become disengaged, disempowered and oftentimes we move into low vibration energy that changes our entire mood and self belief and puts us into an apathetic state of being.  But this is NOT where we want to be because it steals our soul and wastes our precious time alive.

In this week's episode I’m going to introduce you to the ‘shrink’ zone, which is the opposite of the ‘stretch’ zone and sits behind your comfort zone.   Shrinking is worse than just being comfy because when you’re in this position (and not by initial choice) it’s going to slowly chink away at your brilliance and dull your sparkle.  In the shrink zone, you will feel ‘less than’ what you know you are what you truly have to offer and this can have a huge detriment to our confidence and self esteem!   

I’ll recap on some of Maslows Hierachy of Needs and other previous episode topics, touch on the burnout versus boreout phenomenons, and introduce you to hygiene and motivation factors and why we need to be in the ‘achievement zone’ and not the ‘apathy zone’ to feel psychologically safe and accountable/empowered at work .   I’ll also highlight why our intimate relationship needs and attachment types can also muddy the waters of confidence and self esteem if we’re not with someone who is allowing us to be the best version of ourselves through keeping us small, shrinking our soul, or not recognising our value.

At the end of this episode I’ll give a few steps on the best way to get out of this space to avoid inertia creeping in by identifying exactly what you bring to the table, what you want from your life, and by standing in your power and taking action to  change your life, reclaim your brilliance, and stop that shrinking feeling inside!

As always, if you like the podcast then please don't forget to connect at our other channels and download/share/subscribe to this episode and to the subsequent ones!  Also, if you're feeling generous and like what you hear then any ratings and feedback would be welcomed!  Please contact me directly if you have any Q&As or topics to be explored in future shows.  Also, if you’re interested in coaching with me then please connect with me on social media or via the details in the shows home page, alternatively you can pop a discovery chat in the diary with me by using this link: https://calendly.com/vitalvibe/introduction-call 

Much love!

Gen xoxo

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What happens when we’re happily meandering through life and we’re on track with our goals and aligning to our vision and values, but something stops us dead in those tracks?  Well, let's face it, we usually freak out a little!     Especially when it’s something beyond our control or it’s turbulence that we hadn’t prepared for in our “blue sky” thinking.    These situations can sometimes really throw our ideals off track because we’re not prepared for them in the way that we had planned our ideal and linear approach in optimum conditions!

But what if we can work in a way that is a bit more pragmatic and go with the flow of traffic?   This is where we can look at pivoting, a bit like a business start up does when they’ve gotten going with their prototype and realised that some of the conditions, or some of the product, or some of the customer appetite is not how they had imagined or planned.   So what do they do?  They course correct - they move to where the blue skies are and follow the money.

In life we’re not all about following the money, but as a metaphor from the world of business, we can see that for all intents and purposes, this is the end goal.  Money (as a metaphor) is our pot at the end of the rainbow. So if we have an end goal in life (or at least for that period of time) but conditions take over and leave us a bit high and dry we need to find a way to deal with it.   That might be retracting completely, continuing regardless, or finding an alternative way, which is what we need to do to allow ourselves to gracefully deal with the roadblocks.

By setting ourselves up with options and then weighing these up as viable or not viable, we can then make informed and fully owned decisions about pivoting to make life a lot less hellish and take back control of the wheel!

As always, if you like the podcast then please don't forget to connect at our other channels and download/share/subscribe to this episode and to the subsequent ones!  Also, if you're feeling generous and like what you hear then any ratings and feedback would be welcomed! 

Please contact me directly if you have any Q&As or topics to be explored in future shows.  Also, if you’re interested in coaching with me then please connect with me on social media or via the details in the shows home page, alternatively you can pop a discovery chat in the diary with me by using this link: https://calendly.com/vitalvibe/introduction-call 

Much love!

Gen xoxo

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Lacking in confidence is a nuisance nemesis and can either make us or break us… but get this, everyone lacks confidence in certain things!  Not one single person walking this planet is confident all the time, and at everything.   Even if they look like they are, think twice!    Don’t imagine that it’s only you that struggles here.  We all do!!!  However, we will always find our confidence when we feel sure of ourselves and our abilities, so to break this confidence block we need to get rid of self doubt!

This episode will break down the self doubt gremlins that reside deep inside us and why they allow our fear to take-over, and why we then tell ourselves a bundle of lies about the possibility of success!  I will give you a real life example that happened to me and how I went from a very clear zero to a hero!

When we get interference from our thoughts, opinions of others, lack of experience, pressure from ourselves and others, OR lack of support, we can CAVE.  But, if we switch all of this around and cultivate positive self love, thoughts of brilliance, silencing the chatter and the monkey in our brain, creating repetition and progress to build skills and knowledge, and finding the necessary support, then we can CRUSH it!!!

I’ll give you around 15 hacks to bolster your confidence and each one can be used in different scenarios and in different energies i.e. some are reflecting and intention setting, whilst others are more pragmatic and practical enhancements.   There are many routes to bolstering confidence but the number one requirement is desire!   If we desire something then we can pull on all the resources that we can find to create and cultivate a formidable confidence in ourselves and when we have this we will bring the magic.

“Where your attention goes, energy flows and results show” 

As always, if you like the podcast then please don't forget to connect at our other channels and download/share/subscribe to this episode and to the subsequent ones!  Also, if you're feeling generous and like what you hear then any ratings and feedback would be welcomed! 

Please contact me directly if you have any Q&As or topics to be explored in future shows.  Also, if you’re interested in coaching with me then please connect with me on social media or via the details in the shows home page, alternatively you can pop a discovery chat in the diary with me by using this link: https://calendly.com/vitalvibe/introduction-call 

Much love!

Gen xoxo

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How can you move forward if you don’t know what’s holding you back?    In this episode I’m going to give you a format for assessing where you’re at, where you want to be, and how to get there.  In doing this work you can clearly see your gaps and your blind spots but it won’t come without a bit of introspection and reflection and some hard feedback from people who want to see you win!

When we split our life into two (the present and the future) we can deep dive a bit more into where we’d like to be and what’s either allowing us or stopping us from getting there.  We can map out a picture of desirability and put in a step by step plan on how to get there.    We might also HAVE to do a piece of change, so rather than it being motivated by desire (pull factor) you are being motivated by necessity (push factor), which can actually be a bit harder.

This podcast will talk you through some business change and project management approaches and jargon that can easily be adopted in your own life - in fact it’s a good framework to follow for change, because it works!     We get a chance to ask lots of questions and really get under the skin of what the current weakness, problem or threat is as well as considering the strengths, the opportunities and the motivation for change.   Once we know this we can look at things like feasibility of the proposed/desired change, the resources available to make it happen (versus what’s required), and also levels of commitment from yourself and the available support from others.  

In combination with the process bit there’s also a huge piece on self awareness because no matter how much you might want something if you’re standing in your own way then it's a sure non-starter.   You have to get out of your own way, but sometimes you might not even be aware you are in it!    So I’ll guide you a little into how you can start to open up your levels of self awareness so you can mindfully grow and change with ease!

As always, if you like the podcast then please don't forget to connect at our other channels and download/share/subscribe to this episode and to the subsequent ones!  Also, if you're feeling generous and like what you hear then any ratings and feedback would be welcomed! 

Please contact me directly if you have any Q&As or topics to be explored in future shows.  Also, if you’re interested in coaching with me then please connect with me on social media or via the details in the shows home page, alternatively you can pop a discovery chat in the diary with me by using this link: https://calendly.com/vitalvibe/introduction-call 

Much love!

Gen xoxo

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Values are part of our personal Code of Conduct alongside boundaries and personal needs, so if we don’t know them or live in accordance with them, how can we live our best life?   Not only do they create a roadmap for life, but they also give us comfort, joy and purpose.  

This episode will deep dive into how we come to the conclusion of our values.  Some of them we inherit or are norms and practices, but they’re not always our own, so we need to work out exactly what we want to live by, and die by!   Not only do our values create a life of intention but they also create a legacy of what we leave (or live) behind!   

When we embody our values through behaviour and actions we become aligned to our authenticity and vice versa; our authenticity is what makes our values specific to us.  We need to use values as a benchmark for our own standards as well as those of others, particularly in relationships and with our work (either your employers or your own business brand values).

Towards the end of this episode I’ll give you a business strategy analogy that will outline the components needed for your personal Code of Conduct and some helpful pointers on how to identify your values and live by them so as to live your best life!

As always, if you like the podcast then please don't forget to connect at our other channels and download/share/subscribe to this episode and to the subsequent ones!  Also, if you're feeling generous and like what you hear then any ratings and feedback would be welcomed! 

Please contact me directly if you have any Q&As or topics to be explored in future shows.  Also, if you’re interested in coaching with me then please connect with me on social media or via the details in the shows home page, alternatively you can pop a discovery chat in the diary with me by using this link: https://calendly.com/vitalvibe/introduction-call 

Much love!

Gen xoxo

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