If you’ve recently gone through a breakup, been cheated on, or made the painful decision to walk away from a relationship, and your anxiety feels louder than ever, this episode is for you. In Episode 17 of In The Messy Podcast, Jan, a registered psychotherapist, explains why relationship loss can feel so destabilizing for those with anxious attachment. Learn why post-breakup anxiety isn’t weakness, how separation distress impacts your nervous system, and what actually helps you heal—without rushing into another relationship. This episode explores grief, betrayal, rumination, self-worth, and how to begin rebuilding secure attachment from the inside out.