Here to Find Love

We’re in shock.

Jenn Tran’s Bachelorette story comes to a horrifying ending in the season finale, and we are devastated and frankly livid with this franchise. In this Bachelorette recap, we review the season finale where we learn Jenn and Devin’s engagement came to a near-immediate end shortly after filming ended and then see a disgustingly cruel After the Final Rose live finale where Jenn is made to watch her proposal to Devin for the first time on stage with him setting next to her. This show failed Jenn in so many ways.

We are absolutely aghast that this season — which we had been so excited and hopeful about, which loudly promoted Jenn as their first Asian American lead and promised us an incredible love story with her as the main character — ended in such a horrific way. We unpack that horrible ATFR segment, what happened between Jenn and Devin (and why we weren’t surprised by his swerve), as well as takeaways from the Jenn and Marcus breakup (because we’ve known men like Marcus). 

We’re Kelly and Julie, and we’re Here to Find Love: a show where two Asian American dating coaches go deep on frothy sh!t. We post reality TV dating show analysis and Bachelor recap videos. Welcome to HTFL! (And in case you're wondering: this is a spoiler-free Bachelor podcast!)

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Fantasy suites brought us *two* surprise confessions of love, and if we’re being honest, neither of them felt great.

In this Bachelorette recap of Jenn Tran’s season episodes 8 & 9, we deep dive into Jenn’s connection with Marcus and why she’s so invested in making their relationship work when there’s little reciprocation— and why one of us (for better or worse... er, well, mostly for worse) actually swooned just a little over them this week.

Then, we get to the Devin of it all. Devin spirals with doubt, Jenn confesses she doesn’t know how to be in a healthy relationship, and they finish with “I love you’s” prompting us to dig into how the conversation could’ve really gone—if they were being honest.

We’re Kelly and Julie, and we’re Here to Find Love: a show where two Asian American dating coaches go deep on frothy sh!t. We post reality TV dating show analysis and Bachelor recap videos. Welcome to HTFL! (And in case you're wondering: this is a spoiler-free Bachelor podcast!)

Watch the live recording of this podcast on our YouTube channel: youtube.com/HereToFindLove

Get personal with us on Instagram: @heretofindloveshow

Why did Jenn’s hometown dates feel so… concerning?

It’s hometowns week on Jenn Tran’s season of The Bachelorette (Season 21, Episode 7). Usually hometowns is a big ol’ nothing-burger, but Jenn’s hometowns with Devin, Jeremy, Jonathon, and Marcus actually raised many new questions and concerns about her final four men and the relationships she has with each of them. Devin says I love you to Jenn, but the rest of the men seem to be way far behind in terms of their feelings for her. Jeremy goes home for it, but Jonathon and Marcus both also seem to be struggling to emotionally get there with Jenn.

In this Bachelorette recap, we dig into why Jenn’s final men all seem to be hesitating now that we’re getting to the end of the season, how Marcus became the new unavailable man in Jenn’s life, and how Jenn get still get the happy ending she deserves.

We’re Kelly and Julie, and we’re Here to Find Love: a show where two Asian American dating coaches go deep on frothy sh!t. We post reality TV dating show analysis and Bachelor recap videos. Welcome to HTFL! (And in case you're wondering: this is a spoiler-free Bachelor podcast!)

Watch the live recording of this podcast on our YouTube channel: youtube.com/HereToFindLove

Get personal with us on Instagram: @heretofindloveshow

This episode helped us learn a lot about Jenn - and it was heartbreaking. In this Bachelorette recap of episode 5 of Jenn’s Bachelorette season with special guest Jeremy, we break down her dates with Jonathon and Grant. We chat about Austin self-eliminating created an important vibe shift to her season, and one of Jenn’s most vulnerable moments to date. We go over why going back to an ex doesn’t always work, what it looks like to date someone in the middle of a big healing journey, and who we could see her ending up with at the end.

We’re Kelly and Julie, and we’re Here to Find Love: a show where two Asian American dating coaches go deep on frothy sh!t. We post reality TV dating show analysis and Bachelor recap videos. Welcome to HTFL! (And in case you're wondering: this is a spoiler-free Bachelor podcast!)

Watch the live recording of this podcast on our YouTube channel: youtube.com/HereToFindLove Get personal with us on Instagram: @heretofindloveshow

Sam M goes off-script, and Jenn sends him packing!

In this Bachelorette 2024 Episode 6 of Jenn’s season, Jenn has her first one-on-one date with Marcus. We weren’t totally sure about Marcus — we’ve heard some fairly gruesome allegations about his past and we don’t know if he’s ready to get married with Jenn — but we can finally see why Jenn likes him so much. 

We talk about Sam M and Jenn’s drawn-out breakup and why it’s important she completed the process on her own time. We dissect Sam M short-circuiting on the show, his misogyny, and how Jenn’s family patterns may have subconsciously influenced their attraction. Then we chat about her surprising connection with Jeremy and their cute interfaith connection, our shock on Grant and Spencer going home.

We’re Kelly and Julie, and we’re Here to Find Love: a show where two Asian American dating coaches go deep on frothy sh!t. We post reality TV dating show analysis and Bachelor recap videos. Welcome to HTFL! We’re Kelly and Julie, and we’re Here to Find Love: a show where two Asian American dating coaches go deep on frothy sh!t. We post reality TV dating show analysis and Bachelor recap videos.

Welcome to HTFL! (And in case you're wondering: this is a spoiler-free Bachelor podcast!) Watch the live recording of this podcast on our YouTube channel: youtube.com/HereToFindLove Get personal with us on Instagram: @heretofindloveshow

We don’t often get a Bachelor date with so many red flags to unpack all at once, but the one-on-one between Jenn and Sam M. was really chock full of concerning moments. In this Bachelorette recap of episode 4 of Jenn’s Bachelorette season, we break down each interaction from this date and what went wrong, from the way he unilaterally made decisions on her behalf to ignoring her feelings and boundaries— and also the complex way Jenn herself responded to the stressful situation.

We also talk about Jenn and Marcus who make notable strides in their connection this week, as well as what we know about Jenn’s ex Matthew who she apparently only dated for a few months several years ago.

We’re Kelly and Julie, and we’re Here to Find Love: a show where two Asian American dating coaches go deep on frothy sh!t. We post reality TV dating show analysis and Bachelor recap videos. Welcome to HTFL!

(And in case you're wondering: this is a spoiler-free Bachelor podcast!)

Watch the live recording of this podcast on our YouTube channel: youtube.com/HereToFindLove

Get personal with us on Instagram: @heretofindloveshow

It’s week 3 and we’ve finally formulated a theory for Jenn’s season! Let’s get into it.

In this Bachelorette 2024 Episode 3 recap, the conflict hasn’t stopped and Thomas N and Sam M are continuing to perpetuate a culture of pettiness and negativity. We chat through their (many) red flags obsessing over the other men in the house, putting down Sam N, and focusing on anything other than Jenn. We chat about our complicated feelings liking Devin (with some trepidation) and how he may have the only genuine connection with Jenn. We talk about our excitement seeing Jenn making sense of her dating story, finding her voice, cutting off the toxic men in the show, and refining her dating picker—all in real time.

We’re Kelly and Julie, and we’re Here to Find Love: a show where two Asian American dating coaches go deep on frothy sh!t. We post reality TV dating show analysis and Bachelor recap videos. 

Welcome to HTFL! (And in case you're wondering: this is a spoiler-free Bachelor podcast!)

Watch the live recording of this podcast on our YouTube channel: youtube.com/HereToFindLove

Get personal with us on Instagram: @heretofindloveshow

It’s only week 2, and the villains are already emerging. But… which guy is it?

In The Bachelorette 2024 Episode 2, conflict begins to brew among Jenn Tran’s men—in particular, between Devin, Aaron, and Thomas N. Devin is quickly becoming a controversial character, with some fans on the internet saying he did nothing wrong and others already ready to get him off the screen. In this Bachelorette recap, we dig into some of the key moments between these three men that helped us form our opinions of the situation—and why we’re secretly not so fond of any of them.

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We’re Kelly and Julie, and we’re Here to Find Love: a show where two Asian American dating coaches go deep on frothy sh!t. We post reality TV dating show analysis and Bachelor recap videos. Welcome to HTFL!

(And in case you're wondering: this is a spoiler-free Bachelor podcast!)

Watch the live recording of this podcast on our YouTube channel: youtube.com/HereToFindLove

Get personal with us on Instagram: @heretofindloveshow 

We’ve been waiting all season for Jenn Tran’s season premiere, and it did not disappoint! The episode kicks off with Jenn’s intro package where she opens up about her Asian-American background, her passion being a physical assistant, and her history with toxic relationships. We start the night at a new mansion (!) where she meets her 25 men — and she gives her first impression to Sam McKinney and giggles with Thomas Nguyen, Dylan Buckor, Devin Strader, and others.

Throughout this Bachelorette recap, we also dissect our early first impression of Jenn, our mixed emotions about her early standouts, her slow approach to physical intimacy and why that may be due to her upbringing, and then dig into our predictions for her season.

We’re Kelly and Julie, and we’re Here to Find Love: a show where two Asian American dating coaches go deep on frothy sh!t. We post reality TV dating show analysis and Bachelor recap videos. Welcome to HTFL! (And in case you're wondering: this is a spoiler-free Bachelor podcast!)

Watch the live recording of this podcast on our YouTube channel: youtube.com/HereToFindLove Get personal with us on Instagram: @heretofindloveshow

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Joey’s season was one for the history books.

During the season finale, we speak about the beauty of Daisy and Kelsey subverting the inherently comparative and competitive dating model of the show, if we thought Daisy stole their thunder, and how we wish the show highlighted Kelsey’s incredible emotional intelligence to be there for her friend during her proposal day. We discuss our shifting feelings on Daisy, the refreshing narrative of sisterhood the show is featuring, and our happiness on Joey and Kelsey’s engagement. Then we gush over Jenn Tran’s history-making debut as the Bachelorette, if we think she’ll get married, and all of the things we can’t wait to cover. 

We’re Kelly and Julie, and we’re Here to Find Love: a show where two Asian American dating coaches go deep on frothy sh!t. We post reality TV dating show analysis and Bachelor recap videos. Welcome to HTFL! (And in case you're wondering: this is a spoiler-free Bachelor podcast!)

Watch the live recording of this podcast on our YouTube channel: youtube.com/HereToFindLove Get personal with us on Instagram: @heretofindloveshow