In this episode of our Experts Explain series, trauma-informed therapist Bev Mitelman, M.A., breaks down the signs of insecure attachment styles and how they show up in relationships.

If you've ever found yourself feeling too needy, constantly pushing people away, or stuck in the same relationship patterns again and again, this episode is for you.

We explore:

- Common behaviors linked to anxious and avoidant attachment

- Why emotional overreactions often stem from unresolved childhood trauma

- How nervous system dysregulation impacts your relationships

- What "glimmers" are and how they help promote healing

- The difference between true safety and perceived emotional threat

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Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/securely_loved

Website: www.securelyloved.com

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What’s really going on when you feel out of control around food?

This week’s Experts Explain Series features Dr. Jessica Neukam-Helms, licensed clinical psychologist and founder of The Finding Food & Body Freedom Formula. After healing from binge eating herself, she now helps women across the country break free from food guilt and obsessive cycles—without relying on willpower.

In this conversation, Dr. Jessica explains:

- The difference between emotional eating and binge eating

- How trauma plays a massive role in disordered eating patterns

- Why your nervous system impacts your cravings more than you think

- What healing your relationship with food really looks like

- Tools to begin shifting out of shame and into self-trust

Connect with Dr. Jessica:

Website: https://peacefulpresencepsych.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/finding_food_and_body_freedom/

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In this video, Dr. Tammy discusses the complexities of sharing trauma with friends or partners. Dr. Tammy provides insights on how to communicate needs effectively, ensuring that the person receiving the disclosure is trustworthy and supportive. The discussion highlights the emotional challenges that come with sharing trauma and the necessity of self-care throughout the process.

About Dr. Tammy Oluyori:

Dr. Tammy Oluyori is a UK based counselling psychologist with over 15 years of experience specializing in trauma recovery, specifically focusing on survivors of childhood trauma. Her practice emphasizes developing a deeper, more compassionate relationship with oneself as the cornerstone of healing. Dr. Oluyori believes that understanding oneself is the beginning of all wisdom, and she is dedicated to guiding her clients toward this understanding. She is committed to helping individuals achieve clarity, balance, and purpose in their lives, leading to a more wholesome and fulfilling existence.

Listen full episode with Dr. Tammy on Healing and Growing Hand in Hand podcast here:

https://youtu.be/ndNZQCsvL5I

Connect with Dr. Tammy:

Website: www.drtammyoluori.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr.tammy.oluyori

Ebook: Staying Rooted (https://drtammyoluyori.com/staying-rooted/)

JOIN THE WOMEN’S HEALING COMMUNITY HERE: https://womenshealingcommunity.carrd.co/

What if sitting face-to-face with the person who murdered your family could actually heal you instead of destroy you?

Discover why traditional court systems fail victims by turning them into witnesses to their own crimes and how restorative justice gives back the voice, agency and healing that punishment alone cannot provide.

In this episode:

- How restorative justice gives victims agency and answers that traditional court systems cannot provide, including Amanda's transformative meeting with her family's murderer after 28 years

- The connection between unresolved childhood trauma and criminal behavior, plus why addressing these root causes prevents future crimes and protects communities

- Breaking generational cycles of harm through accountability, understanding and healing rather than perpetuating punishment-only approaches that fail everyone

Check out our Expert Series for more helpful, healing discussions: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL55ypWHIjesvMja7UmGPCVU-UqwBpBvld

Connect with Amanda Carrasco:

Website: https://amandacarrasco.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amanda_the_brave_one

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@amandacarrasco.com

X: https://x.com/Amanda_Carrasco

Book "Becoming the Brave One: My Journey to Justice": https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0FJ92MY9G/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1T0DCQ0U3WFB2

Connect with Lisa:

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lisatickel/

Website: https://healingandgrowinghandinhandpodcast.com/

JOIN THE HEALING WORKSHOP HERE: https://healingworkshop.carrd.co/

JOIN THE WOMEN’S HEALING COMMUNITY HERE: https://womenshealingcommunity.carrd.co/

What happens when the very institutions meant to guide your spiritual journey become sources of deep trauma?

Former Buddhist nun Amma Thanasanti shares her journey of spending nearly three decades in monasteries, only to discover she was trapped in a system that used sacred teachings to justify harmful patriarchal structures.

In this episode:

- How spiritual abuse uniquely impacts our sense of meaning and identity, making it particularly difficult to recover from compared to other forms of trauma

- The crucial difference between genuine spiritual teachings and distorted systems that exploit vulnerability for power and control

- Practical somatic healing techniques including grounding exercises, nervous system regulation, and safe anger release methods that help trauma survivors reconnect with their bodies

Check out our Expert Series for more helpful, healing discussions: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL55ypWHIjesvMja7UmGPCVU-UqwBpBvld

Connect with Amma Thanasanti:

Website: http://awakeningtruth.org/blog

YouTube: @Amma Thanasanti

Facebook: @Amma Thanasanti, @AwakeningTruth

Instagram: @AwakeningTruth

Free Integrated Meditation Program Drop-in Sessions: Available through awakeningtruth.org

Connect with Lisa:

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lisatickel/

Website: https://healingandgrowinghandinhandpodcast.com/

JOIN THE HEALING WORKSHOP HERE: https://healingworkshop.carrd.co/

Ready to trust your intuition again? Drop a comment below sharing one insight that resonated with you from this conversation.

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Think you can spot narcissistic abuse? Think again.

This conversation with Dr. Deborah Dantzler reveals the hidden "death by a thousand paper cuts" that survivors endure and why understanding antagonistic relational stress changes everything.

Discover why only 6-7% of people actually qualify for narcissistic personality disorder, how childhood trauma creates patterns that attract toxic relationships, and the three-step framework that leads to freedom.

In this Episode:

- How narcissistic abuse creates "death by a thousand paper cuts" and why it's now called antagonistic relational stress

- The three-stage awareness, acceptance and action framework that helps survivors break free from toxic patterns

- Why narcissists target empathic overachievers and how childhood trauma creates vulnerability to these relationships

Check out our Expert Series for more helpful, healing discussions: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL55ypWHIjesvMja7UmGPCVU-UqwBpBvld

Connect with Dr. Deborah:

Website: https://www.3dpsychotherapy.com/

G33ky Clinicians: https://www.g33kyclinicians.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/3dpsychotherapy/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the3dpsychotherapy/

Book a Session: https://www.3dpsychotherapy.com/

Free Resource: Sign up for healthy coping strategies: https://keap.app/contact-us/5979160322682406

Connect with Lisa:

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lisatickel/

Website: https://healingandgrowinghandinhandpodcast.com/

JOIN THE HEALING WORKSHOP HERE: https://healingworkshop.carrd.co/

Ready to take the next step in your healing journey? Share your biggest takeaway in the comments below and subscribe for more trauma-informed conversations that help you break free from the past and step into your power.

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Sexual intimacy after trauma is one of the most challenging yet rarely discussed aspects of healing. In this vulnerable conversation, sex and intimacy coach Xanet Pailet shares how sexual shame from childhood experiences can create a lifelong blueprint that affects adult relationships.

In this episode:

- How early sexual experiences create lasting trauma patterns - Xanet explains how shame and anxiety around sexuality in childhood become the blueprint for all future sexual experiences, leading to conditions like vaginismus and dissociation

- The mind-body connection in sexual healing - Discover why traditional talk therapy often isn't enough for sexual trauma and how somatic approaches help rewire the nervous system to feel safe with touch and pleasure again

- From broken to empowered - Learn about the transformative journey from a 26-year sexless marriage to becoming a healer, including practical steps for addressing touch aversion, numbing, and reconnecting with your body

Check out our Expert Series for more helpful, healing discussions: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL55ypWHIjesvMja7UmGPCVU-UqwBpBvld

Connect with Xanet:

Website: https://www.powerofpleasure.com

Retreats: https://www.passionateintimacyretreats.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/xanetpop/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/xanetpop

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/xanet-pailet-2b464671/

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@thepowerofpleasure8132/featured

Book: Living an Orgasmic Life: Heal Yourself and Awaken Your Pleasure (https://a.co/d/555SMdf)

Connect with Lisa:

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lisatickel/

Website: https://healingandgrowinghandinhandpodcast.com/

JOIN THE HEALING WORKSHOP HERE: https://healingworkshop.carrd.co/

JOIN THE WOMEN’S HEALING COMMUNITY HERE: https://womenshealingcommunity.carrd.co/

When trauma survivor Heidi Yewman decided to carry a gun for a month to understand her opponents in gun violence prevention, she discovered something unexpected about fear, paranoia, and the hidden costs of self-protection. In this deeply insightful conversation, Heidi shares how her journey from childhood abuse to trauma advocacy taught her that curiosity can replace judgment, and how facing your triggers head-on can become your greatest source of healing.

In this episode:

- Breaking Free from Limiting Beliefs: Discover how the "dumb girl" message shaped Heidi's entire worldview and learn practical strategies for recognizing and challenging the toxic beliefs that keep you small

- The Hidden Psychology of Self-Protection: Learn what happened when Heidi carried a concealed weapon for 30 days and why understanding fear-based behavior can transform how you interact with difficult people

- Turning Trauma into Advocacy: Explore how facing your deepest triggers in service of others can become a pathway to healing and discover why curiosity is more powerful than judgment in creating lasting change

Check out our Expert Series for more helpful, healing discussions: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL55ypWHIjesvMja7UmGPCVU-UqwBpBvld

Connect with Heidi Yewman:

Website: https://heidiyewman.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heidiyewmanauthor/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/heidiyewmanauthor

BlueSky: https://bsky.app/profile/heidiyewmanauthor.bsky.social

Book "Dumb Girl" on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Dumb-Girl-Journey-Childhood-Advocacy/dp/1647429420/

Documentary "Behind the Bullet" (Amazon Prime): https://www.amazon.com/Behind-Bullet/dp/B087NQXQZB/

Connect with Lisa:

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lisatickel/

Website: https://healingandgrowinghandinhandpodcast.com/

JOIN THE HEALING WORKSHOP HERE: https://healingworkshop.carrd.co/

JOIN THE WOMEN’S HEALING COMMUNITY HERE: https://womenshealingcommunity.carrd.co/

What happens when a successful chiropractor becomes physically abusive and has to confront the darkest parts of himself? Dr. Nima Rahmany shares his story of transformation from toxic relationship patterns to becoming "trigger-proof" in his current marriage. This conversation tackles the uncomfortable reality of how good people can cross lines they never thought they would and explores shadow work as a path to healing attachment wounds.

Key Points Discussed:

- The difference between situational violence and coercive control in abusive relationships

- How victim identity can actually keep you trapped and damage your health

- Why understanding someone's behavior is more powerful than forgiving them

Check out our Expert Series for more helpful, healing discussions: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL55ypWHIjesvMja7UmGPCVU-UqwBpBvld

Connect with Dr. Nima Rahmany:

Website: https://drnima.com/

Take the Attachment Style Quiz: https://drnima.com/programs/overview-experience-virtual-workshop/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drnimarahmany/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drnima/?hl=en

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/drnimarahmany

Resources Mentioned:

The Overview Experience: https://drnima.com/programs/overview-experience-virtual-workshop/

Connect with Lisa:

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lisatickel/

Website: https://healingandgrowinghandinhandpodcast.com/

JOIN THE HEALING WORKSHOP HERE: https://healingworkshop.carrd.co/

Join our Women's Healing Community here: https://womenshealingcommunity.carrd.co/

When traditional therapy leaves you feeling stuck, holistic healing offers a different path forward. Dr. Cristina Louk, Clinical Director of Peace Humanistic Therapy, shares how addressing your body, mind, energy and spirit together can unlock breakthrough healing that single-modality approaches often miss. This conversation reveals practical ways to start your own holistic healing practice, even when feeling overwhelmed.

Key Points Discussed:

- The difference between holistic and traditional therapy approaches - Why treating just thoughts or just emotions limits healing potential, and how addressing all layers simultaneously creates lasting change

- Practical holistic healing techniques for daily life - Including emotional freedom tapping for nervous system regulation, energy clearing practices, and building personalized "soul hygiene" routines

- How ADHD and trauma symptoms overlap - Why proper assessment matters and how rejection-sensitive dysphoria can be healed through integrated mind-body approaches

Check out our Expert Series for more helpful, healing discussions: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL55ypWHIjesvMja7UmGPCVU-UqwBpBvld

Connect with Dr. Cristina Louk:

Website: https://www.peacehumanistic.com/

YouTube Channel: www.youtube.com/@drcristinalouk

Connect with Lisa:

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lisatickel/

Website: https://healingandgrowinghandinhandpodcast.com/

JOIN THE HEALING WORKSHOP HERE: https://healingworkshop.carrd.co/

Ready to explore holistic healing for yourself?

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