let's be honest we all love being sad over a certain thing! The pain reminds us that we finally have a seat on the table in the future. It reminds us that at some point in our life, we had a moment where this sadness was born and at its peak. But sadder than the thing were sad about is the fact that we willingly decide to hurt ourselves with Limerence or daydreaming. We're not really sad over the thing with lost, we're just so bored that this is a spark that is reminding us back to a day where the sadness was tied to being happy.