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Join us as we take a break from our normal format and dig into being a better father. This is something that has been on our mind since we have 10 kids represented in the 3 dads on our podcast! We will be skipping the normal three segments (What's on your mind, top 3, and a good word) and we will be talking about traits and characteristics of being a good father. We are using this article 23 Qualities of a Good Father - Traits & Characteristics written by Jeff Campbell from newmiddleclassdad.com. The plan is to cover about 3 qualities per episode. Since the ages of our kids are spread between 20 and 5, we'll have some insight that will help all of our listeners!

This Week:

19. Don't use profanity in front of the kids until they are in high school

20. Let them be a kid 21. Teach them about finances **Links**

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Join us as we take a break from our normal format and dig into being a better father. This is something that has been on our mind since we have 10 kids represented in the 3 dads on our podcast! We will be skipping the normal three segments (What's on your mind, top 3, and a good word) and we will be talking about traits and characteristics of being a good father. We are using this article 23 Qualities of a Good Father - Traits & Characteristics written by Jeff Campbell from newmiddleclassdad.com. The plan is to cover about 3 qualities per episode. Since the ages of our kids are spread between 20 and 5, we'll have some insight that will help all of our listeners!

This Week:

16. Follow through on your promises 17. Tell & show your kids you love them every day 18. Treat your spouse (or ex) with dignity **Links**

https://www.hardheadedpodcast.com/

Listen: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/hardheaded/id1547549886

https://open.spotify.com/show/7cthewmZDtlLEyUvKrsbNr?si=ba4484fd0f4e48c6

Join us as we take a break from our normal format and dig into being a better father. This is something that has been on our mind since we have 10 kids represented in the 3 dads on our podcast! We will be skipping the normal three segments (What's on your mind, top 3, and a good word) and we will be talking about traits and characteristics of being a good father. We are using this article 23 Qualities of a Good Father - Traits & Characteristics written by Jeff Campbell from newmiddleclassdad.com. The plan is to cover about 3 qualities per episode. Since the ages of our kids are spread between 20 and 5, we'll have some insight that will help all of our listeners!

This week!

13. Loving your kids doesn't mean you have to love everything they do! 14. Set consequences for poor choices. 15. Don't make others suffer for the sake of a "teachable moment"

**Links**

https://www.hardheadedpodcast.com/

Listen: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/hardheaded/id1547549886

https://open.spotify.com/show/7cthewmZDtlLEyUvKrsbNr?si=ba4484fd0f4e48c6

Join us as we take a break from our normal format and dig into being a better father. This is something that has been on our mind since we have 10 kids represented in the 3 dads on our podcast! We will be skipping the normal three segments (What's on your mind, top 3, and a good word) and we will be talking about traits and characteristics of being a good father. We are using this article 23 Qualities of a Good Father - Traits & Characteristics written by Jeff Campbell from newmiddleclassdad.com. The plan is to cover about 3 qualities per episode. Since the ages of our kids are spread between 20 and 5, we'll have some insight that will help all of our listeners! 7. Model the behavior you expect from them

Don't want them swearing at school? Guess what you shouldn't do in front of them?

Want to teach your sons to be respectful to women? They will model how you treat their mother. Lose your cool every time someone cuts you off in traffic? You're teaching them to be impatient and hot-headed.

The qualities of a good father have to include you leading by example.

8. Explain to them the "why" behind the rule

How many times have parents said "because I said so" or "because I'm your father".

Guess what? Those aren't reasons (at least not good ones).

It's crucial that kids understand why they are being grounded. Why a privilege is being taken away or even why they can't watch Saw III.

As Dave Ramsey is fond of saying, "to be clear is to be kind".

When they understand, they will be more apt to accept it. They'll be less apt to do it again (if they were doing something wrong). And (perhaps most importantly) they will respect you more for taking the time to explain yourself and not just pull rank.

9. Give yourself a timeout when needed

When we talk to our kids in the heat of the moment we aren't always in the best frame of mind to deal with them.

There's NOTHING wrong with waiting to have a conversation until you are in the frame of mind to communicate effectively.

Talking to them when we are angry at best makes them yell back.

Then it escalates the whole thing.

Neither is actually listening to the other and instead just waiting their turn to talk (or yell). At worst, it teaches our kids to be scared of us and being scared of our parents is one of the worst feelings we can have.

Being a "do as I say, not as I do" parent has no place in your description of a good father.

**Links** https://www.hardheadedpodcast.com/

Listen: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/hardheaded/id1547549886https://open.spotify.com/show/7cthewmZDtlLEyUvKrsbNr?si=ba4484fd0f4e48c6

Join us as we take a break from our normal format and dig into being a better father. This is something that has been on our mind since we have 10 kids represented in the 3 dads on our podcast! We will be skipping the normal three segments (What's on your mind, top 3, and a good word) and we will be talking about traits and characteristics of being a good father. We are using this article 23 Qualities of a Good Father - Traits & Characteristics written by Jeff Campbell from newmiddleclassdad.com. The plan is to cover about 3 qualities per episode. Since the ages of our kids are spread between 20 and 5, we'll have some insight that will help all of our listeners!

from the article:

4. Take an active interest in their interests

Guess what? I'm not a huge Katie Perry fan. But you know how many times I've heard her music? It's well into the hundreds.

I also took my oldest daughter to see Panic! at the Disco in concert with one of her BFFs. Not exactly my scene (but I actually was impressed).

When you take an interest in your kid's interests, you're taking an interest in them. You're telling them you care about them as a person.

5. Let kids develop their own interests

When I was 10 guess what? I liked a lot of different stuff than what my Mom liked. And that's OK.

It's OK to influence our kid's taste (that's why I kept playing Star Wars moviesuntil they clicked).

But we have to accept that our kids are going to not like everything we like.

They will like some stuff we don't and that's OK (as long as what they like is age-appropriate)

6. Don't have a different set of rules for your kids than you do for yourself

No one likes a hypocrite, so why should our kids be any different?

Mean what you say and say what you mean.

Example: In our house, Sunday is "technology-free day", so my wife and I do our best to avoid technology for personal use as well.

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Join us as we take a break from our normal format and dig into being a better father. This is something that has been on our mind since we have 10 kids represented in the 3 dads on our podcast! We will be skipping the normal three segments (What's on your mind, top 3, and a good word) and we will be talking about traits and characteristics of being a good father. We are using this article 23 Qualities of a Good Father - Traits & Characteristics written by Jeff Campbell from newmiddleclassdad.com. The plan is to cover about 3 qualities per episode. Since the ages of our kids are spread between 20 and 5, we'll have some insight that will help all of our listeners!

10. Set clear boundaries

We are their parents, not their friends.

That doesn't mean we don't love them unconditionally. And it doesn't mean we don't take an interest in their interests.

But at the end of the day, our most important job is to keep them safe and educate them so they can go on to be productive people in society.

Kids WANT structure.

They want guidelines and they crave the safety and security of knowing the boundaries.

Sure as they enter their teen years (or heck, sometimes their 3's) they may test those boundaries but don't ever doubt the need to set clear rules and boundaries.

11. Set clear expectations

As with #10, it's important that kids clearly know what's expected of them. No one likes living with vague.

When we are clear (as in, "when you come home from school today I want you to clean your room before you go play and I want to see it when you're done") our kids know EXACTLY what they need to do.

Nothing feels better than knowing exactly what I need to do.

But within reason, give our kids the end goal and maybe a time frame but allow them the freedom to map out how they get there.

You won't be there to micromanage their whole life, so letting them explore now sets them up for success later.

12. Protect your kids

Dads are traditionally known for their role as a protector of the family.

There are many ways to protect your kids beyond the physical;

• Having life insurance (click to read my best tips) for yourself
• Saving for kid's college (click to read my guide)
• Making sure you have an emergency fund (click to read my article) in place for unexpected large expenses

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Join us as we take a break from our normal format and dig into being a better father. This is something that has been on our mind since we have 10 kids represented in the 3 dads on our podcast! We will be skipping the normal three segments (What's on your mind, top 3, and a good word) and we will be talking about traits and characteristics of being a good father. We are using this article 23 Qualities of a Good Father - Traits & Characteristics written by Jeff Campbell from newmiddleclassdad.com. The plan is to cover about 3 qualities per episode. Since the ages of our kids are spread between 20 and 5, we'll have some insight that will help all of our listeners! Covered in this episode: 1. Be present and involved 2. Say you're sorry 3. Spend quality time with your family It would be great for you to share the episodes with other dads you know as well as interact with us in the comments on youtube or social media. We hope you join us on this journey to be better parents and ultimately point our kids to Christ. https://www.hardheadedpodcast.com/

Matt contemplates changing his socks after 1.5 years with the same pair. He was also recently mistaken for a Vietnam veteran, which is about a three decade overview. Maybe it is due to his gray beard that has recently come on.

Top 3 Little Debbie Snacks: Christmas tree cakes, nutty buddy, Oatmeal Cream Pie, honeybun, fudge brownie, star crunch

Topics discussed: 1. What's On Your Mind: Matt is mistaken as a Vietnam veteran and he may chang his socks after 1.5 years! 2. Top 3 Little Debbie snacks 3. A Good Word from Chet: Deborah. Judges 4:8-9

Links * http://admiralspennant.com/ * https://www.hardheadedpodcast.com/ * https://www.trussellmedia.com/

Hosts: Matt Amos Chet Sears Troy Trussell

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This week on Hardheaded, Troy ignores Chet's advice and reads the book "One Second After" by William Forstchen. It is a post apocalyptic story about a small town in North Carolina after an EMP destroys the US power grid. It basically makes you start prepping and that is exactly what happened with Troy. Luckily, his wife read the book too so they are on the same page

The conversation shifts to our Top 3 mainstream father figures. There is some overlap in all three of our lists when it comes to a certain duck hunter.

Matt closes us out with a good word from 1 Corinthians.

*Topics discussed:* 1. What's On Your Mind: Troy and One Second After 2. Top 3 Mainstream father figures 3. A Good Word from Matt: 1 Cor. 16:13-14 Act like men

Top 3: Mainstream Father Figures: Mike Rowe, Phil Robertson, Jordan Peterson,Tim Ramos, - Man in the Arena Podcast, Jordan Peterson, Phil Robertson, Brian Mills - Taken, Kirk Cameron, Phil Robertson-Jase， Willie, Al

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This week on Hardheaded, Chet talks about some of his recent travels. Snow leapords and dogs on planes, gate lice, silence on public buses in Japan, and entitled passengers are all topics that come up.

The conversation then switches to the top 3 Hostess snacks. I hope you listen to this on a full stomach or else you'll be craving some junk food!

Troy closes us out with a good word from Psalm 34:8

**Topics discussed:**

1. What's On Your Mind: Travel Woes 2. Top 3: Hostess Snacks 3. A Good Word from Psalm 34:8

*Links* * http://admiralspennant.com/ * https://www.hardheadedpodcast.com/

Hostess Snacks

Blueberry mini muffins, coffee cakes, chocolate donettes, orange cupcakes, powdered donettes, twinkles, ding dongs, ho hos, chocolate cupcakes..

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