Holding: This is a podcast conversation about an essay called Holding from the book Ghosts of Parenting. The episode explores holding as one of the longest realities of parenting, how it begins in the body and slowly moves inward, becoming attention, readiness, memory, and care carried across years rather than moments. It speaks to the unseen labour of staying available, holding concern at a distance, carrying past nights and future possibilities at the same time, and how this quiet continuity often becomes heavy when it is not recognised. The conversation names holding not as control or worry, but as a lived structure of love that makes independence possible, absorbs impact, and remains even as children grow. By giving language to this invisible field, the episode offers clarity around why parenting can feel draining long after the physical work has eased, and how something subtly settles when holding is finally seen for what it is.