The Art of Flirting: Why Dating Shouldn't Feel Like a Job Interview

If dating has started to feel like a second job, this episode is for you.

Somewhere between the swiping, screening and analysing, many women have forgotten that dating is supposed to be fun.

In this episode of Healing with Teeling, Rachel shares why so many high-achieving women approach dating like a board meeting, and how that mindset can kill connection, attraction and enjoyment before a relationship has even had a chance to begin.

You'll learn why flirting isn't about playing games or pretending to be someone you're not. It's about bringing curiosity, confidence and playfulness back into your dating life.

Rachel shares the mindset shifts that helped her stop treating dating like a project to manage and start enjoying the process again.

In this episode you'll learn:

• Why online dating can leave you feeling numb and disconnected

• How to stop interviewing people and start getting to know them

• Why looking for your future husband on every first date creates unnecessary pressure

• The powerful mindset shift from trying to be chosen to deciding whether you actually like them

• Why collecting stories is far more fun than collecting disappointments

• How to create attraction through curiosity instead of interrogation

• Why mystery and playfulness matter in healthy dating

• The difference between spotting red flags and recognising green flags

• How to bring flirting, fun and excitement back into dating

If you've been treating dating like a performance review, this is your reminder to put the clipboard down and start enjoying yourself again.

Because healthy love isn't just about finding the right person.

It's about becoming the woman who trusts herself, enjoys her life and stays open to connection.

Ready to understand why you keep attracting emotionally unavailable men or why dating feels so exhausting?

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In this episode of Healing with Teeling, I’m joined by Life Alignment Coach Natalie Leggett for an honest conversation about dating, people pleasing, co-parenting, healing after heartbreak, and learning to trust yourself again.

We talk about:

• Dating as a single mum

• Why high-achieving women often overgive in relationships

• Healing relationship patterns

• Building healthy boundaries

• Trusting your intuition when dating

• Learning to stop settling

• Creating a life that truly aligns with you

• Why healthy love should feel safe, supportive and peaceful

This episode is for the woman who feels exhausted from doing everything alone, keeps attracting emotionally unavailable relationships, or feels scared she may never find the relationship she truly wants.

Natalie shares openly about her own journey through separation, single motherhood, dating, healing, and rediscovering herself after difficult experiences.

And together we remind you that you are not “too much” for the right person.

If this episode resonated with you, please share it with someone who needs to hear this.

You can find me on Instagram here:

@rachelteelingcoaching

You can connect with Natalie here:

@thrivewith_natalie

If you keep attracting emotionally unavailable relationships, overgiving, overthinking, or losing yourself in love, this quiz will help you uncover the subconscious relationship pattern that may really be keeping you stuck.

Take my Love Blocking Archetype Quiz:

https://www.rachelteeling.com/why-am-i-still-single-quiz

If you’re ready to stop repeating the same relationship cycle and start creating healthy, emotionally secure love, an Empowerment Session is the first step to exploring how we can work together to transform your patterns and relationships. Book an Empowerment Session with me here:

https://www.rachelteeling.com/book-an-empowerment-session

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In today’s episode of Healing with Teeling, Rachel is joined by Sarah Harrison for an honest and emotional conversation about ADHD, burnout, people-pleasing, relationships, and finally understanding yourself.

Sarah shares her journey of living for years feeling “too much,” constantly busy, overwhelmed, exhausted, and trying to fit into a world that never quite made sense to her until she received her ADHD diagnosis in adulthood.

Together, Rachel and Sarah explore:

• How ADHD can impact relationships, friendships, self-worth and identity
• The pressure many high-achieving women place on themselves
• Burnout, masking and emotional overwhelm
• People pleasing and overcommitting
• Rejection sensitivity and emotional triggers
• Financial chaos, impulsivity and dopamine seeking
• Why diagnosis can feel validating rather than limiting
• The importance of boundaries, self-awareness and self-acceptance
• Learning to stop abandoning yourself to fit in

This episode is a reminder that you are not “too much” you may simply need to understand yourself differently.

If today’s episode resonated with you and you’re struggling with self-worth, relationship patterns, burnout or emotional overwhelm, you can book an empowerment session with Rachel here:

✨ Book an Empowerment Session with Rachel Teeling

Take Rachel’s free Love Blocking Archetype Quiz:

• ADHD UK
• ADDISS – The National ADHD Information and Support Service
• NHS ADHD Overview
• Right to Choose ADHD Pathway Information

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In this deeply honest and inspiring episode of Healing with Teeling, I sit down with Carol Whiteley, also known as The Kitchen Confidence Coach.

Carol shares her powerful story of surviving rape, domestic abuse, shame, and suicidal thoughts, and how she slowly rebuilt herself through coaching, gratitude, journalling, self-worth work, and reconnecting with herself through food and cooking.

We talk about:

• Going from suicidal to thriving

• Healing after trauma and abuse

• The impact of shame and self-hatred

• Learning to ask for help

• Gratitude and journalling as healing tools

• Rebuilding confidence after trauma

• Why cooking and connection can be so healing

• The importance of community and support

Carol also shares how she once feared the kitchen so much she would physically vomit walking into it, and how she has now turned that fear into purpose by helping others reconnect with cooking, nourishment, and confidence through her Back to Basics community.

This episode is emotional, raw, hopeful, and an important reminder that healing is possible, even after the darkest moments.

Follow Carol:

Instagram: @flare_survivor

Join the Back2basics FNB Group here.

If you are ready to heal from your past, rebuild your confidence, and create healthy loving relationships, you can book an Empowerment Call with me here:

If you have been affected by any of the themes discussed in this episode and need professional support, the following helplines are available free of charge and staffed 24/7:

Rape Crisis 0808 500 2222

Scotland Rape Crisis 08088 01 03 02

National Domestic Abuse Helpline (Refuge) 0808 2000 247

Samaritans 116 123

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This week on Healing with Teeling, I’m talking about the two types of women I work with most and why both often struggle to find healthy, secure love.

One woman is rebuilding after heartbreak. Her relationship has ended and the future she planned feels impossible to imagine without him.

The other woman looks like she has everything together. The career, the house, the independence, the lifestyle. But behind closed doors she still longs for a relationship and someone to truly share her life with.

Although these women look very different on the surface, they often carry the same deep rooted beliefs around love, trust, safety, and relationships.

In this episode I share:

• The hidden subconscious beliefs keeping women stuck in painful relationship patterns

• Why heartbreak and hyper independence often come from the same wounds

• The difference between coaching and therapy

• What actually happens inside my 1:1 coaching programme

• How NLP and subconscious work help rewire limiting beliefs around love and relationships

• Why healing your relationship patterns changes every area of your life, not just dating

• How feminine and masculine energy affect healthy relationships

• Real client transformations and personal experiences from my own journey

If you’ve ever felt like love just doesn’t work out for you, this episode will help you understand why and what needs to change to finally create the relationship you truly want.

Take my free quiz:

Why Am I Still Single?

https://www.rachelteeling.com/why-am-i-still-single-quiz

Ready to go deeper?

Book your Empowerment Session here:

https://www.rachelteeling.com/book-an-empowerment-session

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This episode is deeply personal.

A recent conversation with a former client reminded me that there was once a time where I said I would never live with a man again.

And I truly meant it.

After my nine year relationship ended just weeks before our wedding, I closed myself off emotionally. I convinced myself that independence was safer than vulnerability. Safer than love.

In this episode, I share the real story behind that version of me.

The heartbreak.

The betrayal.

The loneliness.

The healing journey that changed everything.

And the unexpected update…

Because today, I’m in a healthy, loving relationship and we’ve just bought a house together.

Not the dream house by the sea.

Not a perfect Pinterest renovation.

But a real home, in a real season of life, with all the chaos that comes with it.

We’re decorating every room.

Building IKEA furniture.

Knocking walls down to make a gym.

Living without WiFi.

Managing school runs in opposite directions across the Midlands.

And somehow… it feels calm.

Safe.

Fun, even.

This episode is about what becomes possible when you stop living in protection mode and start rebuilding trust within yourself.

If you’re a high achieving woman who feels stuck in unhealthy patterns in love, struggles to trust herself after heartbreak, or fears she’ll never have the relationship she truly wants, this conversation is for you.

Inside this episode, we talk about:

• Why independence can sometimes be emotional protection

• How heartbreak impacts your ability to trust yourself

• The subconscious patterns that keep women stuck in unhealthy relationships

• What emotional safety actually feels like

• How healing changes the way you experience love

• Why healthy relationships feel calm, not chaotic

This month, I’m giving away my mini course for free.

Inside, I’ll help you understand the patterns keeping you stuck in love, where they come from, and how to start changing them.

DM me the words MAY26 on Instagram and I’ll send it over to you.

If you’re ready for deeper support, you can also book an Empowerment Session with me.

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You can look like you have it all together and still feel completely broken after a breakup.

In this episode, I share a real story from a colleague going through the end of a 15 year relationship, and why heartbreak hits high achieving women so deeply.

We talk about the pattern I see all the time. Women who keep going, stay busy, and throw themselves into work, but never fully heal.

If you’re still carrying pain from a past relationship, this episode will help you understand why you feel stuck and what actually needs to change.

What You’ll Learn

• Why heartbreak feels so overwhelming even when you are strong and capable
• The pattern of high achieving women masking pain through work and productivity
• The difference between coping and actually healing
• Why healing is essential if you want a healthy relationship in the future
• The 7 key steps to move forward after a breakup
• Why you keep repeating the same patterns in relationships

The 7 Steps to Healing Heartbreak

• Rediscover joy, connection, and purpose
• Master your mindset
• Reframe the breakup and emotionally declutter
• Refocus on the present
• Rediscover yourself and find the positives
• Build resilience and set boundaries
• Take inspired action toward your future

Key Takeaway

You don’t heal heartbreak by staying busy or waiting for time to pass.

If you don’t heal, you repeat.

Same patterns. Same fears. Same relationship, different person.

Next Steps

If you’re ready to start moving forward, I’ve created a mini course that walks you through these 7 steps in a simple, structured way.

For May, you can get it for free. (worth £77)

Comment MAY26 on my latest post and I’ll send it to you. Find me on Insta here

Work With Me

If you’re ready for deeper support and want to shift what’s really keeping you stuck, you can book an empowerment session with me.

We’ll look at where you are, what’s holding you back, and what needs to change so you can move forward with clarity and confidence.

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You’re not bad at dating.

But you might be carrying the wrong energy into it.

In this episode, we’re talking about what really shapes your dating experience before you even sit down across from someone.

Because it’s not just about who you meet.

It’s about how you show up.

If you’ve ever felt anxious before a date, overthought everything you said, or left feeling drained or confused, this episode will help you understand why.

And more importantly, what to do instead.

Inside this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why your energy before a date matters more than what you say or wear

• The common patterns women carry into dating without realising

• How nerves, pressure, and past experiences shape your behaviour

• The shift from needing to be chosen to choosing

• Simple ways to feel calmer, more grounded, and more in control before a date

• Practical dating tips to protect your time, energy, and standards

I also share personal experiences and client stories, including how high-achieving women can feel confident in every area of life but lose that confidence when it comes to dating.

And how that can change.

If you’re tired of repeating the same dating patterns or not feeling like yourself when you date, this episode will give you a new way to approach it.

Next steps

If you want support with how you show up before dating, start with my pre-date ritual.

This will guide you step by step to feel calm, grounded, and in control before you walk into any date.

Download your pre-date ritual here.

If you’re ready to go deeper and shift the patterns behind your dating experience, you can book an Empowerment Session with me.

This is where we uncover what’s really driving your dating patterns and change how you show up so dating actually feels good again.

Book your Empowerment Session here.

Dating doesn’t start when you sit down across from someone.

It starts with the energy you bring before you even walk in.

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You have the life you once dreamed of.

The career.

The home.

The holidays.

The independence.

From the outside, it looks like you have it all.

But when it comes to love… you still feel lonely.

In this episode, I break down why this happens and what is really going on beneath the surface.

If you keep finding yourself dating but never quite getting the relationship you want, this is for you.

Inside this episode, I share:

• Why serial dating is not the problem and what it is protecting you from
• How independence can become emotional armour without you realising
• The hidden fears that block love and intimacy
• Why the belief “it’s too late” is keeping you stuck
• The shift from trying to control love to actually allowing it in
• The choices that create the relationship you want in the future

I also share parts of my own story. From heartbreak and rebuilding my life on my own, to learning how to open up again and receive love in a completely different way.

This is not about doing more.

It is about understanding what is driving your patterns and changing it at the root.

If you are ready to stop repeating the same cycles in dating and start creating real connection, I invite you to book an Empowerment Session.

This is a 1:1 session where we look at your patterns, your blocks, and what is keeping you stuck in your love life.

We will explore your relationship history, the beliefs driving your choices, and the behaviours that are playing out in dating.

You will leave with clarity on what needs to change and how my 1:1 coaching can support you to transform your love life.

Book your Empowerment Session here

You do not need to change who you are.

You just need to feel safe enough to be seen.

And that is where everything shifts.

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Why are you putting up with something that isn’t giving you what you truly want?

In this episode, I’m diving into the reality of situationships, why we get into them, why we stay, and why they can feel so hard to walk away from… even when we know they’re not right for us.

If you’ve ever found yourself:

• Feeling addicted to the highs and lows of a man who isn’t fully available
• Hoping he’ll change or eventually choose you
• Telling yourself you’re “fine” with something casual… when deep down you want more
• Frustrated with dating (especially over 35) and wondering why the men you like won’t commit

This episode is for you.

I’m sharing my own experience of being in a situationship, the truth I had to face, and the moment everything changed for me.

We’ll talk about:

• Why situationships feel so addictive
• The hard truth about waiting for him to change
• The questions you need to ask yourself (and answer honestly)
• How to actually walk away, even when it hurts
• Why creating space is the key to calling in the relationship you really want

This is your reminder that you don’t have to settle for half-hearted love, confusion, or “almost” relationships.

You get to choose more.

If you know this is you, and you’re ready to stop repeating the same cycles in dating and relationships…

Book an Empowerment Session with me.

This is where we uncover what’s really keeping you stuck, shift those patterns, and get you moving towards the kind of relationship you actually want.

👉 Book here

• Book your Empowerment Session
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