Sometimes when your normal gameplan isn't working, you have to change the game itself. Whether you are a parent who takes an active role as a coach or support member of your child's activity or someone who simply cheers from the sideline, every action you take can have a big impact. Think of all the life lessons and values that we want to instill in our kids that can be learned from sports: leadership, teamwork, communication, honor, competitiveness, ethics, respect, loyalty, coachability, adversity, and the ability to overcome it just to name a few. But to learn these skills we often hand the responsibility of instilling these lessons to someone who may or may not know how to best work with our kids.
Today's guest is John O'Sullivan, CEO and Founder of the Change the Game Project. John started the Changing the Game Project in 2012 after two decades as a soccer player and coach on the youth, high school, college and professional level. He is the author of the #1 bestselling books Changing the Game: The Parents Guide to Raising Happy, High Performing Athletes, and Giving Youth Sports Back to our Kids and Is it Wise to Specialize? John’s work has been featured in The Huffington Post, CNN.com, Outside Magazine, ESPN.com, Soccer America and numerous other publications. John is an internationally known speaker for coaches, parents and youth sports organizations, and has spoken for TEDx, the National Soccer Coaches Association of America, US Lacrosse, IMG Academy, and at numerous other events throughout the US, Canada, Asia and Europe.
Today we discuss the dangers of early specialization in sports, transformational coaching, learning from the many mistakes that parent-coaches make and what you should and should not say on the ride home after your kids game.
On today's podcast...
3:00 - Jeremy's kid teaches him a valuable life lesson
7:00 - The politics of angry parents helps create Change the Game
10:00 - The principle of "I love watching you play"
13:30 - The dangers of early specialization in sports
21:09 - How do you know if your kid is going to be good at a sport?
24:00 - Your competitor is the one who works with you to bring out the best in both of you
28:00 - What's missing from coaching education
31:00 - Transactional vs. Transformational
33:20 - Jeremy makes a coaching mistake / How do you clear a mental block for your kid?
40:55 - What you should and should not say on the ride home from a game
44:40 - Does physical punishment help fix technical errors?
More about today's guest...
Originally from New York, John is a 1994 graduate of Fordham University, where he was a team captain as a senior, and a member of the 1990 Patriot League Championship team. After a stint playing professionally for the Wilmington (NC) Hammerheads of the USL, John began his coaching career as the Varsity Boys Soccer Coach at Cardinal Gibbons HS in Raleigh, NC. He then moved on to become the Assistant Men’s and Women’s Soccer Coach at the University of Vermont, before delving into the world of youth club soccer. Since that time, John has worked as a Director of Coaching for Nordic Spirit SC (Vt), Ann Arbor Youth Soccer Association (MI) and from 2006-2011 as the Executive Director of Oregon Rush Soccer Club in Bend, OR. Most recently he was the Central Oregon Regional Training Center Director for the Portland Timbers of Major League Soccer, before turning his attention full time to the Changing the Game Project in 2013. He holds his USSF A License, NSCAA Advanced National Diploma, and US Youth Soccer National Youth Coaching License.
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