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In this solo episode, host Shelbi Jones reflects on the shifts in New York City since she left and her experience adjusting to her new neighborhood. From the changes to the city itself to the reality of friends leaving the city and the ongoing impacts of the pandemic, she shares her journey of navigating a transformed environment.

This episode touches on the challenges and opportunities of moving to a new area, the feeling of change in a post-pandemic world, and the importance of finding a sense of community and belonging amidst all the upheaval. Please tune in for a thoughtful exploration of how we’re all adjusting to a new normal, wherever we may be.

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In this episode, host Shelbi Jones and her friend Tony Francis (@tonyfrancisv) discuss the controversial figure West Elm Caleb and share differing opinions on his impact on the dating world. They also discuss current dating trends, how social media influences romance, and where things stand for singles in today’s climate.

To spice things up, Tony’s friend AK (@shotsfromtheak) joins them. AK offers a few hot takes on the topic, adding fresh perspectives to the conversation. Recorded live on Clubhouse, this episode promises lively debate and entertaining insights on navigating love in the digital age.

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In this solo episode, host Shelbi Jones reflects on the theme of discipline for 2022. She explores why she chose discipline as her guiding principle for the year and how it ties into her personal and professional growth. With a focus on building better habits, setting clear goals, and staying committed to her vision, this episode offers valuable insights into how discipline can transform the year ahead.

Tune in for a personal exploration of discipline, why it matters, and how it can change all areas of life.

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In this experimental episode, host Shelbi Jones comes to you live from Clubhouse, joined by co-worker and friend Yesenia (@yeseniaxvargas), to explore the phenomenon of Casual Instagram. They dive deep into their personal experiences with the platform, discussing the fine line between authenticity and performative posting. The conversation also tackles influencer culture and how Instagram has shaped our online presence.

Joining the discussion are special guests Domenic Iniguez (@dominic), Tony Francis (@tonyfrancisv), and Will Weinbach (@weinbach), who share their thoughts on how Instagram influences their lives, both personally and professionally.

Key Topics Discussed in This Episode:

• Casual Instagram: The trend of effortless, authentic posts vs. curated perfection
• Performative Posting: How Instagram encourages the display of curated realities
• Influencer Culture: The role of influencers and its impact on personal identity
• Clubhouse Collaboration: A new live format experiment with dynamic conversations

Tune in for an honest conversation about Instagram's role in shaping identity and the blurred lines between reality and performance.

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In this solo episode, host Shelbi Jones discusses taking a break from the podcast and the reasons behind the pause. Reflecting on the highs and lows of 2021, the host discusses the lessons learned and personal growth experienced throughout the year. This episode also includes a sneak peek into the host's main goal for 2022 and the plans for moving forward.

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In this episode, host Shelbi Jones virtually sits down with Jess and her fiancé, Adam, to explore their relationship and how Adam's son, Chance, from his previous marriage, has shaped their dynamic. Jess shares her experience of developing a bond with Chance, adjusting to her role as a bonus mom, and learning the ins and outs of parenting. Adam opens up about dating after divorce, when he knew it was right for Jess to meet Chance, and offers advice for others navigating similar situations.

The trio also discusses their upcoming wedding plans, the possibility of having more children, and the unique challenges and joys of blending families.

Key Topics Discussed in This Episode:

• The evolution of Jess and Adam’s relationship
• Jess’s experience becoming a bonus mom and learning to parent
• Adam’s perspective on dating after divorce and introducing Jess to Chance
• Advice for others navigating relationships and blended families
• Their wedding plans and thoughts on having more children
• The joys and challenges of blending families

Tune in for an honest and heartfelt conversation about relationships, parenting, and the complexities of blending families.

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In this episode, host Shelbi Jones virtually sits down with Ben Helms to discuss his perspective on fashion. They talk about everything from fast fashion to essential male accessories and the evolution of Ben's style. Known for sharing his stylish outfits on Instagram (@bennyhunnaz) and being featured on the popular InstagramThrowing Fits, Ben’s fashion sense has garnered attention for being on point.

Key Topics Discussed in This Episode:

• Ben’s journey and evolution in personal style
• Fast fashion and its impact on the industry
• Must-have male accessories and how to elevate your outfits
• Designers and brands that inspire Ben's fashion choices
• How social media has influenced men's fashion trends

Tune in for an insightful conversation about men's fashion, personal style, and how creativity shapes how men approach clothing and accessories today.

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In this episode, host Shelbi Jones virtually sits down with Rachel Caudill to reflect on their 15+ year friendship. From middle school to navigating breakups, college moves to new cities, weddings, and losing family members, they’ve weathered many life changes together. In this heartfelt conversation, they dive into the challenges and rifts that have tested their bond and the critical, honest discussions that ultimately strengthened their friendship.

Key Topics Discussed in This Episode:

• The evolution of a friendship through significant life events
• How breakups, loss, and life transitions have shaped their connection
• The struggles and rifts that come with long-term friendships
• The power of open and honest conversations in mending relationships
• What they’ve learned about friendship, forgiveness, and growth over the years

This episode celebrates long-lasting friendships and the strength it takes to overcome hurdles with the people who have seen you at your best and worst.

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In this solo episode, host Shelbi Jones explores her evolving relationship with softness and vulnerability, particularly within friendship. She reflects on how openly embracing her emotions has reshaped her connections and helped her cultivate more profound, meaningful bonds. Shelbi discusses the importance of letting down walls and how leaning into vulnerability has become an intentional practice in her life.

Key Topics Discussed in This Episode:

• Shelbi's evolving relationship with softness and embracing vulnerability
• The impact of being vulnerable in friendships and the power of emotional connection
• Why leaning into feelings is a transformative practice for growth
• The challenges and rewards of being open and honest with close friends
• How softness and vulnerability are not weaknesses but sources of strength

This episode is a heartfelt exploration of vulnerability, emotional growth, and the importance of nurturing authentic friendships through openness and honesty.

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In this exciting solo episode, host Shelbi Jones shares a significant life update—she's leaving her role at Meta to join the fast-growing tech startup Clubhouse! Lena dives into the details of this career transition, reflecting on her journey at Meta and what drew her to Clubhouse’s media partnerships team. She discusses what this new chapter means for her professionally and personally and how it aligns with her passions for innovation, media, and technology.

Key Topics Discussed in This Episode:

• Shelbi's decision to leave Meta after her time there and the journey that led her to Clubhouse
• The role she’ll be taking at Clubhouse and why it’s a perfect fit for her career goals
• How does this transition align with her values and interests in tech, media, and creativity?
• She discusses the challenges and excitement of joining a startup and what she hopes to accomplish.
• Insights into navigating career transitions and embracing new opportunities

This episode is a reflection on embracing change, making bold career moves, and listening to your instincts, which can open new doors in unexpected ways.

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