trauma bonded to the Narcissist, so let’s take a quick peek into how you found yourself here..
Narcissists’ love to have all the power and control over their lives, along with everyone else involved with them..
When we found ourselves in the intial stages of Narcissistic Abuse, we were being Love-bombed
most likely no boundaries were in place so we handed over our power and control to them, while we were being groomed .
They may have pushed the -soul mate idea heavily and perhaps you bough into it for while
Maybe it felt nice to let someone else take care things / you .
A lot of us had no idea that we were giving ourselves away to a pathologically toxic person, who ultimately transformed into someone that wanted to destroy us.. to feel better about themselves..
By the time the Devaluation cycle hit, we were traumatized and knew this wasn’t life at all
.some feel the trauma bond was neurologically carved into our brain during our childhood, and this obsession is one of the most difficult addictions to break..
We are creatures of habits and tend to repeat what we know..
It takes a lot of patience, effort, insight, willpower, time, education, determination, and support from others, to develop the fortitude to take the steps forward, (and maybe backwards too,) to tackle the many stages of healing, from this trauma…
We have to break old habits with laser focus, and rewire our brain to form new neural pathways to develop connections to form new habits, and make progress forward..
Our emotions, thoughts can keep us stuck, and they prevent us from moving forward when we stay in our feelings.. We want to go back to the thrilling roller coaster ride, that was driven by an influx of feel good hormones when we were validated, mixed with low periods of absence, that we became addicted to..
You can’t say NO and set healthy boundaries for yourself because you matter and want more for yourself
You have to think logically to make new choices, to physically and mentally develop new habits, and decide to no longer allow this abusive person have the power, and control over your life anymore..
You can look at yourself as a target, victim, survivor, or thriver of Narcissistic abuse..
You can become empowered when you have had enough of the same old Narc cycles of devaluation/discard/ hoover, with no future whatsoever ahead of you…. Or you can choose to stay.. everyone has free will
But gods plan for you is peace and happiness
Perhaps once you get sick of spinning your wheels, going no where on a dead end road, you
can make the choice to GO, stay NO contact, and to commit to break this addiction for good.
Self Care my friends ~ Always preferred for your life to unpack and unfold seamlessly 🙏🌸🙏☮️
