As we continue with part 2 and conclude the teaching on one of the tactics narcissists employ to exert control and manipulation onto their targets, we will be looking at the different criteria that flying monkeys fall into, as well as how to deal with them.

You feel attacked. People are pointing at you and whispering. Some, are total strangers, and some are people you know. People you thought were your friends seem to be avoiding you lately. You hear that you’re being gossiped about. You’re being lied about. You start to feel like an outcast in your own social group. They spread lies about you and bash you in an attempt to tear you apart from the people and places you love.

I hope you never experience this, but if you do, there is a good chance you are a victim of a narcissistic smear campaign.

Narcissists recruit others to spread the lies, to actively participate in the damage to the target’s reputation.

The psychological term for these associates is:

FLYING MONKEYS.

Gaslighting is an abusive tactic aimed to make a person doubt their own thoughts and feelings. It is often subtle especially in the beginning when they're still grooming the target to believe the false narratives. For example, if the target tells a story, the abuser may challenge a small detail.

We will be looking at:

-Where it originates from

-Why abusers do it

-Warning signs

-Techniques used

-How it affects you

-How to overcome it

Once again let’s get informed and educated about abuse.

Knowledge is power.

“My people perish because of lack of knowledge “ Hosea 4:6.

We will be learning about one of the abusive ways a narcissist employs to further torture their target during and after the relationship.

What is a smear campaign?

It is the intentional and systematic dissemination of deceptive information designed to undermine, discredit, and further isolate you. The narcissist paints you in a misleading and toxic light using strategies including but not limited to exaggeration, instigation of rumours, slander, character assassination and lies.

To get you where it really hurts, they target any person available to them who matters to you. No one and nothing is off-limits to the narcissist. This encompasses your family members, all friends both mutual and non-mutual, employer, co-workers, and members of communities to which you belong (e.g.: neighbours, church, volunteering organisations, sports teams etc.). Anyone accessible to the narcissist in your professional and personal networks is fair game.

Now listen on, be informed and help raise awareness.

This podcast episode is the final part of the Narcissistic Personality Disorder and Abuse two-part series, focussing on narcissistic mothers.

In this episode we will be looking at:

- types of wrong mother and son relationships

- telltale signs that a man is having an incestuous relationship with his mother

- what to do once a man(son)realises that his relationship with his mother is a bit awkward

Part 1 is available which is a good introduction to NPD, learn about more narcissistic parents, infantilisation and its causes and more.

I have started a 2-part teaching about narcissistic personality disorder and abuse. For this episode, I will use mother-son-relationship for the mere reason that narcissism affects men more and those men would have been raised by narcissistic mothers.

In part 1, we will be looking at:

-Development of NPD

-Types of narcissistic parents and their parenting styles.

-Effects of these parenting styles

-Facts about narcissistic parents

-Infantilisation and its causes

-How to know if you were raised by a narcissist

We often wonder what is the main problem in the life of a person with narcissistic personality disorder or traits. What went wrong in their childhood and early development.

The big problem in the life of a narcissistic person is the inability to deal with or handle shame which stemmed from childhood.

In this episode, we are going to look at the origin of this shame and how it determined the formation of the narcissistic personality disorder.

Previously in part 1 we looked at narcissism or narcissistic personality disorder and traits to see how they interact and function in relationships. In part 2 we will look at the mechanisms narcissists use to amplify abuse at their target and why they do what they do.

May is Mental Health Awareness Month. I wanted to bring some highlights on certain topics that are prevalent in mental health, especially in domestic abusive relationships. In part 1 of this video, we will be learning about narcissism or narcissistic personality disorder and traits to see how they interact and function in relationships.

In part 2 we look at the mechanisms narcissists use to amplify abuse at their target and why they do what they do.

In today’s world of public opinion and fear of offending, Christians can find themselves standing with their mics muted.

It is like Jesus Christ is still asking His Bride, the church the same question He asked His disciples:

“Who do people say I am?”

“Who you say that I am?”

In this podcast, we will look at the two questions and learn from them what Jesus really wanted to bring home to His disciples.