If there is an imbalance, or a lack of acceptance, or even disgust or repulsion at what one (or both!) people want as part of their sexual needs suggests to me that there is something unhealthy there. 

To me, a healthy relationship covers ALL my needs for sex. 

Read the original blog here. https://datingkinky.com/blog/why-do-i-have-to-hate-you-to-fuck-you-like-that/