Heme Consults: For Women of Color in Hematology

Heme Consults: For Women of Color in Hematology

By Toyosi OnwuemeneMedicineHealth & Fitness
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Heme Consults: For Women of Color in Hematology episodes

  • The Coaching Advantage
    When you are playing the infinite game, you may be surprised to find that others around you are playing a finite game. And because they are playing a finite game, they may feel that your winning equates to their losing. And because lose-win is their perspective, they can work against you and even react vehemently against you. Like fans in a basketball game, they can boo you loudly and try to derail you from your game. If you are going to win in the game, you work with a coach who helps you focus on the game. You also bring with you your own cheerleaders who root for you no matter what. Then how well doesn't depend on the booing fans, it depends on you working together with your support system.
    28 min
  • Playing the Infinite Game
    In today's insightful discussion, we explore the notion that true competition lies within oneself, not with others. Winning against others may bring temporary satisfaction, but true fulfillment comes from competing with yourself. The ultimate triumph worth striving for is becoming a better version of yourself. Rather than seeking external recognition or approval, the true measure of success is the continuous evolution of our skills, knowledge, and character.
    26 min
  • Mistakes are allowed here
    Embracing mistakes is an essential aspect of learning and growth. Making mistakes is a natural part of being human and an indication of the learning process. Learning environments should be free from judgment towards those mistakes. Mistakes expose the gaps in our knowledge; they are valuable gifts that benefit our future self; and they serve as clear indicators of ongoing learning. Acknowledge the inevitability of mistakes. Show compassion towards others when they make mistakes. And, most importantly, extend that compassion to yourself.
    30 min
  • Academic medicine is not your home
    You may have grown up in a safe and loving environment at home; but academic medicine is not that kind of home. Academic medicine can lure you into a sense of complacency where you assume that every request that is asked of you is in your best interest. It is time to evaluate each request independent of the requestor and make a decision that is aligned with your best interests. Spoiler alert - You are going to need to exercise your "no" muscles. It is likely that they are flabby.
    35 min
  • Bring your own tea

    Sometimes you get to an environment that doesn't have what you need to thrive. Perhaps they forgot to ask you in advance. Perhaps someone decided that what is already available should satisfy you. Perhaps they just don't care. Well, don't wait for them to decide to help you thrive. Figure out what you need and bring it along for yourself. When in doubt, bring along your own tea.

    27 min
  • Boundaries

    Boundaries help people know where they end and you begin. They help people orient themselves in relation to you. When your boundaries are clear to you and visible to others, they can work to keep from crossing them without your permission. If you are surrounded by people who may not respect your boundaries, making them explicit allows you to identify those people quickly and decide how to live in relation to them. Please give the gift of boundaries to yourself and to those around you.

    27 min
  • Explicit Bias and How You Win

    When you experience a drive-by explicit bias attack, it is important that it can be a feature of environments where people are not like you. However, having compassion for yourself and showing radical love for the person you are becoming is a critical strategy for winning.

    41 min
  • Microagression

    When a microagression comes at you, you feel the ugliness with which it was sent deeply. The feeling is one that cannot easily be put into words: The feeling of deep disrespect is a drain on your life energy and you have got to do something about it. You need to act quickly because the microagression is like poison in your soul that needs to come out. And if it doesn't come out, it will hurt you. If you don't deal with it, the microagression will claim your soul. So, get the help you need to release the poison and find healing so that your soul can be whole again.

    32 min
  • Demonstrate Excellence

    Excellence is a gift that you give to yourself first. First, you must accept the gift of your own excellence as one you deserve, own, and enjoy. Then you are able to gift it to someone else. Being excellent looks like being aligned inside and outside. You are excellent and the most important recipient of that excellence is you.

    29 min
  • Be Careful What You Believe
    When a hibiscus flower lives in the desert, the desert environment does not allow this flower to be all they can be. And when this flower is judged by the cacti in their environment, they believe that they need to work harder to be more cactus-like. However, what they really need is to ignore the opinion of the cacti and go find the oasis in the desert where hibiscus flowers live and thrive. Woman of color in hematology, you are that hibiscus flower who needs to forget the opinions of the cacti around you and go find the oasis in which you thrive.
    35 min

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Dear woman of color in hematology, Heme Consults is your personal space to rest, recharge, and renew your spirit with a weekly infusion of inspiration from hematologist, Dr. Toyosi Onwuemene. Every…