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Peace isn't something you buy. Joy isn't something you chase. Self-control isn't something you white-knuckle.

They're all fruit.

In this episode, we're diving into John 15 to discover what Jesus actually meant when He said, "Abide in Me." We'll explore why so many wives are trying to produce the fruit of the Spirit while feeding the flesh, how God uses pruning to produce lasting transformation, and why abiding—not striving—is the key to flourishing.

If you've been exhausted trying harder, this episode is an invitation to remain connected to the Vine.

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"I lead Christian wives  to become TENDER, TENACIOUS & TAKING BACK TERRITORY the enemy has stolen. To live by God’s design in marriage through right order, repentance & radical obedience.

First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

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What if the reason you keep feeling stuck isn't because you lack peace—but because you've been chasing relief instead?

In this episode, we're unpacking the difference between temporary relief and the lasting peace that only Christ produces. We'll talk about why we reach for quick fixes when life feels overwhelming, the difference between rest and escape, and why God often uses discomfort to reveal, heal, and transform us.

If you've ever found yourself wanting to "take the edge off," this episode will challenge you to stop settling for relief and start pursuing the Prince of Peace.

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Chelsey Holm | the Wife Coach
"I lead Christian wives  to become TENDER, TENACIOUS & TAKING BACK TERRITORY the enemy has stolen. To live by God’s design in marriage through right order, repentance & radical obedience.

First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

👉🏼 Access FREE guide here. Optional $10 add on for action pack for faster implementation.

Ready for a next step?
If this episode stirred something deeper and you’re ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.

👉 Access From Awareness to Surrender here: ACCESS
 

Looking for ongoing support?
Inside High Level Wife, we continue this work together through Spirit-led teaching, posture work, nervous system safety, and daily surrender lived out over time.

👉 Learn more about High Level Wife here:
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What do you reach for when life feels overwhelming?

For some wives it’s scrolling. For others it’s shopping, food, busyness, wine, supplements, endless productivity, or simply staying distracted.

This episode isn’t about condemning a product or a habit. It’s about asking a deeper question:

What are we asking created things to do that only Jesus can do?

We’ll explore the modern counterfeits of peace, why they never truly satisfy, and how abiding in Christ produces the lasting fruit we’re actually longing for.

If you’ve ever found yourself trying to “take the edge off” instead of bringing your burdens to the Lord, this episode will lovingly challenge you to choose the better portion.

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Chelsey Holm | the Wife Coach
"I lead Christian wives  to become TENDER, TENACIOUS & TAKING BACK TERRITORY the enemy has stolen. To live by God’s design in marriage through right order, repentance & radical obedience.

First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

👉🏼 Access FREE guide here. Optional $10 add on for action pack for faster implementation.

Ready for a next step?
If this episode stirred something deeper and you’re ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.

👉 Access From Awareness to Surrender here: ACCESS
 

Looking for ongoing support?
Inside High Level Wife, we continue this work together through Spirit-led teaching, posture work, nervous system safety, and daily surrender lived out over time.

👉 Learn more about High Level Wife here:
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Do you love Jesus, love your family, and still feel anxious, overwhelmed, overstimulated, and like you’re constantly carrying the weight of everyone else’s world?

In this episode, we’re diving into the story of Martha and Mary in Luke 10—not to shame busy wives, but to uncover what Jesus was actually addressing. Martha wasn’t rebuked for serving. She was anxious, troubled, and distracted by many things.

We’ll unpack what it looks like to be a “modern Martha wife,” how good responsibilities can become disordered priorities, and why right order always begins at the feet of Jesus.

This episode lays the foundation for a new series on abiding, counterfeit peace, and what it means to flourish as a surrendered, Spirit-led wife.

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Chelsey Holm | the Wife Coach
"I lead Christian wives  to become TENDER, TENACIOUS & TAKING BACK TERRITORY the enemy has stolen. To live by God’s design in marriage through right order, repentance & radical obedience.

First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

👉🏼 Access FREE guide here. Optional $10 add on for action pack for faster implementation.

Ready for a next step?
If this episode stirred something deeper and you’re ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.

👉 Access From Awareness to Surrender here: ACCESS
 

Looking for ongoing support?
Inside High Level Wife, we continue this work together through Spirit-led teaching, posture work, nervous system safety, and daily surrender lived out over time.

👉 Learn more about High Level Wife here:
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This vulnerability series isn’t ultimately about communication.

It’s about the Gospel applied.

In this episode, Chelsey Holm unpacks God’s design for intimacy through vulnerability—not just so couples can feel closer, but so they can become one, reflect Christ, and live on mission together. From Genesis to John 17 to the fragrance of Christ in everyday life, this conversation will challenge you to see your marriage as more than a relationship to manage.

It’s a place where the Gospel gets worked out in real time.

Because healthy oneness doesn’t stop with you.

It multiplies into your children, your church, your witness, and the greater Body of Christ.

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Chelsey Holm | the Wife Coach
"I lead Christian wives  to become TENDER, TENACIOUS & TAKING BACK TERRITORY the enemy has stolen. To live by God’s design in marriage through right order, repentance & radical obedience.

First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

👉🏼 Access FREE guide here. Optional $10 add on for action pack for faster implementation.

Ready for a next step?
If this episode stirred something deeper and you’re ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.

👉 Access From Awareness to Surrender here: ACCESS
 

Looking for ongoing support?
Inside High Level Wife, we continue this work together through Spirit-led teaching, posture work, nervous system safety, and daily surrender lived out over time.

👉 Learn more about High Level Wife here:
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You want to be vulnerable… but what do you actually say?

In this episode, Chelsey gives you the practical framework to express hurt, loneliness, rejection, overwhelm, and disconnection in a way that creates intimacy instead of conflict.

If you’ve ever found yourself blaming, shutting down, over-explaining, or hoping your spouse can just “figure it out,” this episode will help you move from self-protection to clarity, ownership, and connection.

Because vulnerability isn’t about saying more.

It’s about revealing what’s true—and offering a path forward together.

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Chelsey Holm | the Wife Coach
"I lead Christian wives  to become TENDER, TENACIOUS & TAKING BACK TERRITORY the enemy has stolen. To live by God’s design in marriage through right order, repentance & radical obedience.

First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

👉🏼 Access FREE guide here. Optional $10 add on for action pack for faster implementation.

Ready for a next step?
If this episode stirred something deeper and you’re ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.

👉 Access From Awareness to Surrender here: ACCESS
 

Looking for ongoing support?
Inside High Level Wife, we continue this work together through Spirit-led teaching, posture work, nervous system safety, and daily surrender lived out over time.

👉 Learn more about High Level Wife here:
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Women often think they’re being vulnerable because they’re talking.

Explaining.
Processing.

Venting.
Sharing every detail.

But sometimes all those words are keeping the real heart hidden.

In this episode, Chelsey unpacks the feminine side of vulnerability and why so many wives communicate around the wound instead of revealing it. You’ll learn how self-protection can show up through over-explaining, how to identify what’s actually happening underneath the words, and why emotional intimacy grows when we stop hiding behind information and start telling the truth.

Because your husband doesn’t need more details.

He needs access to your heart.

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Chelsey Holm | the Wife Coach
"I lead Christian wives  to become TENDER, TENACIOUS & TAKING BACK TERRITORY the enemy has stolen. To live by God’s design in marriage through right order, repentance & radical obedience.

First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

👉🏼 Access FREE guide here. Optional $10 add on for action pack for faster implementation.

Ready for a next step?
If this episode stirred something deeper and you’re ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.

👉 Access From Awareness to Surrender here: ACCESS
 

Looking for ongoing support?
Inside High Level Wife, we continue this work together through Spirit-led teaching, posture work, nervous system safety, and daily surrender lived out over time.

👉 Learn more about High Level Wife here:
 Get the Blueprint + learn more about HLW

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Learn how male vulnerability often shows up in unexpected ways—and how understanding the heart underneath your husband’s behavior can help rebuild intimacy, connection, and oneness.

What if your husband is more vulnerable than you think… you just don’t recognize it?

In this episode, Chelsey breaks down the masculine side of vulnerability and why many men reveal their hearts differently than women expect. From silence and sarcasm to frustration, joking, or withdrawal, you’ll learn how self-protection often masks deeper fears, longings, and needs for connection.

Because vulnerability in men doesn’t always look soft.

Sometimes it comes out sideways.

And if you can learn to hear the heart underneath the behavior, it can change the way you respond—and the intimacy you build.

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Chelsey Holm | the Wife Coach
"I lead Christian wives  to become TENDER, TENACIOUS & TAKING BACK TERRITORY the enemy has stolen. To live by God’s design in marriage through right order, repentance & radical obedience.

First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

👉🏼 Access FREE guide here. Optional $10 add on for action pack for faster implementation.

Ready for a next step?
If this episode stirred something deeper and you’re ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.

👉 Access From Awareness to Surrender here: ACCESS
 

Looking for ongoing support?
Inside High Level Wife, we continue this work together through Spirit-led teaching, posture work, nervous system safety, and daily surrender lived out over time.

👉 Learn more about High Level Wife here:
 Get the Blueprint + learn more about HLW

As a mom of 5, I fuel my best daily to feel my best, stewarding this temple well. Grab my daily (13+ years) STACK. 

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Discover why vulnerability feels so difficult, what you’re actually protecting, and how trusting God allows you to move toward deeper intimacy, healing, and connection.

If vulnerability is the pathway to intimacy, why is it so difficult?

Why do we want connection but pull away? Why do we long to be known yet struggle to reveal what’s really happening inside of us?

In this episode, Chelsey explores the real reason vulnerability feels so hard: self-protection. Drawing from Genesis, Colossians, and everyday marriage dynamics, she unpacks how old hurts, fear, and past experiences often teach us to hide, control, defend, and protect ourselves from further pain.

You’ll learn why self-protection and intimacy cannot coexist, how old receipts influence present reactions, and why true vulnerability isn’t ultimately about trusting your spouse perfectly—it’s about trusting God completely.

Because healing begins when we stop asking, “What’s wrong with me?” and start asking, “What am I protecting?”

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Chelsey Holm | the Wife Coach
"I lead Christian wives  to become TENDER, TENACIOUS & TAKING BACK TERRITORY the enemy has stolen. To live by God’s design in marriage through right order, repentance & radical obedience.

First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

👉🏼 Access FREE guide here. Optional $10 add on for action pack for faster implementation.

Ready for a next step?
If this episode stirred something deeper and you’re ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.

👉 Access From Awareness to Surrender here: ACCESS
 

Looking for ongoing support?
Inside High Level Wife, we continue this work together through Spirit-led teaching, posture work, nervous system safety, and daily surrender lived out over time.

👉 Learn more about High Level Wife here:
 Get the Blueprint + learn more about HLW

As a mom of 5, I fuel my best daily to feel my best, stewarding this temple well. Grab my daily (13+ years) STACK. 

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Discover why vulnerability isn’t sharing more information- it’s revealing what’s true, and why that is the foundation of intimacy, connection, and oneness.

You can talk for hours and still feel disconnected.

You can share your schedule, your plans, your frustrations, and everything that happened during your day… while never revealing your heart.

In this episode, Chelsey  unpacks one of the most misunderstood concepts in marriage: vulnerability. Learn why intimacy requires more than communication, how hiding began in the Garden, and why vulnerability is less about sharing everything and more about revealing what is true.

Because information doesn’t create intimacy.

Revelation does.

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Chelsey Holm | the Wife Coach
"I lead Christian wives  to become TENDER, TENACIOUS & TAKING BACK TERRITORY the enemy has stolen. To live by God’s design in marriage through right order, repentance & radical obedience.

First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

👉🏼 Access FREE guide here. Optional $10 add on for action pack for faster implementation.

Ready for a next step?
If this episode stirred something deeper and you’re ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.

👉 Access From Awareness to Surrender here: ACCESS
 

Looking for ongoing support?
Inside High Level Wife, we continue this work together through Spirit-led teaching, posture work, nervous system safety, and daily surrender lived out over time.

👉 Learn more about High Level Wife here:
 Get the Blueprint + learn more about HLW

As a mom of 5, I fuel my best daily to feel my best, stewarding this temple well. Grab my daily (13+ years) STACK. 

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