The YouSchool Podcast

Helping Kids Find Motivation That Matters

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Episode Summary:
As parents, we want our kids to succeed, but true fulfillment only comes when their goals align with their authentic selves. In this episode, Scott Schimmel dives deep into the science of motivation, exploring self-concordance theory—a framework that helps explain why some goals energize and fulfill us while others leave us feeling empty. Learn how to guide your kids toward meaningful, autonomous goals and away from the trap of external pressures, guilt, and burnout.

Scott shares personal stories, practical advice, and research-backed insights to help parents foster their children’s self-awareness, autonomy, and lifelong fulfillment. Discover how to support your kids in identifying what truly lights them up, reflect on their motivations, and make decisions that align with their identity and values.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

  1. The difference between controlled motivations (external pressures, guilt) and autonomous motivations (intrinsic passion, identified purpose).
  2. How to recognize when your child is pursuing goals for the wrong reasons.
  3. Practical tips for encouraging self-reflection and focusing on the process, not just the outcome.
  4. Real-life examples of guiding kids toward activities that align with their interests and identity.
  5. Why helping your child align with their true self builds long-term fulfillment and success.

    6. Actionable Takeaways:

    1. Ask Reflective Questions: Start conversations with your kids like, “What excites you about that activity?” or “When do you feel most yourself?”
    2. Focus on Effort and Growth: Shift the family culture to celebrate curiosity and perseverance over external rewards.
    3. Mirror Interests: Notice and neutrally reflect back what you observe excites or energizes your child.
    4. Model Self-Concordance: Show your kids how you pursue what aligns with your values and interests.

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