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Fernanda is back to talk all things Therapy and Love! 

What makes for happy, fulfilled relationship? Who hasn’t heard (or been told!) “you have to love yourself first to be happy in a relationship”? So many folks talk about the importance of self-love and how you need to love yourself first in order to be happy/have successful relationship. But what does self-love mean? How does it look like? 

Andrea and Fernanda take a closer look at self-love and break it into actionable and concrete concepts we can all use. Self-love it’s complex and there is no formula or quick solution. Yet, there are aspects of how we engage in relationship with others (and with ourselves) that can lead us to more meaningful and lasting relationships.

In this episode, we discuss boundaries, being vulnerable, emotional intelligence, taking responsibility for our actions and taking perspective as strategies we can all put into practice and ultimately, cultivate our self-love.

It's an episode full of great tips and insight for anyone who wants to go one layer deeper into their journey of healing, self-love, and partnership. 

If you leave wanting more, we highly recommend the work of Brené Brown who has been researching for decades the concept of vulnerability and the work of Marc Barackett, Ph.D. on how the power of emotions can transform our lives. 

Resources:

Permission to Feel by Marc Brackett, Ph.D. https://www.marcbrackett.com/#:~:text=Permission%20to%20Feel%20%28Celadon%2FMacmillan%29%20inspires%20a%20new%20mindset,the%20power%20of%20emotions%20to%20transform%20our%20lives.

Brené Brown: The power of vulnerability, TED Talk

https://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_the_power_of_vulnerability

and her amazing books: https://brenebrown.com/books-audio/

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It's Andrea's birthday! And it also happens to be Election Day. 

Andrea sits down with her best friend Brad to talk about love, politics, the importance of this election, their feelings about our current president, and their hope for the future.

It's a light, insightful, and fun conversation among friends. Make sure to go vote and take some time for yourself as we get to the end of this very stressful election year.

Grab some champagne - or your drink of choice - and be around those you love! 

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They boys Wade, Juan, and Keith are back to talk about the current state of things and what has changed in the past few months since they were all together. They discussed everything from Jacob Blake, Breonna Taylor, to mental health and the effect the rise of racial injustice awareness has affected and impacted their relationships.

It was candid, raw, extremely vulnerable, and as important as ever.  The kind of conversation that we must continue to have as we continue to fight for racial equity and justice. There's a lot of work to be done and Date & Debate Podcast is committed to bringing awareness, having the hard conversations, and using this platform to drive change.

If you'd like to follow these amazing guys you can find them here:

@the_real_juanb
@wade.days
@keith.bruce

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Mel, Liz, Dustin, and Andrea are back for  another collab!

They touched on all subjects: BLM, Voting, Sex, Pegging (oh yeah they went there), Trump, being a Stay at Home Mom, Relationships,  and so so much more. It's a very long episode (Andrea loves a juicy and long episode!) with a smooth transition around 1:49:00 to take a break if you need to. This was a conversations fueled by several bottles of champagne that made this convo even better and more entertaining.

If you haven’t already please follow moderndaymujeres and subscribe to their podcast for more amazing content and episodes on their podcast. They are on a mission to changing the world and give latina women a voice! 

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Andrea sits down with Thomas to peel the layers of what it takes to be the best you can in a partnership.

Thomas is a relationships expert, author, and podcast host, who specializes in helping couples transform their conflicts into lasting love.

It's a great and introspective conversation where Thomas shares his expertise on vulnerability and building healthy & meaningful relationships. Some topics discussed were The Pleaser Syndrome, Male Vulnerability, and Emotional Intimacy among others.

If you enjoyed this chat, you can find out more about Thomas in any of the following platforms:

Website: https://www.zensensa.com/

Podcast:
Apple https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/marriage-relationship-and-couples-advice/id1461457172
Spotify https://open.spotify.com/show/0k8tq88A7oy2CNBxgaLi0z?si=0hAPFxqcTgmaluqSJtVcRA

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/zen_sensa/

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Andrea sits down with Tray to discuss white privilege, what it is, what it means, how it began, what is missing, and what we can do to drive meaningful and systemic change. 

It's a  raw and explicit conversation - white person to white person - about race, our history, and our responsibility to black and brown lives. This is about conversations that white folks need to have with each other.

Here are some resources discussed in this episode; 

• Unpacking the Invisible Knapsack
• Stages of Racial Identity Development

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Andrea and Tulsi sit down to discuss women's health and the impact our Pelvic Floor has on our intimate and sexual life.

Asking the right questions to your doctor and knowing/listening to your body are things we aren't taught growing up as women. We don't question diagnosis or treatments and can spend years without knwoing we had a condition that could have been easily been treated; Tulsi shared a story of a 70 year old patient who spent her entire life experiencing pain during sex and never questioned or knew why... until now.

If you have experienced trauma, chronic pain during your cycle, or discomfort during sex, please tune into this episode.

Tulsi graduated from California in 2008. She has over 11 years of experience as a physical therapist treating a variety of orthopedic conditions as well as women's health/pelvic floor problems. She has worked with some of the leading orthopedic surgeons and women's health specialist doctors at NYU, the Hospital for special surgery (HSS) as well as private practice doctors in New York City, giving her unique opportunities to learn advanced evaluation and treatment techniques.

She is passionate about Women's Health and focuses on creating individualized treatment plans that include full body rehabilitation to optimize overall function. In her practise, they offer in person as well as telehealth consultation/treatment options to their patients.

You can visit her website: www.activebodyactivelife.com or follow her on Facebook & Instagram.

If you'd like to read a bit more about Tulsi please check out this article on Voyage Dallas

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Trigger Warning: This episode contains content about domestic abuse and violence in detail. For anyone affected by abuse and needing support please call 1-800-799-7233 or if you're unable to speak freely you can log onto thehotline.org or text LOVEIS to 1-866-331-9474.

Jo Lam is the founder and CEO of Project Beauty, a Dallas based 501c3 nonprofit organization that strives to restore confidence in survivors of domestic violence through teaching self-love and self-empowerment.

As a domestic violence survivor herself, she has learned to turn her pain into power, and is now on mission to empower the women around her to remember their divinity.

Jo believes that every experience is a teacher. Having lived at a shelter herself, Jo uses those experiences to empower survivors by teaching them that their past does not determine their future. Some of the tools that Project Beauty uses to educate women about positive self dialogue include journaling and affirmation writing.

You can follow Project Beauty on Instagram and Facebook. 

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This BONUS episode is one you cannot miss! Andrea and Fernanda sit down to chat with Nathalia Gilek the founder and CEO of Yoni WANDerland to talk about Yoni Eggs and Wands and how these can help us discover our inner goddess.

YONI means TEMPLE and Nathalia explains how the energy of the eggs, wands and the crystals they are made of, help us own our feminine power, gain a deeper connection & relationship with ourselves, and help us break down our own internal walls that are keeping us from embracing our true inner beauty and strength.

We unpack the importance of seeing our vagina as a temple and how we must start loving and caring for the most important sexual organ around. After all, we all exist because of it!

Nathalia takes us down a journey of self love, self discovery, and self exploration. It's an episode for ALL women  that will open your mind and inspire you.

You can follow Nathalia on IG @Yoniwanderland and use discount code DATE-AND-DEBATE for 10% off your purchase!

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*EPISODE WAS RECORDED ENTIRELY IN SPANISH* 

Fernanda is back for our last episode of this one-month miniseries to talk about Love Languages! We all express and understand love in different ways. In this episode, Andrea and Fernanda discuss the five different ways in which we communicate love, while taking a look at their own love languages.

Love is a choice. Choosing to speak your partner’s love language can have a huge impact in your partner and relationship. Join us in getting curious about love languages and learning helpful tips on how you can start communicating more effectively your love to your partner!

Resources:

If you have not yet read/listened to the book The 5 Languages of Love, we highly recommend it! It’s available in all platforms:

• Chapman, G. D. (1995). The five love languages: How to express heartfelt commitment to your mate. Chicago: Northfield Pub.

 Learn your love language by taking this quick quiz: https://www.5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/

 And if you want to continue learning more, here is a helpful article with great tips!

• Nguyen, J. (2020). What are The 5 Love Languages? Everything you need to know. Mind Body Green, May 19, 2020. Retrieved on August 5, 2020 from https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/the-5-love-languages-explained

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