Vent sessions with friends might feel like a release, but if you’re constantly going outside your relationship for advice—you’re weakening something vital.

Here’s what you’re unintentionally breaking:

1️⃣ Trust
✔️ Your partner starts to feel exposed and betrayed
✔️ They realize private moments are now public topics
✔️ Their guard goes up—and emotional intimacy goes down

2️⃣ Team Unity
✔️ You start bonding with others instead of your partner
✔️ They may begin confiding in others too—deepening the divide
✔️ You both end up feeling like opponents, not teammates

3️⃣ Emotional Safety
✔️ They’ll wonder what you’re saying behind their back
✔️ Friends and family may start treating them differently
✔️ Your partner no longer feels safe to be vulnerable with you

💡 The solution isn’t isolation—it’s integration.
Build the muscle to sit in the fire together.
Work through conflict with your partner, not around them.