Most people stay stuck in the same relationship patterns because they keep asking the wrong questions—about their partner, about the fight, about who’s right.

But real change starts with one simple but powerful question:

👉🏾 “What is it like to be in a relationship with me?”

In this episode, I’ll show you:

1️⃣ Why this question shifts everything
✔️ It moves you from blame to self-awareness
✔️ It helps you take real accountability without self-judgment
✔️ It reveals patterns you can actually work on

2️⃣ How it creates more clarity and connection
✔️ You stop reacting and start reflecting
✔️ You understand your impact—not just your intentions
✔️ You create space for real growth and healing

3️⃣ The mindset shift that builds better love
✔️ You don’t solve problems by pointing fingers—you solve them by understanding your part
✔️ When you change your energy, the whole dynamic starts to change

💥 It’s not about fixing everything overnight—it’s about starting with you, consistently.

We all say what we want in love—more effort, more understanding, deeper connection…

But the truth is, if you want a certain type of relationship—you have to be that relationship first.

In this episode, I break down:

1️⃣ Why your energy sets the tone
✔️ Relationships are mirrors—what you lead with often gets reflected back
✔️ If you want peace, lead with peace
✔️ If you want depth, show up with depth

2️⃣ The trap of expectations without embodiment
✔️ You can’t demand what you don’t deliver
✔️ High standards don’t mean perfection—but they do mean alignment
✔️ Be the partner you’d want to experience

3️⃣ How to model what you desire
✔️ Stop waiting to get love before you give it
✔️ Let your words, actions, and consistency reflect the relationship you want to build
✔️ The right person won’t just feel loved by you—they’ll feel inspired by you

✨ Want to create a love that feels like home? Start by being the version of you that attracts it.

If you’re ready to stop settling, start embodying, and finally experience the relationship you deserve—DM me or email me “coaching” and we’ll get to work.

Let’s get it. 🤙🏾

Vent sessions with friends might feel like a release, but if you’re constantly going outside your relationship for advice—you’re weakening something vital.

Here’s what you’re unintentionally breaking:

1️⃣ Trust
✔️ Your partner starts to feel exposed and betrayed
✔️ They realize private moments are now public topics
✔️ Their guard goes up—and emotional intimacy goes down

2️⃣ Team Unity
✔️ You start bonding with others instead of your partner
✔️ They may begin confiding in others too—deepening the divide
✔️ You both end up feeling like opponents, not teammates

3️⃣ Emotional Safety
✔️ They’ll wonder what you’re saying behind their back
✔️ Friends and family may start treating them differently
✔️ Your partner no longer feels safe to be vulnerable with you

💡 The solution isn’t isolation—it’s integration.
Build the muscle to sit in the fire together.
Work through conflict with your partner, not around them.

When is it truly time to walk away—without guilt, confusion, or regret?

It’s not just about being unhappy. It’s about knowing in your core that you’ve done your part. That you’ve shown up the right way. That you've led with love, not reaction.

Here’s how to know when it’s really time:

1️⃣ You’ve taken full accountability
✔️ You’ve owned your part without deflecting
✔️ You’ve apologized, forgiven, or sought to understand where needed

2️⃣ You’ve led with consistent love—not just for a week
✔️ You’ve shown up with effort, patience, and positive intention
✔️ You’ve done this daily for at least 30 days (not just during “good” moments)

3️⃣ You’ve been met with little to no effort in return
✔️ They won’t meet you halfway
✔️ No changes, no attempts, no desire to grow with you
✔️ You’re carrying the relationship alone

4️⃣ You’ve detached with clarity, not just emotion
✔️ You know you’ve given your best
✔️ You trust that staying would only repeat the same pattern

📌 Relationships thrive on effort from both sides. If you’ve done your part consistently and your partner refuses to do theirs, it’s time to stop losing yourself to keep something alive that’s no longer breathing.

If you’re torn between staying and walking away, DM me or email me “coaching” and we’ll get to work.

Let’s get it. 🤙🏾

You can tell a lot about the person you’re dating by how they interact with their opposite-sex parent.

Why? Because their mother (for men) or father (for women) is their first experience with love, connection, and how to relate to the opposite sex.

This episode breaks down:

1️⃣ Why their opposite-sex parent matters
✔️ That relationship sets the emotional blueprint for how they view, treat, and connect with you

2️⃣ The signs of unhealthy patterns
✔️ Abandonment, resentment, over-attachment, or emotional neglect that hasn’t been healed
✔️ These wounds will show up in your relationship

3️⃣ The red flags to watch for
✔️ Emotionally unavailable men? Look at his relationship with his mom
✔️ Women with deep distrust of men? Trace it back to dad
✔️ If they’ve never done the work, you’ll pay for what they haven’t faced

Before you go deeper with someone, learn how they love… by understanding who taught them how.

If you’re dating someone and want help figuring out if their unresolved wounds are becoming your burden, DM me or email me “coaching” and let’s get to work.

Let’s get it. 🤙🏾

They left. They moved on fast. And now they want to come back.

Before you even think about letting them back in, you need to hear this.

This episode breaks down why taking your ex back after a rebound is a mistake that’ll cost you your peace, your confidence, and your self-worth.

Here’s why you shouldn’t go back:

1️⃣ They Already Showed You Their Pattern
✔️ They didn’t stay to work things out
✔️ They sought comfort in someone else
✔️ That’s not commitment—it’s escapism

2️⃣ You Can’t Build Trust On Shaky Ground
✔️ Trust is already broken
✔️ Now you’ll be stuck wondering if they’ll leave again
✔️ The relationship will be full of doubt and anxiety

3️⃣ It’s Not Love—It’s Emotional Survival
✔️ They’re not coming back out of growth—they’re coming back out of need
✔️ Their rebound failed and you’re the safe option
✔️ That’s not romantic—that’s manipulative

💥 Taking them back may feel validating at first… but deep down, you’ll resent yourself for letting someone play with your worth like that.

Respect yourself enough to not be someone’s second option after they got humbled.

If you’re struggling to hold the line or you’re tempted to take someone back you know isn’t healthy—DM or email me “coaching” and let’s get to work.

Let’s get it. 🤙🏾

Still stuck on your ex—even though deep down you know the relationship wasn’t right? This one’s for you.

This episode breaks down the real reason you can’t let go—and it’s not just about them. It’s about what you’ve convinced yourself they represented.

Here’s what you’ll learn:

1️⃣ You're more committed to your past than your future
✔️ You’ve tied your happiness to them
✔️ You don’t believe something better is coming
✔️ You fear you’ve lost your “only” shot at love

2️⃣ You created the life you had—and you can create better
✔️ Your ex was just one piece of the puzzle
✔️ You created that past, and now you can shape your future
✔️ Focus on the vision, not the void

3️⃣ If you had proof that someone 10x better was around the corner…
✔️ You’d be working on YOU, not chasing closure
✔️ You’d be preparing, not reminiscing
✔️ You’d start believing in your value, not your loss

💥 Stop trying to decode your ex and start discovering your next-level self.

If you're ready to stop living in the past and start becoming the version of you that can attract the kind of love you actually want—DM or email me "coaching" and let’s get to work.

Saying "I love you" might feel powerful in the moment—but do your actions actually match those words?

This episode breaks down what you're truly communicating when you tell someone you love them—and how your partner is likely interpreting it.

Here’s what love really means to most people:

1️⃣ Love = Contribution
✔️ You show up as a support to their emotional, mental, and spiritual well-being
✔️ You care about their needs and do your part to help them feel safe, valued, and heard

2️⃣ Love = Responsibility
✔️ It's not just having feelings for them—it's being aware of how you treat them
✔️ You’re not perfect, but you're intentional about not doing harm and actively showing care

3️⃣ Love = Alignment with Self-Love
✔️ If they love themselves, they expect you to love them at least the way they treat themselves
✔️ That means no yelling, no belittling, no dismissing feelings—because they don’t do that to themselves

💥 Don’t just say you love someone. Make sure you’re living it.
Love is more than affection—it’s how you consistently show up in someone’s life.

Still obsessing over a final talk with your ex? Waiting for that "one last conversation" to make sense of everything?

This episode breaks down the real reason you’re craving closure—and why your ex isn’t the one who can give it to you.

Here’s what you’re actually looking for:

1️⃣ Understanding
✔️ You want clarity on why it ended
✔️ But the truth is—you don’t need their version to find your own

2️⃣ Peace
✔️ You’re really trying to feel okay letting go
✔️ That peace comes from within, not from their validation

3️⃣ Permission to Release
✔️ You’ve been waiting for someone to say it’s okay to move on
✔️ But you don’t need their words to reclaim your worth

💥 Closure isn’t about them—it’s about you letting go of the story you’ve been telling yourself.

If you’re ready to finally detach and get your power back, DM or email me “coaching” and let’s get to work.

Let’s get it. 🤙🏾

So how can you actually tell if a man is serious—and not just saying what you want to hear?

In this one, we’re breaking down the real signs of intentionality that go way beyond good vibes and future talk.

Here’s what to look for:

1️⃣ His Purpose Comes First
He’s building a life that matters to him.
That purpose gives him a reason to be honest—because lying would only distract from the man he’s becoming.
His integrity matters more to him than impressing you.

2️⃣ He’s Transparent, Even When It’s Not Convenient
He’ll be upfront about what dating him will actually look like:
✔️ His availability
✔️ His schedule
✔️ The sacrifices that come with being with him
He tells you the hard stuff—not just the highlight reel—because he wants real alignment, not just attraction.

3️⃣ He Gets Curious About You
He asks deep questions. He studies your mindset, your values, and your motivations.
Why? Because if he’s intentional about his mission, he’s not going to risk attaching to someone who doesn’t align with it.

4️⃣ His Words Match His Life
You don’t have to guess or hope. His actions, his routine, and the results around him all support what he says he’s about.
🛑 If his lifestyle contradicts his words, it’s not intentional—it’s convenience.

5️⃣ He’s Not Ruled By Lust
Yes, he may be attracted to you.
But sex isn’t his motivator—legacy is.
He’s building something, and the woman he chooses has to fit into that expansion, not be a detour from it.

⚠️ Bottom line: You can’t fake authenticity.
If his lifestyle, words, and how he treats you are aligned—he’s likely intentional.
But if it’s all talk and no structure—you have your answer.

And remember: when he finally shows up with real intentions… make sure your life is ready to receive him.
Don’t let the moment you’ve been waiting for catch you unprepared.

Let’s get it 🤙🏾