If you're a dad looking for meaningful ways to connect with your daughter and navigate the often tricky terrain of emotions, the latest episode of the Dad and Daughter Connection podcast is essential listening. Hosted by Dr. Christopher Lewis, this episode features Cheryl Rosenberg—a coach and creator of the Healing Artfully program. Together, they unpack the challenges and rewards of building lasting father-daughter relationships.

Understanding Through Story and Experience

Cheryl Rosenberg opens the conversation by reflecting on her own close relationship with her father, emphasizing how his steady love, honesty, and encouragement shaped her life. She shares that the simple act of her father being present—whether teaching her to paint or expressing pride in her achievements—made an enduring difference in her confidence and sense of being valued. Her story is a reminder that it's the consistent, every-day practices—not grand gestures—that lay a foundation for trust and communication.

Reconnecting When Emotions Run High

One of the central themes of the episode is how fathers can best respond during the turbulent teenage years, when daughters might seem withdrawn or overwhelmed by big emotions. Cheryl Rosenberg notes that, for many dads, the instinct is to "fix" things or resort to logic and discipline. But often, what daughters need most is simply their dad's calm presence and willingness to listen. As Dr. Christopher Lewis puts it, "connection doesn't come from fixing, it comes from presence."

Tools for Emotional Connection

The episode delves into creative solutions for building rapport, especially when words fall short. Cheryl Rosenberg's Healing Artfully program encourages both daughters and parents to use artistic expression and journaling to process feelings and spark honest discussions. These activities don't require artistic talent—just the willingness to explore and share emotions together. Dads are encouraged to participate, using art and even weekly "check-ins" to open new avenues of dialogue and trust.

Practical Takeaways for Every Dad

Listeners will come away with actionable advice: set aside regular time to check in, engage in shared activities (even a simple card game), and respond with compassion rather than quick solutions. And most of all, dads are reminded that their steady presence and acceptance are the anchors their daughters need to thrive.

Ready to build a closer relationship with your daughter? Tune in to this episode and start the conversation today.

TRANSCRIPT

Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:00:02]: Welcome to the Dad and Daughter Connection, the podcast for dads who want to build stronger bonds and raise confident, independent daughters.

Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:00:12]: If you're looking to build a stronger bond with your daughter and help her grow into a confident, independent woman, you're in the right place. I'm Dr. Christopher Lewis, and the Dad and Daughter Connection is the podcast where we dive into real stories, expert advice, and practical tips to help you navigate the incredible journey of fatherhood. In every episode, we'll bring you conversations that inspire, challenge, and equip you to show up as the dad your daughter needs. So let's get started, because being a great dad isn't just about being there, it's about truly connecting. Welcome back to the Dad and Daughter Connection, where every week we have a great opportunity to be able to work on those relationships that we want to have with our own daughters to make them be as strong as they can be and to help us build those strong lasting relationships that'll help us to be amazing dads, but also having amazing relationships with our kids. And every week I love being able to have you here to be able to work on this together. And I love being able to introduce you to people that have resources that can help you to be able to do just that.

Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:01:25]: And today's guest is someone that I know you're going to appreciate. Cheryl Rosenberg is a coach, and she's the creator of the Healing Artfully program, where she helps students ages 12 to 20 who are struggling with big emotions, disruptive behaviors, or stress at home or school. But you know what I love about Cheryl's work is that she doesn't just focus on the child. She works closely with All of Us as Overwhelmed Parents: Helping Families Rebuild Connections, Emotional Regulation, and Peaceful Communication. If you're a dad who's ever felt unsure how to respond to your daughter's big feelings or wondered how to reconnect when things may feel tense, this conversation is definitely going to be for you. Cheryl, thanks so much for being here today.

Cheryl Rosenberg [00:02:14]: Thank you for having me, Chris.

Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:02:16]: Well, I'm really excited to have you here today, and As always, I love being able to start the conversation reflecting back on your own relationship with your father. I guess first and foremost, before we even get into the relationship, tell me a little bit about your dad.

Cheryl Rosenberg [00:02:31]: I would love to. My father, he was raised in a very poor environment. Grandfather was out of work, and they had very little food, which made my father very self-sufficient and very driven to be crosshu— provide for his family. And he was a wonderful man. He was honest and sincere and very loving. And he had a brother who was not quite as capable as he, and he would take him to different job sites and get him work that he could do, stuff that he was able to complete and, um, contribute. He had wonderful hand skills. He could make anything.

Cheryl Rosenberg [00:03:17]: But my father was 17 when he went into the Army in— during World War II. He was all over the European theater, and he would tell me stories about being there and what they would do, and about going into farmhouses that had been vacated, and they'd find potatoes and cook those. That's the only thing they had to eat. And about different battles and, and how they survived and the different things that they did. He was very fair. He was hands-on, and he was just so loving. And I used to love to sit next to him on the couch on a Sunday afternoon and watch a movie with him. And if he had seen the movie, he would tell me a little bit about it.

Cheryl Rosenberg [00:04:04]: And I, I just loved to listen to him, listen to him talk. And he had his old ways and his old patterns of speech, but he was a self-made man and he did very well for himself. He was a telegrapher on the railroad, which means that he would take the messages that were sent and he could more or less tap Morse code and, and then get down to the tracks and change the— change the direction of the tracks. And that was up in the tower, his tower too, where he worked. But Couldn't have asked for a better father. He was there for me all the time. And I didn't have a great mother, but I did have a great father and he made up for it.

Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:04:51]: So tell me one thing that your dad did that made you truly feel seen, heard, or valued as a daughter.

Cheryl Rosenberg [00:04:59]: Well, he always taught me— I always felt like he wanted me to be my best, do my best, and he would speak to me in those terms and tell me how I could do that and what I needed to do. And then he'd say, "Try it. Just be— just be diligent in your efforts." And he would tell me about working in school and how he was so proud of that, of me and my schoolwork. And he would say, you know, "You, you've done a marvelous job with—" I always— cleaning the house or doing the laundry or, like I said, schoolwork or being a good sister to my sister, helping my mother and helping him. I used to love to help him paint. I took on his ability to paint and I used to hand paint furniture artistically. So he taught me that and that was ingrained in me and he just always made me feel loved and cared for. And I would go to him with anything because he was so understanding.

Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:06:05]: Now, looking back, was there a moment where your dad's support or guidance had a significant impact on your growth? Or confidence?

Cheryl Rosenberg [00:06:14]: I don't remember any one specific time. I just— it was constant. There was a constant feeling of support and love, and I can't think of a one particular incident at this moment, but he was always there.

Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:06:30]: Now, no father is perfect. We all have our flaws. What are some things you wish your dad had done differently when it came to building your relationship?

Cheryl Rosenberg [00:06:39]: Well, this may surprise you, but my sister and I have talked about this at length. And my sister and I both wish that our father had left our mother. But he wouldn't do that. He was from that era where you didn't divorce. When he was home, he would take care of a situation that she had created. But when he wasn't, we were at her mercy. And, uh, so that was the one thing we wish that he would have left and taken us. With him because it could be bad when he wasn't there.

Cheryl Rosenberg [00:07:13]: So we felt like it would have been better to— for him to step in and, and help us all the time, when some of the time he would just let her take charge and we would be— we never knew what was coming.

Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:07:27]: What do you feel is one thing that your dad taught you that has made a huge impact on your life?

Cheryl Rosenberg [00:07:34]: To be and do my best at everything that I tried.

Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:07:38]: And if you had the opportunity to spend a day with your dad now doing anything, what would it look like?

Cheryl Rosenberg [00:07:45]: It would look like going to an, an old park where he would take my sister and I when we were children, going there and sitting on a blanket because we did that, uh, we did that often with him and sitting around and talking and, or possibly a movie. He was a big movie buff and knew all the actors and would tell us everything that he knew about them. It was a lot of fun to be with him, and he would play games with us. And today I would so love to be able to chase around with him and just enjoy his company.

Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:08:16]: Now, I mentioned at the beginning that you have a program called Healing Artfully, and for dads who may not be familiar with your work, tell me more about Healing Artfully and what kind of challenges are families usually facing when they come to you.

Cheryl Rosenberg [00:08:31]: Healing Artfully is designed for children and teens who cannot express themselves in words. They, they don't know where to begin. They really don't know about their feelings. They're kind of lost. And part of healing artfully is also journaling. And I teach them to spend, even if it's 5 minutes, journal. Journal what happened that day. Journal how you feel.

Cheryl Rosenberg [00:08:59]: Their feelings are so important, and that's the biggest part of the program. And I don't just do— we don't just do the mind, we do whole body. So you can't just work on one part, you need to do the entire sweep of the body, okay, and the mind. So I teach them good habits, and if you establish good morning routines, that'll keep you alive longer. It's been proven. So I teach them to have good hygiene, to have a good exercise habit, whether it's in the morning— even if it's just waking up in the morning and getting out of the bed and marching for 4 minutes just to get your body started. And then later on in the day, do some exercises. We do the health, we do the, the food.

Cheryl Rosenberg [00:09:55]: We talk about a healthy diet. A healthy diet supports a healthy mind. And it just teaches them a good way to live their life. And then we work on solving the emotional part through the artwork. And there is no talent involved. It is strictly what you see in your mind, what you're feeling. And we talk a bit about color and strokes and how those things can be— translated into your emotions. What this— what you've done and what you see on the paper talks about your feelings.

Cheryl Rosenberg [00:10:35]: And so we, we sit and discuss that, and that gives them an outlet to start talking. And eventually they open up and they start talking about their emotions. And that is not the only program. I have 4 other programs that we do, and it— I have a toolkit for parents where I give them dialogue and I give them worksheets and It's bringing the parent and the team together. It's family-oriented. You can't have one person in the family working on their issues and no one else understands what's going on. So we work as a unit.

Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:11:14]: I know that in a number of your programs you talk about expression and being able to use some creativity. And I guess, how can creative expression help daughters relate regulate emotions and how can dads participate in that process even if they don't consider themselves— I'm gonna say artistic per se?

Cheryl Rosenberg [00:11:36]: Uh, well, the good thing about it is it doesn't require any artistic skills at all as far as the healing artfully goes. They are, uh, the parents come in after sessions and we discuss the work together and a father and a daughter can really open up because I think fathers sometimes are they just feel awkward and really don't know how to get their daughters to open up or to comfort them or— so if they're brought in and we explain and talk about the work that their child has done, then it starts creating a little path for them to walk down to get to where they're more comfortable approaching their daughters they're more open and they're ready to listen and it brings the families into— sometimes into a great discussion and they will talk about incidents that had happened throughout the week, how it was handled, what could we do now to handle that in a better way. I have had some great success with just using the art and giving the parents the know-how to handle many different situations with that child.

Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:12:55]: A lot of dads tell me that as they have gone through those teenage years, they sometimes feel shut out, especially when emotions run high. I guess from your experience, what's really happening underneath those big emotions or disruptive behaviors, and how can dads be able to be helpful in those periods? But also, how can they come back in per se and not be as shut out in that whole process?

Cheryl Rosenberg [00:13:22]: Well, you're right. Chris, that is definitely a time when fathers just kind of throw their hands in the air, and they do feel left out because a lot of times girls and their mothers don't think that dad is really all that interested in this girly stuff. But in reality, they are, and it doesn't have to be every little detail. But say if your daughter is preparing to go to a dance, then she can, uh, involve dad by putting on her dress and saying, "Dance with me! Let's have a dance together before I—" have to dance at the prom, putting the dress on and asking dad what he thinks. Does he like it? Does he like the color? Just bringing him into what's going on with his daughter. And moms can be a great service in that area too, to get dad going, get him interested, and get him to feeling comfortable about relating to his daughter in the feminine areas. I think men Um, and boys are— feel very awkward, and so they just kind of don't respond at all when their response is so important. So it's just an easy— it doesn't have to be a big deal.

Cheryl Rosenberg [00:14:36]: Things are much easier than people imagine. Just doing us that simple thing like, hey Dad, I'm gonna go try on my dress, I want you to tell me what you think. Hey, let's take a few dance steps together. Just something that gets him smiling and comfortable and they're engaging with one another.

Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:14:55]: So what I'm hearing you say is the reaction of a father is definitely very important. And I guess when I think about that, I know that when a dad reacts to his daughter's stress with logic, fixing, or discipline, that can have kind of the negative impact. And I guess as you have seen that and worked with families, what impact does that make when a dad does come to that situation and try to provide logic, fixing, or discipline, which is kind of an MO for a lot of men or a lot of fathers. And I guess, what is a more emotionally attuned response that a dad can do?

Cheryl Rosenberg [00:15:31]: I would suggest that the father and the daughter set aside some time each week for a short talk. Doesn't have to be a long drawn-out affair. Just, hey, let's check in. Let's put this on the calendar. Let's check in on this day, and I want to hear what you've done this week, and I might have some suggestions for you, and then make suggestions for the next week and what you can do. I would like to see you accomplish this. How do you feel about that? Do you feel comfortable? Do you think you can get moving on that? Do you need some suggestions? Do you need some help? It's so important that, that they are connecting and that there's compassion and there's thought and compassion and that everybody feels that. Everybody can sense that we're working on a problem, but we're having a good time doing it.

Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:16:23]: So it sounds like a lot of daily work. And I guess, are there specific small daily practices that dads can do to either work on the relationship, rebuild trust, and provide that emotional safety to a daughter, especially if their daughter is pulling back or maybe they seem withdrawn or reactive or overwhelmed?

Cheryl Rosenberg [00:16:44]: Well, the best thing that they can do is to not react themselves, to, to calm the situation down. To have the teen or the child— sit them down and have a conversation on— or you can definitely sit at a table and drag out a game that you play all the time, a deck of cards or something, and sit down and talk while you're doing something that you both enjoy, um, and getting— sometimes that brings out the emotion and the problem, and then the father can deal with it in a more relaxed atmosphere. And they don't have to get so down to the nitty-gritty. Just gradually work on completing the answer to the problems, the, the solution, and scheduling— like I said, scheduling a once-a-week check-in is a great way to do it. And if they're, if they're having— they're highly emotional, calming them down with just something that they enjoy and something that you enjoy, then you can get them off of the intense emotion and sit down and start doing something that you both enjoy, and you're just Talk about it and discuss it. And you might not get anything right away, but you just keep trying and you let them tell you when they are ready. They're not going to sit down and be able to open up right away with every emotion and every problem, but after a while you'll see them opening up and you'll see that the parent, the father, is much more comfortable being in the situation that is so highly emotional. And it's a daily or a weekly practice.

Cheryl Rosenberg [00:18:24]: I mean, Daily is the things that they're supposed to be doing, and the parent can always be checking in. In the morning when you see each other for the first time, hey, how, how was yesterday? What are you going to do today? And that shows love and respect and concern, and, and the kids feel it. They know it. So it is a very hands-on, a very eye-opening and rewarding experience.

Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:18:49]: Well, Cheryl, I just want to say thank you. Thank you for sharing everything you've shared today. If people want to find out more about your programs, where should They should

Cheryl Rosenberg [00:18:58]: go to Cheryl, Cheryl, at D-R-O-S-E-N-B-E-R-G-I-O.com. And I have a website there and they can ask for consultation. It's a free consultation. And so I do that in order to start talking to them about where they need to start and what we need to start working with their child. And then I give them the supplies, the toolkit. Kit, and then I check in with them and we talk about that. I give them worksheets that they can use with their, their team. Um, it's really a nurturing experience to go through this and have everyone be able to feel comfortable and feel cared for, and it does everybody a lot of good.

Cheryl Rosenberg [00:19:49]: And they'd be surprised, they'll be very surprised at the results that they get. And it usually— if it's not a, a real deep problem, then they'll see a turnaround in as little as 2 weeks. So it's a great way to try to get the family back together, talking, communication, hands-on. It brings everybody to that point and we're all working to get the resolution. And so no one feels left out and everyone will benefit.

Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:20:21]: Now, I always finish my interviews with what I like to call the Dad Connection 6, and usually I ask dads these questions, but when I have daughters on, I ask them some similar questions. So, quick questions for you. What's one word that describes your relationship with your own father?

Cheryl Rosenberg [00:20:37]: Loving.

Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:20:38]: What's the best piece of dad advice you've ever received?

Cheryl Rosenberg [00:20:42]: Um, before my father passed away, he said to me, "What did I teach you?" And I said, "You taught me to do the best at anything that I tried." And that's my best from my dad.

Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:20:53]: Now, you mentioned what your day would look like before, but what's one activity you and your dad loved doing together?

Cheryl Rosenberg [00:20:59]: Painting. I mean, he was painting walls. That's entirely different. From what I did, but he taught me techniques and just care of the equipment. I was so much further ahead than a lot of other people because I spent those hours with him just painting walls and cleaning brushes and preventing any paint splashes or paint on the floor, paint on the woodwork, just everything, because he was so meticulous. And I learned that too.

Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:21:26]: And as we finish up today, what advice would you give to other dads who want to build a lasting and meaningful relationship with their daughters?

Cheryl Rosenberg [00:21:34]: I would say that being there, loving them, guiding them with your knowledge, giving them their space and allowing them to speak to the work that you're all accomplishing, trying to accomplish, working on, and just be open and be honest. And the two of you will always be in sync if you start when they're an early age.

Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:22:00]: Cheryl, thank you so much for being here and for the incredible work that you're doing with families. And dads, if there's one thing I hope that you take away from this conversation, it's this: it's that your daughter's big emotions aren't a rejection of you. They're often an invitation, an invitation to slow down, to listen, to regulate yourself first, to create safety. Connection doesn't come from fixing, it comes from presence. And sometimes the strongest thing that you can do as a father is simply stay steady when— stay steady when the waves get big. If today's conversation resonated with you, I encourage you to learn more about Cheryl's Healing Artfully program and the tools that she shares with families. And I'll make sure that there's links in the notes today. Until next time, keep showing up, keep listening, and keep building that intentional connection with your daughter.

Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:22:51]: It matters more than you know.

Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:22:53]: That's a wrap for this episode of the Dad and Daughter Connection. Thanks for joining us on this journey to build stronger bonds and raise confident, independent daughters. Remember, Being an engaged dad isn't about being perfect. It's about being present. If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to subscribe and share it with a fellow dad. And don't forget, you can find all our episodes at dadanddaughterconnection.com. Until next time, keep showing up, keep connecting, and keep being the dad she needs.

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