In this interview, Spencer Dalke talks with writer and editor Kelsi Klembara about the rise of “looksmaxxing” and what it reveals about identity in a digital age. Klembara explains how extreme self-optimization, fueled by social media, reflects a deeper pursuit of status, control, and validation that often leaves people fragmented and searching for meaning. She contrasts this with the steady, hope-filled perspective of Ben Sasse, whose response to terminal illness points to a different foundation for identity—one rooted not in achievement, but in faith. Drawing on the “theology of the cross,” Klembara highlights the tension between striving for self-made glory and receiving identity as a gift from God. The conversation touches on loneliness, the pressure of online performance, and the human desire for approval beneath it all. Ultimately, Klembara encourages a response marked by humility and the deeper hope that Christ speaks into the cracks of self-sufficiency.
The origins and ideas behind looksmaxxing.
Comparing the theologies of Clavicular and Ben Sasse.
Finding paradoxical glory in the humility of Christ and the Cross.
Featured work: “Looksmaxxing, Ben Sasse, and the Theology of the Cross”
Connect with Kelsi Klembara on Instagram, Substack, and YouTube.
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