How do you know if your marriage is over? And once you know, how do you overcome the fears associated with divorce?

Debra Doak is a Certified Divorce Coach and Certified Divorce Financial Analyst on a mission to give women the confidence they need to speak up for what they deserve in their relationships or at the negotiating table. Debra specializes in helping women make difficult decisions about marriage and money, and she is the author of High-Conflict Divorce for Women: Your Guide to Coping Skills and Legal Strategies for All Stages of Divorce.

On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Debra joins Katherine to discuss the signs that a marriage is over and offer guidance around what to do if you’re not sure whether to stay or go. She describes how she works with clients who are afraid to leave, walking us through her five-step process for identifying, challenging and reframing our fears about divorce. Listen in for Debra’s insight on taking off your grey-colored glasses to imagine a more fulfilling future and learn how to achieve self-reliance in the aftermath of divorce.

Topics Covered

Debra’s insight around the signs that a marriage is over

The concept of negative sentiment override

Asking your spouse to do 5 things that will make you 10% happier

What to do if you’re not sure whether to stay or go

Debra’s take on people who ‘didn’t know the marriage was THAT bad’

How Debra works with clients who are afraid to leave

Debra’s 5 steps to DITCH your fears about divorce

1. Decide

2. Investigate

3. Team up

4. Campaign

5. Hope

How to take off your grey-colored glasses and imagine a fulfilling future

Why Debra focuses on helping women achieve self-reliance

Debra’s experience working with women who were the breadwinner

How Debra directs clients to the best divorce process for their situation

Connect with Debra Doak

Debra’s Website: https://debradoak.com/

Connect with Katherine Miller

The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/

Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/

Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1

The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246

Email: [email protected]

Call (914) 738-7765

Resources

High-Conflict Divorce for Women: Your Guide to Coping Skills and Legal Strategies for All Stages of Divorce by Debra Doak: https://www.amazon.com/High-Conflict-Divorce-Women-Coping-Strategies/dp/1641528192

The Gottman Institute’s Negative Sentiment Override Quiz: https://www.gottman.com/blog/quiz-negative-sentiment-override/