What comes to mind when you think of supporting someone going through some sort of pain? Do you think of ways to make them feel better? Do you try to help them fix it? Do you give them advice?This week my guest Oren Shai blew my mind on what it can mean to really hold space for someone in their triggers/pain by not trying to do any of the above. Instead, we can learn how to feel a deep sense of groundedness within ourselves so we allow others to feel safe and seen being in their trigger without us trying to fix them or make them feel like their pain is wrong. 

 

-How to create safety and connection in relationships through presence and attention. 

-What it means to know the different “flavours of triggers” in your body.

-How we outsource our sense of  stability to external things and how to start sourcing groundedness within yourself.

-How to give yourself what you need when you get triggered so you can address  things in your relationships from a centered place.

-What somatic healing is all about.

 

Oren is committed to developing the leaders our world needs by connecting inner work and outer impact. Based upon the belief that the greatest challenges we face today result from the illusion of separateness, Oren’s work supports emerging leaders in reuniting separated parts of themselves so they are equipped to be forces for unification in the world. 

 

Practically, this takes the form of somatic leadership coaching, organizational change consulting, and co-creative community building.

 

Oren brings with him over a decade of experience developing people within companies like LinkedIn, and conducting applied team performance research within universities like Stanford.

 

Learn more at oren.is

 

Learn more about what I do as an Intuitive Coach and connect with me at my website: https://www.tanaimilgram.com

 

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