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This episode is Part 2 of our series on Long Distance Relationships.

Even if distance doesn't separate you from your loved one, this is a great episode to listen to.

We interview two couples, Kyal & Jess, and Byron & Tegan, who share their charming, funny and heartfelt stories with you.

Until next time, God bless.

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This is Part 2 of our episode on Money and how it relates to our Marriages.

Pr Chris Allen, a Pastor and a registered accountant, has a lot of experience helping couples before & after they're married.  He takes us through some of the challenges couples face including:

• Budgeting
• How our personality impacts our view on money
• Good debt & bad debt
• Money & kids
• And many other topics

A scripture Pr Chris references - PROVERBS 13:4 KJV "The soul of the sluggard desireth, and hath nothing: but the soul of the diligent shall be made fat."

Please note - this is general information only, and shouldn't be taken as advice that relates to your specific circumstances.

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Until next time, God bless.

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Dating is a fun, and exciting start of your relationship journey.

But what is it like if you are many miles apart from each other?   How do you navigate a long distance relationship?

In this episode we interview 2 couples, Will & Hannah, and Carlton & Lee, who share their stories with you.

They're wonderful stories, and even if distance doesn't separate you from your loved one, this is a great episode to listen to.

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Danny and Mandi talk in this episode about Money - an important subject that impacts every marriage.

Some of the topics they cover include:

• The importance of communication
• Budgets
• The "right" level of debt
• Keeping up with the Jones'

Some scriptures they share:

• Luke 14:28-30 https://www.kingjamesbibleonline.org/Luke-14-28_14-30/ 
• Luke 12:34 https://www.kingjamesbibleonline.org/Luke-12-34/ 
• 2 Thessalonians 3:10-12 https://www.kingjamesbibleonline.org/2-Thessalonians-3-10_3-12/ 
• 2 Corinthians 9:7-8 https://www.kingjamesbibleonline.org/2-Corinthians-9-7_9-8/ 

Until next time, God bless.

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If you're a parent, then this is a must-listen episode.  We discuss with Ged & Briar, qualified school counsellors, the challenges of parenting in the digital age.

We cover how to keep your kids safe, the amount of time your kids should use devices & be online, what happens when things go wrong,

It's a challenging, thought-provoking, and even scary episode....that's why it's so important to listen to it.

Please also share with other parents you know - whether they be Christian or not. 

Until next time, He Says, She Says, God Says.

Helpful Sites

The Carly Ryan Foundation (AMAZING resources)

Contract for Internet Usage & Safety

The Social Dilemma documentary

eSafety Government Resources

Fighting Pornography

Internet Filters

Family Zone

Canopy

Bark

Covenant Eyes

Scriptures

https://www.kingjamesbibleonline.org/Proverbs-22-6/

https://www.kingjamesbibleonline.org/Proverbs-1-8_1-9/

https://www.kingjamesbibleonline.org/Ephesians-6-4/

10 Strategies to help kids develop resilience.

Resilience is the ability to ‘bounce back’ from life’s difficulties. For many young people it is vital to help them develop resilience strategies that promote well-being and develop coping mechanisms. Many resilient teenagers are seen as resourceful and are emotionally and mentally balanced.

Andrew Fuller is a clinical psychologist and Generation Next speaker, he describes resilience as “the happy knack of being able to bungy jump through the pitfalls of life – to rise above adversity and obstacles.”

Tips for building resilience in children*
1. Make connections
Teach children how to make friends and develop empathy. Encourage them to be a friend in order to get friends. At school, watch to make sure that one child is not being isolated. Connecting with people provides social support and strengthens resilience.
2. Teach children to help others
Children who may feel helpless can be empowered by helping others. Ask for help with a task they can master. At school, brainstorm with children about ways they can help others.
3. Daily routine
Following a routine can be comforting to children, especially younger children who crave structure in their lives. Encourage children to develop their own routines.
4. Take a break
Although it is important to stick to routines, endlessly worrying can be counter-productive. Show children how to focus on something besides what’s worrying them.
5. Self-care for children
Teach child the importance of making time to eat properly, groom themselves, exercise and rest. Children need ‘down time’ to relax, so make sure that not all free time is filled with a scheduled activity.
6. Goals
Teach children to set reasonable goals and move toward them one step at a time. Moving toward that goal and receiving praise for doing so will focus children on what they have accomplished.
7. Nurture a positive self-view
Help children remember ways that they have successfully handled hardships in the past and how this can help them handle future challenges. Help children learn to trust themselves to solve problems and make appropriate decisions.
8. Be optimistic
Even when children are facing very painful events, help them look at the situation in a broader context. A positive outlook enables children to see the good things in life and keep going even in the hardest times.
9. Self-discovery
Change and tough times are often when children learn the most about themselves. Help children to see that this is a good time to find out “what they are made of.”  Change can be scary for young people, help them to see that change is part of life.
10. Make home a safe haven
In high school, taunting and bullying can intensify – home should be a haven, especially as your teen encounters more freedom and choices and looks to home to be a constant, safe and emotionally secure place in his or her life.

The Resilience Doughnut
Developed in Australia, The Resilience Doughnut builds resilience by considering both the internal qualities of a resilient person as well as the factors in the person’s environment which support and interact with those internal qualities. It is simple and practical and can be taught in a workshop format to school students.

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In this episode, we will be exploring the topic of retirement with three different couples.  We'll be hearing from Tom and Jan, Mike and Helga, and Jock and Hellen, who have all retired and have some interesting stories to share with us.

If you're not at retirement age, then this is a must listen for you too!  Retirement is a significant milestone in our lives and can bring with it a range of emotions, from excitement and anticipation to uncertainty and even fear.  

Each of our guests today has approached retirement in their unique way, and their experiences offer valuable insights into this important life transition.

There’s a lot to think about.

So, sit back, relax, and join us as we explore retirement through the eyes of these three lovely couples.

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Have you ever thought about exactly what makes you feel loved?  Ever felt “unloved”, but not 100% sure why?  Do you know what you’re partner needs from you to feel loved?

In this episode, we unpack this very important and interesting topic.

A huge thank you to Jeff and Liz who share their experiences and tell us about a great resource you can use called “5 Love Languages”.

LINKS to other Information

5 Love Languages Book  https://bit.ly/3BgPVr0 or https://open.spotify.com/show/0AKpN8oze7LTnrZgUUAFHA?si=0a8638603e744b96

SCRIPTURES discussed

https://www.kingjamesbibleonline.org/Acts-20-35/

https://www.kingjamesbibleonline.org/Luke-24-32/

https://www.kingjamesbibleonline.org/Galatians-6-10/

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Let us know any questions you might have, and we will try and answer them in a future episode (we won’t identify you personally on-air). Send an email to [email protected].   You can also connect on Facebook, Instagram or via the website www.hesaysshesaysgodsays.com

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Remember back when you only had yourself to worry about, and now with a family, you must divide your time up in what seems like a million ways?

What happens when you get the balance wrong? Or you focus so much time on your family that you don't spend any 1:1 time with your spouse?  Or have no time for yourself at all?

Until next time, He Says, She Says, God Says.

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SCRIPTURES discussed

https://www.kingjamesbibleonline.org/1-Corinthians-7-32_7-35/

https://www.kingjamesbibleonline.org/Matthew-6-25_6-33/

LINKS to other Information

https://relationships.org.au/wp-content/uploads/ra-rel-ind-survey-2008-report.pdf

www.hesaysshesaysgodsays.com

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This is Episode Two of our 2-part series on Introverts & Extroverts, where we delve into how these different personalities affect marriages.

Emily interviews Alex (an Introvert) and Georgia (an Extrovert), a young couple who have been married for 5 years.

They talk very openly about how they've navigated the differences in their personalities, the challenges, how they overcame these, and the fun they've had along the way.

It's a wonderful insight into Introverts & Extroverts in Marriage. If you haven't listened to Episode One, you can find it here https://hesaysshesaysgodsays.com/introvertsextrovertspart1/

Until next time, He Says, She Says, God Says.

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In this episode, we delve into how Introvert & Extrovert personality traits and how this affect marriages.

“The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances; if there is any reaction, both are transformed”

The terms "introvert" and "extrovert" were devised by Dr Carl Jung in the 1920s.   The common misconception around these terms is that people think that "introverts" are shy, while "extroverts" are "outgoing" -- there are outgoing introverts and shy extroverts. The main difference between these two temperaments comes down to how energy is gained. Extroverts gain energy by surrounding themselves with others, while Introverts gain energy and recharge by spending time alone.

There’s a 3rd category, called Ambiverts, which are smack in the middle between the two.

Introverts are more aware of & sensitive to external stimulation – too much and it overwhelms, just right and they feel comfortable

Extroverts, less sensitive to external stimulation, means they thrive on lots of activity, people, talking etc and are wired to seek external reward stimulation.

Well-Known INTROVERTS: 

Bill Gates, Warren Buffett, Steven Spielberg, Meryl Streep, Al Gore, Mark Zuckerberg, Hillary Clinton, Michael Jordan, Steve Wozniak, Elon Musk, JK Rowling, Eleanor Roosevelt, Audrey Hepburn, Albert Einstein, Rosa Parks and Mahatma Gandhi.

Well-Known EXTROVERTS: 

Bill Clinton, Oprah, Martin Luther King Jnr, Muhammad Ali, Nelson Mandela, Steve Jobs, Margaret Thatcher…and everybody on TikTok.

BIBLE EXTROVERTS?

PETER: He was often front and centre in the action:

• He’s first in - Matthew 4:18 “And he (Jesus) said to them, ‘Follow me, and I will make you fishers of men.’ Immediately they (Peter and his brother Andrew) left their nets and followed him. ”
• Peter is fast to jump in the water in Matthew 14:29 “… So Peter got out of the boat and walked on the water and came to Jesus”
• Peter doesn’t ponder – he’s fast to ask questions, to understand Jesus’ teaching “But Peter said to him (Jesus), ‘Explain the parable to us.’” Matthew 15:15
• Peter is not going to hold back, rebuking even Jesus. Matthew 16:22 Then Peter took him, and began to rebuke him, saying, Be it far from thee, Lord: this shall not be unto thee”.
• Peter goes to extremes John 13:8 Peter saith unto him, Thou shalt never wash my feet. Jesus answered him, If I wash thee not, thou hast no part with me. 9 Simon Peter saith unto him, Lord, not my feet only, but also [my] hands and [my] head!’”
• Peter takes up the fight John 18:10 Then Simon Peter having a sword drew it, and smote the high priest's servant, and cut off his right ear”

DAVID:  He was often front and centre, and never one to back down from a fight.  He was a natural leader and became the King. 

• 2 Samuel 6:13 And it was [so], that when they that bare the ark of the LORD had gone six paces, he sacrificed oxen and fatlings. 14 And David danced before the LORD with all [his] might; and David [was] girded with a linen ephod. 15 So David and all the house of Israel brought up the ark of the LORD with shouting, and with the sound of the trumpet.

BIBLE INTROVERTS?

MOSES presents as a clear introvert

• Numbers 12:3 Now the man Moses [was] very meek
• Exodus 3:1 Now Moses kept the flock of Jethro his father in law, the priest of Midian: and he led the flock to the backside of the desert, and came to the mountain of God, [even] to Horeb.
• Exodus 4:10 And Moses said unto the LORD, O my Lord, I [am] not eloquent, neither heretofore, nor since thou hast spoken unto thy servant: but I [am] slow of speech, and of a slow tongue. 11 And the LORD said unto him, Who hath made man's mouth? or who maketh the dumb, or deaf, or the seeing, or the blind? have not I the LORD? 12 Now therefore go, and I will be with thy mouth, and teach thee what thou shalt say.
• God also goes on to partner him with Aaron, who is likely an Extrovert, in fact tells that Aaron will speak to the people
• Exodus 4:16 And he shall be thy spokesman unto the people: and he shall be, [even] he shall be to thee instead of a mouth, and thou shalt be to him instead of God.

JESUS?  More likely an Ambivert

He was clearly involved in any kind of group situation: speaking to crowds of thousands, teaching and leading His small group of disciples, initiating tough one-on-one conversations.

He was sociable, as well as having a calming, peaceful nature – all while being able to front up to leadership of His day

The key here is – where did Jesus go to recharge?

• Luke 6:12 And it came to pass in those days, that he went out into a mountain to pray, and continued all night in prayer to God.
• Matthew 14:13 When Jesus heard [of it], he departed thence by ship into a desert place apart: and when the people had heard [thereof], they followed him on foot out of the cities.
• Matthew 14:23 And when he had sent the multitudes away, he went up into a mountain apart to pray: and when the evening was come, he was there alone.
• Matthew 4:1 Then was Jesus led up of the Spirit into the wilderness to be tempted of the devil. 2 And when he had fasted forty days and forty nights, he was afterward an hungred.
• Whether he spend time alone to recharge, or to spend time with his Father, what we do see in Jesus is the best traits, the absolute strengths, of both introverts and extroverts.

REFERENCES IN THIS EPISODE:

Personality Profile

www.16personalities.com

“Quiet” Book by Susan Cain

https://www.amazon.com/Quiet-Power-Introverts-World-Talking/dp/0307352153

Dr Carl Jung

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Carl_Jung

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