Disagreements can lead to 3 types of invalidation, as well as 1 unique way invalidation erodes trust–especially when she feels he doesn’t understand her pain. We discuss this with Matt Fray, as well as a couple things the guy can do instead.

TIMESTAMPS (click on a time below to be taken to that section)

0:00 Intro

0:14 Our male clients have a lot of trouble with this

1:05 One Solution: How Matt explains it to male clients *

1:51 How disagreements lead to invalidation

2:41 3 ways we habitually invalidate (the triple threat) *

6:27 Another thing that erodes trust (he’ll do it again) *

7:55 How Jay created greater breakdown with Lori

9:01 One Solution: Pain is part of the healing process? Instead try this…

10:54 In the next episode: “Isn’t she over this yet?”

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https://thecouplecure.com - Jay and Lori's website

https://matthewfray.com - Matt's website

https://pornpainhealed.com - Lori's site for betrayed partners

https://porniskillingme.com - Jay's site for porn addiction recovery

#trust

#relationships

#invalidation

#pain