This Valentine’s week, skip the couple goals content. Here’s a real marriage.

He had a full-blown affair in year 2 of their marriage. She flew to Oklahoma, drove him to the other woman’s house, and asked one question:

“Is there something you want to tell me?”

They just celebrated 20 years of marriage.

In this raw and unfiltered episode, Tosin and Sanmi Laja-Akintayo (“The LAs”) share the real story of their marriage including the infidelity that nearly ended it, the five-year journey to rebuild trust, and why they believe there’s “no finished product on the marriage market.”

This episode is not about excusing betrayal. It’s about what real repentance, accountability, and rebuilding actually looks like.

In this episode:

• How they met at a picnic in 2003

• Getting married at 23 while still in college

• The affair that almost ended their marriage

• Why she chose to walk away and what made her reconsider

• The work he had to do to rebuild trust

• Why “red flags” didn’t exist the way they do today

• Why marriage is two people on the assembly line together

TIMESTAMPS:

00:00 – Introduction

03:00 – How They Met (The Picnic Story)

06:00 – “I Don’t Shake Girls”

09:30 – Getting Married at 23

12:00 – The Affair

19:00 – Flying to Oklahoma

22:00 – Confrontation at the Door

27:00 – From Betrayal to Rebuilding

31:00 – His Journey to Christ

42:00 – “No Finished Product”

50:00 – Marriage, Money & Differences

56:00 – The Offender Can’t Make Demands

💬 Would you have stayed? Why or why not? Drop your thoughts in the comments.

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