Have More Fun with Mandy Arioto

Description:

In this episode Mandy talks with Hannah Brencher about writing letters to strangers building things out of love instead of fear and how to make friends in a new city.

Selected Links:

Hanna's Website

Hannah's Instagram

More Love Letters

Hannah's latest book "Come Matter Here: Your Invitation to Be Here in a Getting There World"

MOPS

Music by: Phillip E Morris "Sunshine & Blue Skies" soundcloud.com/philipemorris & pema.bandcamp.com

Show Notes:

1:00 Introduction- Making big decisions by coin flips

2:15 The "happiness" result of 20,000 coin flips

3:02 The coin toss gives us clarity

3:40 How to make a decision based on a coin flip

3:55 Just say "Yes!"

4:05 Introduction of Hannah Brencher

5:00 Moving to New York City and overcoming depression

5:25 Writing letters to strangers

6:19 If you need a love letter, just ask. How it all got started

7:22 You are not the only one facing this

7:55 Did you write all the letters?

8:04 How long did it take you to write all the letters

8:45 What story stands out to you of all the letters you've written

10:02 The Big move

10:28 How to make friends in a new city

12:05 Happy hour instead of a speaker fee

12:45 Ikea bringing people together

13:10 The chase for the next best thing

14:01 Don't miss what's happening in this moment

14:41 How to be present during a busy day

15:02 Building things out of fear instead of love

16:21 I didn't have to let fear drive the car to Atlanta

16:56 Dismantling flakiness

17:50 Showing up when you'd rather not

19:05 The Fight Song Journal

20:47 Being Where Your Feet Are and Experiencing Belonging

21:50 Belonging comes with honesty

22:48 Initiating versus waiting for others to initiate

23:40 Sometimes we have to be the invitation

24:00 Come Matter Here

25:10 Waiting on a text saying, "Come matter here"

26:03 Letting people know that they matter

26:15 A simple prayer… "God show up"

27:08 God doesn't leave me

27:20 What does "show up" mean

27:57 What are you doing to have more fun in your life right now

29:49 What is the best advice you never got

30:49 Just because you can multi-task, doesn't mean you should

31:15 Get the 1st Chapter of Mandy's new book for FREE

Quotes:

"The moment the penny is up in the air, you suddenly know what you're hoping" Piet Hein

If you need a love letter… just ask

Be where your feet are

It doesn't matter what you fill it with… it usually doesn't fill

When we spread ourselves too thin we are doing a disservice to people

Belonging is like the manual at IKEA

You have to be willing to put yourself out there

The things that are hard transform us the most

Sometimes you have to BE the invitation

Most of the prayers that we need to say are simple and they don't need to be muddied up with a ton of beautiful, eloquent words.

I'm slowly learning as I get older that multi tasking, while it's possible, isn't actually something that's most effective.

Description:

In this episode Mandy talks with Jessica Honegger about how a pawn shop and adoption led her to start the most successful fair-trade jewelry company in the world. Also, why it's important to value long-term efforts over short-term results.

Selected Links:

Jessica's Website

Jessica's Instagram

Noonday Collection

Jessica's latest book

MOPS

Music by: Phillip E Morris "Sunshine & Blue Skies" soundcloud.com/philipemorris & pema.bandcamp.com

Show Notes:

1:12 Introduction- Rest, Work and Play

2:01 Women prioritizing work over rest and play

2:30 Why are men and boys the way they are

3:53 Introducing Jessica Honegger

4:33 Starting the largest fair trade jewelry company in the world

4:57 How to keep moving forward in spite of your fears

5:08 The misconception of courage

5:38 Is courage accessible to all of us?

6:30 The only way around our fears is through them

7:35 The "What if" fears that come up

8:25 Vulnerability is being able to take a risk without being tied to the outcome

8:55 I'd rather die trying than not try at all

9:20 Why is it so tempting to "bubble wrap" our lives

10:15 I can do the best job I can as a mom and my kids can still end up in jail someday

10:45 The freedom of realizing I'm not in control

11:30 My very first trunk show… how it all started

12:20 Sometimes our desperation leads to our most courageous acts

13:00 When we are convinced that no one will show up

13:40 We really do want to show up for each other

14:26 Walking compassionately

14:45 Ambassador community of Noonday Collection

15:04 Courage is contagious

15:30 Confirming the bias we want

16:37 It's a journey

16:57 The LIE of insta-success

17:40 You can't google your life's purpose

18:30 How all the "random crazy things" connect

19:30 Intrinsic and extrinsic motivational forces

20:24 What you are doing matters and has purpose

20:36 What tips do you have for women entrepreneurs

21:00 Believe in what you are doing and it's got to be connected to your purpose

21:39 You have to take the long view over the short term pain

22:44 There's a waiting that is expectant… you've just to keep at it

23:48 Thoughts for someone who's got big dreams but feels stuck

24:38 There's just nothing that's going to give you proof that there will be success… you just have to move

24:50 Test the market and have the conversations

25:25 What to do if you are interested in becoming a Noonday Ambassador

26:49 What's the best advice you never got

27:12 What are you doing in your life right now to cultivate more fun

Quotes:

Fear can be in the car, but it can't be in the driver's seat

Sometimes our desperation leads to our most courageous acts

Courage is contagious

Insta-success is a LIE

There's a waiting that is expectant

Popsicles are a viable meal for lunch

Description:

In this episode Mandy talk with Myquillyn Smith about creating a cozy home that works and partners with you and everyone in it, they also discuss naked feet and why Myquillyn hates seeing toes, and how to decorate a place you rent.

Selected Links:

Myquillyn's Instagram

The Nester Website

Pre-order the Cozy Minimalist Home

Make sure to click "Watch Video" to see the amazing home and be sure to order the book soon to get some awesome pre-order bundles (only on Oct 23rd).

MOPS

Music by: Phillip E Morris "Sunshine & Blue Skies" soundcloud.com/philipemorris & pema.bandcamp.com

Show Notes:

1:08 Introduction- How Green Eggs and Ham came about

2:22 We spend HOW??? much time looking for missing items

2:35 Myquellyn Smith intro

3:07 The new book

4:04 What does it look like to practice Cozy Minimalism

6:18 The shift of making a home look better to serving better

7:09 Why we don't use our home the way we really want to

8:20 Buying more stuff isn't the only solution

8:38 How to find the perfect sofa

10:36 Should I get a recliner sofa or a sofa with a name (like a Camelback, Birch Arm or Chesterfield)

12:30 If your rug is Oprah your drapes are Gail

14:23 Best tips on decorating a home you rent

15:29 What is the percentage of 2 out of 12 months?

16:27 Should I change the light fixtures on a rental home

17:53 We need to talk… why don't you like feet?

18:40 No naked toes… they need to be censored

19:38 What is the best advice you never got

21:20 Myquillyn flips the script and asks Mandy what is her best advice she never got

22:01 What are you doing to cultivate more fun in life right now

24:18 A special guest closes the podcast today

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In this episode Mandy talks with Ben Higgins from Season 20 of the Bachelor about his favorite moment from behind the scenes, they also discuss airplane etiquette, why he wears a retainer every night, along with Ben's favorite practice for decompressing after a crazy day and his new adventure leading Generous Coffee.

Selected Links:

Ben's Instagram

Ben's Podcast Almost Famous

Ben's other podcast Lady Bosses (and Ben)

Generous Coffee

MOPS http://www.mops.org/

Music by: Phillip E Morris "Sunshine & Blue Skies" soundcloud.com/philipemorris & pema.bandcamp.com

Show Notes:

1:04 Introduction- An irresistible application to NYU

3:40 What makes this essay so unexpected is that it disrupted the system

4:08 Sometimes life requires disrupting the system

4:22 Ben Higgins introduction

5:00 Don't miss Mandy and Ben's Carpool Karaoke at www.mandyarioto.com

5:31 What was the most memorable moment on the Bachelor

6:45 What does pig poop have to do with getting sick

7:30 Seeing the human side of your future spouse

7:57 Wearing retainers every night

9:01 Tips for dealing with negative feedback

11:14 I don't know if I'm doing all of this correctly

12:30 Generous Coffee- How'd it get started and how did you get involved

14:59 Humanity Hope United

17:00 If you drink coffee, why not make it life changing

17:57 Following Jesus is holy and deep, but also fun and takes us places we would never expect

18:15 What is Jesus showing you now

19:18 When God won't allow us to leave Him

20:00 What to do when people take their shoes off in an airplane

22:30 How to enter and exit a plane properly

24:30 What to do when you don't want to talk on a plane

25:44 Rapid Fire

25:45 Favorite thing that happened to you this past week

27:16 Last time you cried

28:50 Favorite Room in your house

32:45 Jesus, my pipe and bourbon

34:08 Did you get an offer to be on the Bachelor this next season?

35:22 What is the last thing you cooked

35:49 What's one thing career wise that you haven't had a chance to do yet

36:55 What is the best advice you never got

Description:

In this episode Mandy talks with Justin Zoradi about doing work that matters, how to be a hero and what to do when you feel like a fraud.

Selected Links:

Justin's website

Justin's Instagram

Justin's latest book

Giving Fuel

These Numbers Have Faces

MOPS

Music by: Phillip E Morris "Sunshine & Blue Skies" soundcloud.com/philipemorris & pema.bandcamp.com

Show Notes:

1:00 Introduction

4:34 Mandy and Justin interview

5:04 What made being ordinary so powerful (the story of Le Chambon)

7:30 What do all the heroes have in common

8:40 You don't need to "be someone" to be important

9:24 Lord, I'll go wherever you need me

10:30 How to accomplish amazing things

11:20 The moment of obligation to do something remarkable

13:23 When our life looks different from others

14:04 A park bench conversation with God

14:50 These numbers have faces- favorite story

18:09 Tips for people experiencing their moment of obligation

20:55 When the comparison game kicks in

21:10 They have their story and I have mine

22:10 When well meaning people make it worse for us

23:12 What to do when I feel like a fraud

24:30 The story of Andrew Garfield

26:45 If you don't do it… you will die

27:50 It's okay to leave work unfinished

30:15 You don't have to do everything… some things are meant to be incomplete

31:24 Parenting by letting go

32:40 What is the best advice you never got

34:45 No-one is really paying attention, so fail hard and big

35:06 What are you doing right now to cultivate more fun

In this episode Mandy talks with Hillary McBride about what it means to be a powerful woman, the complexities of shame, and how our body image can impact our kids.

Selected Links:

Hillary's website

Hillary's Instagram

Hillary's latest book

MOPS

Music by: Phillip E Morris "Sunshine & Blue Skies" soundcloud.com/philipemorris & pema.bandcamp.com

Show Notes:

0:55 Introduction

3:59 Hillary and Mandy

4:45 How do we learn to love our body in this present moment

7:00 How does body image impact our kids

9:43 Two strongest influences on kids for body image (besides parents)

10:24 Difference between mothers and daughters vs. mothers and sons

12:08 Dad's influence on body image

12:55 What does it mean to be a powerful woman

14:15 What creates power

16:00 Different kinds of power

17:12 The dance between my identity as a woman and as a mom

20:00 Make room for all of your identities

21:15 Working with people who've had spiritual trauma

22:30 How to deal with trauma stemming from a faith system

24:58 How to help people who are going through abuse or trauma

25:30 Complex trauma

26:23 What is the best advice you never got

Description:

In this episode Mandy talks with Danielle Strickland about being curious, going faster when you have a dream and why surrender is essential to freedom.

Selected Links:

Danielle's website

Danielle's newest book "The Zombie Gospel: The Walking Dead and What It Means to be Human"

Danielle's Instagram

Danielle's other books

Infinitum

Brave Global

Amplify Peace

Women Speakers Collective

MOPS

Music by: Phillip E Morris "Sunshine & Blue Skies" soundcloud.com/philipemorris & pema.bandcamp.com

Show Notes:

0:58 Introduction

1:35 Lipstick is Warpaint

4:28 The 1967 Boston Marathon

7:03 Something to prove to the world

8:10 Introduction of Danielle Strickland

8:40 Our brains aren't full

9:56 I feel like a snake- I keep growing out of my skin

10:44 The invitation to Nicodemus is the same to us

12:23 How curiosity enlarged my journey

13:30 From fear to engagement

14:50 Fear based ignorance

15:45 The Forrest Gump anointing

17:15 The problem with planning too far ahead

18:18 Go Faster… less thinking, more doing

19:00 Knowing about God and Knowing God aren't the same

21:27 Freedom and Surrender are Soul Sisters

22:04 Freedom begins here…

23:08 The desire of our heart

24:40 Going to the desert is a good thing

25:37 Being forced to surrender

26:30 I couldn't have done it from a place of strength

27:27 The Brave Initiative (fighting human trafficking)

28:40 Where were you when I was 11?

30:14 We have another idea for your life

31:08 Where do people go to plug in to Brave?

31:17 What is the best advice you never got

Description:

In this episode Mandy talks with Kirk Cameron about kids and cell phones, how his family sets healthy boundaries with technology and Kirk tells a ridiculously cute story about how he met his wife.

Selected Links:

Kirk's website

Connect Movie

Kirk's Instagram

Mandy's New Book- Have More Fun!

MOPS

Music by: Phillip E Morris "Sunshine & Blue Skies" soundcloud.com/philipemorris & pema.bandcamp.com

Show Notes:

0:58 Introduction

3:05 3 Quick Ways To Start Boosting Your Self Control

4:21 Why you should freeze your credit card in your freezer

5:36 Mandy introduces Kirk Cameron

6:45 Why Kirk's wife buys their kids gift on mother's day

8:03 That time we bought all our kids cell phones for mother's day

9:05 When things started to turn with technology

9:40 How we struggle to manage our kids tech usage

10:38 What are the biggest concerns around tech and kids

12:01 The 5 Lies That Tech Culture is Teaching Our Kids

13:45 What do kids really need

14:44 Tips for parents who see kids becoming discontent

15:15 The Real World vs. The Virtual World

16:42 Our kids are getting bombarded

16:58 Creating a healthy world for our kids to live in

17:36 Put your own phone down and be with your kids

18:20 Model by regulating ourselves

18:42 How breaking my phone worked out for me

19:42 No Phone Zones

20:20 How to get rid of the "impulse use" of tech

21:21 Maximize and emphasis the relationship with your child

21:41 The Danger of Not having a relationship with your child

22:15 Why "Connect" is so good

23:08 When I as a mom am a little extreme in my response to tech

23:50 Practical tips to help us with tech

25:25 Helpful tools are not a replacement for good parenting, but it can help

25:47 Start with zero privileges and increase as it's earned

28:48 When a freedom becomes bad for a kid it's time to step in

29:09 Where can I go to watch Connect

30:08 Should I watch the movie with my kids

31:25 Let's talk about Growing Pains

31:52 Favorite moments from Growing Pains

32:30 The first time I kissed my wife on the show

34:03 The beauty of Anbesol

35:35 As parents we need to stick together because we are pioneer parents

36:58 Mandy's new book… an announcement

Description:

In this episode Mandy talks with Erin Loechner about why getting up early is awesome, tips for having a healthy relationship with social media and how to change the rules when they aren't working for you.

Selected Links:

Erin's Website

Erin's Book - Chasing Slow

Erin's Instagram

MOPS

Music by: Phillip E Morris "Sunshine & Blue Skies" soundcloud.com/philipemorris & pema.bandcamp.com

Show Notes:

0:57 Introduction

4:58 Interview with Erin Loechner

6:14 How to rip up the rule book and do something different

7:30 Life is short, short, short…

8:15 Even the smallest change is going to do something

9:15 Thinking about living is not the same as actually living

11:05 Being one click away

12:05 The real Erin… come on over, you never know what you'll get

13:08 We live very different lives, but the same life

14:04 The Good List on Instagram

15:29 Am I giving off a false sense of reality

17:30 Valuing the unimportant

18:24 I am passionate about tearing up the rules

19:20 Why I go to bed at 6:00pm and wake up at 2:00am

20:15 How to get out of making dinner and doing the dishes

20:44 How I can do it all by tearing up the rulebook

21:04 Self imposed rules that can be broken

21:19 Tricks to waking up early

22:13 Creative Geniuses

23:15 Surrendering in motherhood and working

25:04 How does being a mom look so easy from the outside

25:40 The time I left the room and my baby stopped crying immediately

27:16 Trying to control it made it worse

27:40 Honoring life's weight but holding it loosely

28:21 I'm working to take myself out of the center of the story

29:01 Is this bringing vitality to my life?

31:13 What is the best advice you never got

33:46 How are you cultivating more fun in your life right now

Description:

In this episode Mandy talks with Shannon Miles about multi-tasking, the time she met Richard Branson, and how to be a working mom in a new way. Listen in if you want to get back into the workforce, want to work for yourself or long for more flexibility in your job.

Selected Links:

Shannon's Instagram

Shannon's website

Shannon's book

Music by: Phillip E Morris "Sunshine & Blue Skies" soundcloud.com/philipemorris & pema.bandcamp.com

Show Notes:

0:53 Introduction

3:08 That time you met Richard Branson

5:33 If your dreams don't scare you they aren't big enough

7:28 I feel exhausted and also feel like I'm not doing enough

8:19 Why is it so hard to ask for help as women

10:06 What is a Third Option

13:43 Tell us how you started your company and won the "The Best Company Culture" award from Entrepreneur Magazine

15:55 Pursuing full-time work from home

16:48 The challenges of being a working mom

17:36 Staying Present

18:44 Not overbooking (plan to be present)

19:22 Tell us about your book and how it looks different for different women

20:52 Just decide

21:10 Do something about it

22:07 What is success to you- You can have it all

23:46 Where can people get more info about Belay and 3rd Option

24:38 What is the best advice you never got

26:20 How do you cultivate more fun in your life