Turn it Up! Marriage Tips and Tools

Hearing "No" from your Spouse


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Hearing No in Marriage: How to Respond with Strength, Love, and RespectI talk about why many marriages don’t break down because of a “no,” but because of what happens in the next 60 seconds—disappointment, anger, and pressure turning into conflict. As part of my series on incorporating no into your relationship, I share a biblical foundation (Ephesians 5:33, Matthew 5:37, 2 Corinthians 9:7, Amos 3:3) and practical tools for hearing no in marriage: don’t debate the no, don’t punish honesty, regulate disappointment like an adult, ask clarifying questions without pressure, address repeated patterns at the right time using I-statements, and ask permission to revisit the issue to pursue a win-win. I also encourage prayer and support, including a free 30-minute strategy call and other resources at https://turnitup.coach. 00:00 When No Sparks Conflict01:07 Series Overview and Who I Am01:59 Biblical Foundation for No03:48 Why No Builds Trust05:15 Tool 1 Stop Debating06:38 Tool 2 Don't Punish Honesty07:16 Tool 3 Regulate Disappointment09:00 Tool 4 Clarify Without Pressure10:20 Tool 5 Address Patterns Later12:04 Tool 6 Ask to Revisit13:33 Get Help and Coaching17:57 Final Encouragement and Next StepsHere's the link to download my free couples communication guide: https://www.turnitup.coach/communicationguideI'm also offering a free 30-minute strategy call for personalized help. Schedule your free Strategy call today at by calling or texting 626-804-1731or go to https://tidycal.com/kdupee1/30-minute-strategy-callHere's the link to get your free copy of my book, Turn it Up - how to have the lifelong marriage that you really want: https://turnitup.coach/75Here's the link to my video on Making it Ok to say No: https://youtu.be/l08-Jo8UjoAHow to say No: https://youtu.be/65I2YmSk86cSaying No Playlist: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLIVwkz_tHswcg7Dc5FP4LOI0OmqgkCXm-

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Turn it Up! Marriage Tips and ToolsBy by Kelly DuPée