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Healing doesn’t happen all at once – and it doesn’t move in a straight line.
 In this episode of The Daydreamer Podcast, I explore why healing is like peeling an onion: layer by layer, sometimes emotional, sometimes uncomfortable, and often revealing more than we expected.

I talk about why old patterns can resurface even after years of inner work, why healing feels like moving backwards when it’s actually a spiral of growth, and how chasing “perfect healing” can keep us stuck. We explore the idea of healing to 80%, gaining awareness of the remaining 20% so it no longer unconsciously controls our choices.

This episode also dives into shadow work beyond anger and jealousy – including hidden shame around vulnerability, softness, and emotional expression. I reflect on how relationships act as mirrors, how triggers can offer insight without self-blame, and why discernment is essential on any healing journey.

If you’ve ever thought “I’ve already healed this – why is it back?”, this episode is for you.

Topics covered:
– Healing as a process, not a destination
– The onion & spiral metaphors in emotional growth
– Shadow work and emotional awareness
– Relationships as mirrors
– Letting go of healing perfectionism

Kasia Golda-Phillips