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He is so much better to me than my thoughts…

I’m starting this piece with tears hanging on the shelf of my lower eye lashes…

After confessing some very difficult thoughts about my last few weeks of life, I then began to shame myself for the fact that I thought that way in the first place. As I said out loud, “I know better and He is so much better to me than my thoughts.” The level of unblemished certainty that I have in God, lets me know that I needed to write this right NOW. Lord, I know that You are with me AND I’m scared and need You more.

The tears have rolled over the lip of my lashes now. Sometimes, I think so much less of me than He does. Sometimes, I have a hard time seeing the path through the trees. I get so overwhelmed, God. I see Your hand in so much of my story, but I hyper-fixate on the places where I thought You’d do more. I feel like someone that has been in the drought of the hot desert for so long but can smell the water just over the next horizon. Matter of fact, it feels like I can sense that overflow of provisional water on the other side of the next horizon WHI LE having a glass of ice water in my hand…. That fills up sometimes just in the nic of time to sustain my thirst before I fall to my knees in exhaustion. And when I finish that life giving sip… even though I know that I’m so close to provision that I could swim in, I cry in fear that I won’t be able to make it there in time.

The things You have shown me and the ways that You have guided me have been undeniable. Supernatural, even. So why am I still so hard on myself. Why am I so overwhelmed and why does it feel like I’m falling short… or that I missed something. Did I miss something God? Did you tell me to make a right turn and I made a left? How long, oh God.

I mean, You are the one I come to for answers. I insert Your word into every painful crevasse. Sometimes I stuff it in there, too. I don’t HAVE to “feel like” hearing from You. I HAVE to hear from You though. I don’t even wanna hear from humans unless it’s You that sent em. They don’t have to be perfect or have anything together, either. I sure don’t. I can hear You in their voice when you are speaking through them. It’s hard though. To discern what is from You and what is not supposed to land on me. Just like I’m sure it’s hard for people, at times to separate a “Joelism” from something that You are trying to say through me. We’re so broken and lost sometimes, God. I think that’s why spending so much time in your words have helped. I can hear more clearly when something aligns with Your heart, because I know Your heart better.

Can I be honest? This is what makes me upset sometimes, God. You let bad things happen to good people and it is so unfair. Especially when the bad people seem to get all the practical perks. If I’m being even more honest, it kinda feels like b******t that the people that trample other people make the most money. It infuriates me God to struggle with putting food on my table and keeping my lights on and a roof over my head when I wake up every single day and serve Your kids… per YOUR instruction. You have made it so clear that this is what I’m supposed to do that You keep bringing more people to the ministry too. I know who my first hire is… YOU told me who it is. And it’s so absolutely incredibly non-sensical AND perfect at the same time… that it could only BE a vision from YOU. And my first official “hire” isn’t me or my executive assistant.

You’ve brought me a person that works with me side by side each week. For FREE … just like me. She believes in the vision and helps me manage scheduling for my SHAREapy sessions with people and she had helped me to develop the merchandise store and the website and we have a schedule. If I’m in too much pain, sometimes it’s from my bed that I have to work from while she is screen sharing our work from her PC. But we are working on Kingdom work every single day… she holds me up in prayer when the pressure gets too great. And you’ve brought us someone who helps with social media and believes in the vision and now you brought someone who could help with creative design and video and…. You are bringing the people… but where’s the finances Lord? It seems like everyone else trips into money and provision but I don’t drink, smoke or have any vices and I can’t rub two nickels together.

You know why it really makes me the angriest? Because You know that I’m not doing any of it for the reward. I don’t even wanna know how many people I’m helping to the kingdom of Heaven because I do NOT want to ever think that ANY OF IT is about ME!! It makes me angry that You KNOW my heart and You see exactly what goes into my days… You see my pain. And You see my praise. You see when they happen at the EXACT same time. It makes me upset with You God … that I can be so in love with You that I try to curl up at Your feet and sometimes it just feels like You could do more. I mean… I love You so much that I’d rather just blame ME. I can’t blame You because You are perfect and Your will is perfect and Your plan is perfect and I believe that SO much that I’m just left… with me. I must have missed something… there must be more I am supposed to do… right?

But then I hear those words that I have studied and read. Just now, as I was pleading with you, I thought about the story of Job, in the Bible. In the third chapter of Job, when He was wrestling with Himself over his afflictions, Job cursed the day that he was born because even though he was upset with his circumstance, he knew God’s nature to be too good to be blamed or shamed for his pain. (Job 3:1-3) I know You are perfect and Holy and sovereign, Lord, so this HAS to be on me, right? I think the power of this entire story is that we are bound to be overwhelmed by life’s circumstances and if we really believe that All things work for the good of those who love God and are called to His purpose (Romans 8:28), then when we do come to an overwhelming season of circumstance, we’re bound to go INSIDE of our own brokenness to search for the missing pieces. Did I miss it? Was I supposed to go left and I should have gone right?

In Job 13 he pleads with God like this: “How many wrongs and sins have I committed? Show me my offense and my sin. Why do you hide your face and consider me your enemy?” (Job‬ ‭13‬:‭23‬-‭24‬ ‭NIV‬‬)

I think this is a good reminder that sometimes when we believe God is who He says He is AND we remember how often we fall short of His glory, we have a profound proclivity to be way too hard on ourselves as we spiral out. You know what else? When we do that, not only do we ascribe to a lesser version of ourselves than what He sees in us, but we also begin to think of those circumstances as bigger than our God.

You know what God does in the story of Job? For those that might read this piece and don’t know this story, don’t feel bad. It ain’t pretty. The story starts as the devil get back from roaming around the earth. He approaches God. God, then offers up Job (pronounced Jobe and rhymes with robe) as the test of faith. Satan argues that God has blessed and protected Job so, surely he will not curse you. So God grants the devil permission to destroy his life. Job loses everything, including all of his kids, his health and his wealth. Over the course of the next 37 chapters, I believe that Job experienced every single negative emotion and feeling known to mankind. He was isolated both spiritually and physically with leprosy and suicidal ideations. His friends and family and wife told him that it had to be his fault and that he should just curse God and die. Yet he resists the urge to curse God.

When asked how the story turns out, I think most people would sum up the ending where Job, as angry and frustrated with God as he was, and as frustrated and damning to himself as he was… he never cursed God. His anger and frustration manifested in honorable wrestling with God and even though his toil transformed into self deprecation, God restored everything that he had lost seven fold. God didn’t just make him whole, God 7x’d him. As some would say in today’s language.

But this isn’t what I think God just revealed to me, even in my writing of this piece. Stay with me. Time to land the plane.

In Job chapter 38, God enters the chat. “Then the Lord spoke to Job out of the storm. He said: “Who is this that obscures my plans with words without knowledge?” (Job‬ ‭38‬:‭1‬-‭2‬) This part is so powerful to me because for one, The Lord spoke to Job OUT OF THE STORM. As overwhelmed as I feel and as overwhelmed as you have felt… I don’t even need to ADD much to make the connection, but in case you missed it… God was in the storm. That’s the only way Job could have heard Him from the storm… is if He was IN the storm in the first place. I mean… that’ll preach all by itself. But then I noticed this. In the previous chapter, 37, Job was singing God's\ praises the best way he knew how. He was observing creation and pointing to the places where God was. He says, “Listen! Listen to the roar of his voice, to the rumbling that comes from his mouth. He unleashes his lightning beneath the whole heaven and sends it to the ends of the earth.” (Job‬ ‭37‬:‭2‬-‭3‬ )‭ Job is trying to find God IN THE STORM. His posture is such that it’s like he’s saying… his posture is such that it’s like I’m saying… I know You are in the storm, God because You are so powerful. I see you in the ways You have given me clear vision. I see it in the ways You have brought people alongside me. I know You are here but I’m overwhelmed and I need help, God.

Yeah… I blended the story into my story because the story is my story. And I can feel the conviction in my spirit that is God saying “Who is this that obscures my plans with words without knowledge?” The next part of the story is brutal… God tells Job to buck up and listen, like a man. He goes on to point out that it isn't even in our capacity to understand small parts of His greater design. ““Where were you when I laid the earth’s foundation? Tell me, if you understand.” Job‬ ‭38‬:‭4‬. If you know so much Joel, explain what I’ve done… and if you cannot… You could never fathom what I’m going to do.

I have to share this next passage. I love God’s flex here because it starts to “right-size” our “overwhelming”.

“Who cuts a channel for the torrents of rain, and a path for the thunderstorm, to water a land where no one lives, an uninhabited desert, to satisfy a desolate wasteland and make it sprout with grass? Does the rain have a father? Who fathers the drops of dew? From whose womb comes the ice? Who gives birth to the frost from the heavens when the waters become hard as stone, when the surface of the deep is frozen? “Can you bind the chains of the Pleiades? Can you loosen Orion’s belt? Can you bring forth the constellations in their seasons or lead out the Bear with its cubs? Do you know the laws of the heavens? Can you set up God’s dominion over the earth? “Can you raise your voice to the clouds and cover yourself with a flood of water? Do you send the lightning bolts on their way? Do they report to you, ‘Here we are’?”

‭‭Job‬ ‭38‬:‭25‬-‭35‬ ‭NIV‬‬

That is the same God that called me a pastor. He’s the same God that qualified me to coach people's faith. That’s the same God that listens to me when I’m in tears and on the verge of giving up. He’s the same God that told me to write this NOW. The God that sends the lightning bolts on their way… and the same God that brings the constellations into season. That God is the same God that heard me weeping in the shower… a couple months ago. When all I could say is “God I don’t understand why you would call on ME to walk with Your kids in this way. I’m scared and I’m broken and my body hurts and I’m so limited in my capacity God and I don’t know if You picked the right guy. There’s people out there that can afford their rent and they are able to walk without pain and they have big pretty smiles and they don’t get outta breath when talking to fast… there are so many other choices God WHY ME. I need You as much as anyone else cuz I’m lost sometimes God. And I’m overwhelmed.

And through the tears and the sound of the hot shower, I heard Him say “this is why. This is why. Because when you are hurting, you come to me. When you are lost, you come to me. When you are happy, you thank me. This is why. Joel. This is what qualifies you to serve my kids. All I need from you is to bring them back to ME. This is why I chose you. This is what qualifies you.”

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When I record this, I’m sure I will be in tears. Because I’m in tears now, as I write this.

My God is bigger than my overwhelmed-ness. Your God placed the stars in the sky. He has been thinking of you and loving you since you were in your mother’s womb.

You know something that I think God wanted to show us today? Being overwhelmed doesn’t always stem from having doubt in God. Sometimes it’s our confidence in God that causes our inadequacy to flare up and try to become the main character of the story. We think that, because God is good and all the time God is good, that when bad stuff happens, it’s our JOB (see what I did there) to figure it all out. When we run that cycle enough times in our mind, we start feeling things like “did I miss something God? Was I supposed to make a right and I made a left? Did I miss my blessing?”

But, instead, sometimes, God is just sayin “lemme cook”. I know you don’t know what I’m doing, how could you? Do you give birth to frost from the heavens that makes water hard as stone? In other words, all of the things that you don’t understand, I created them. Everything originated with me. You can’t miss a blessing that I have promised you. I am bigger than your overwhelmed-ness. I am working all things for your good. Period.

I don’t know who else needed this today but thank you so much, God for helping me with this message today.

Can I invite you to bow your head and pray with me? Lord, you know exactly where we are overwhelmed. You know the things that we are wrestling with the insecurities of our heart. You know the people that are in our lives that are hard to love. You know the ways that you want to stretch us and grow us to be not only more intimate with you but to be more intimate with our family, friends and coworkers. Thank you for giving us examples in the Bible of people who were overwhelmed too. It helps us to not feel so alone. It helps us to understand that it’s OK to wrestle with you and even to be frustrated and or angry. As long as we don’t blame you or curse you, God. Thank you for the ways that you allow us to question our circumstances and to call on you for help. We need your help God… So many of us are overwhelmed. Thank you for the reminder that your glory is so big and what you’ve done here on earth is so magnificent that there is no obstacle that could possibly stand in your way. Thank you for rightsizing our overwhelmed-ness.

Thank you for the reminder that you work all things out for your good. Be close to the brokenhearted God because when we’re in it, it’s so hard to feel the goodness of it. In Jesus Name,

Amen.

If this message blessed you and you want to support me in anyway, send this to a friend, like the message, subscribe to the Substack, donate to help keep the lights on… whatever you feel lead to do is appreciated and is going directly to keep a roof over our heads. That’s as real as I can put it. God knows how many times I have wanted to give up but it is way too clear that His hand is carrying me and catching me when I fall. I cannot fail with Him involved. The end… for now.

We will have a “Look at God” ministry update later this week… stay tuned. Reflecting on all He’s done continues to encourage us for all He’s going to do… even though we get overwhelmed sometimes.

❤️

Joel

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