Before ghosting and dating apps, there were handwritten love letters, promenades, and chaperones lurking in the corner. In this episode, we take a look at how people used to fall in love, from Regency rules to Victorian love notes, and how we got from there to the world of swipes and unread DMs.

We’re talking fan flirting, postal crushes, romantic rituals, and why some old-fashioned traditions might just be worth bringing back. Plus, a real Victorian love letter read aloud, just in case you’re in need of a little swoon.

If you’ve ever wondered how dating got so complicated, or secretly wish someone would write you a letter instead of liking your Story, this one’s for you.

In this week’s episode, I asked two men — anonymously, of course — a series of questions about modern dating: from dating apps and first date etiquette to emotional readiness, red flags, and what they really wish women understood.

Their answers? Surprisingly calm, thoughtful, and occasionally reflective (no chaos here, sorry). We covered everything from why some people come on too strong, to whether men actually know if they want something serious after the first date.

It’s an honest, down-to-earth chat — no wild confessions, just two men sharing their perspectives and me reacting in real time.

If you’ve ever wondered what men are thinking on the other side of the table… this one’s for you.

Pop the kettle on and get comfy, because this episode of Help Me I’m Dating is a little pep talk for every woman who’s ever felt like she isn’t enough.

Joanna reads from her book, Dating for the Single Goddess: A Journey to Self-Love, offering heartfelt advice on why self-love is the real secret to thriving in dating. She shares how to stop chasing and start choosing, and reminds you that you always deserve to be treated like royalty.

Perfect for anyone needing a boost of confidence, this chat will leave you feeling like the radiant goddess you truly are.

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Pop the kettle on and get comfy, because this episode of Help Me I’m Dating is a warm, witty pep talk for every woman who’s has never felt enough.

Joanna reads from her book, The Single Goddess: A Journey to Self-Love, sharing heartfelt advice on why self-love is the true secret to better dating, how to stop chasing and start choosing, and why you deserve royal treatment - always.

Perfect for anyone needing a boost of confidence, this cosy chat will leave you feeling like the radiant goddess you truly are.

What if the relationship you want is the prize - not the man? In this episode, certified dating and relationship coach Naomi Thompson shares how to date from a place of inner strength, not people-pleasing.

From the "kayak vs yacht" analogy to the power of peach energy, Naomi gives practical tips for building self-worth, setting boundaries, and attracting emotionally available partners.

Expect real talk on overthinking, dating apps, first-date rules, and why you should always disappoint him before you disappoint yourself.

In this episode I am joined by relationship and identity voach Samantha Hyam, to explore how self-worth shapes our dating lives. Discover why we unconsciously attract people who reflect our insecruriries and how to break free from old patterns.

In this episode, I'm joined by counsellor and psychotherapist Louise O’Connell to explore how your attachment style, formed in childhood, shapes the way you show up in relationships today.

From anxious texting habits to avoidant shutdowns, we unpack the different styles (secure, anxious, avoidant, disorganised), how they show up in dating, and most importantly, how they can change.

A candid conversation with Jennyfer Jay about her new book, Lessons I Learned from Dating Men. We talk about the dating experiences that inspired it, the chaos of modern dating, and why leaving in silence might just be your new superpower.

This week on Help Me I’m Dating, I’m joined by the brilliant Claire Snoddy - a costume supervisor with credits like Game of Thrones and How to Train Your Dragon, a mum of three, and the host of the In My Solo Era podcast.

After a 16-year marriage, closing her successful bridal business, and navigating heartbreak, Claire chose to rebuild - on her own terms. We talk about starting over in your 40s, solo travel, ghosting, dating app drama, TikTok trolls, and rediscovering your voice after grief.

Claire’s story is one of reinvention, resilience, and radical self-belief - a reminder that singlehood isn’t a failure, it’s a fresh start.

If you're in your solo era, this one’s for you.

In this episode of Help Me I’m Dating, I chat with yoga instructor Kat Hutchings about how yoga can help you regulate your emotions, deepen your self-love, and handle dating like a total queen.

We talk: 

• How Kat’s journey into yoga and wellness helped her through big life shifts
• Breathwork tips for pre-date nerves
• What self-love really looks like day-to-day
• Plus, Kat shares her worst ever Tinder date story (it’s a good one).