This one’s a little more sciencey than I usually go, but I’ve done that on purpose. Because if you’re anything like the women I work with, you don’t just want tools…You want to understand how and why things actually work. You want to know what’s really going on when you’re spiralling, shutting down, over-apologising, or trying to force calm but feeling anything but.

So in this conversation, I’m walking you through the inner mechanics of emotional regulation, and the real reason why all your mindset work, breathwork, and journaling sometimes still don’t cut it.

We’re talking:

• The role of the amygdala (your brain’s built-in alarm system)
• The prefrontal cortex (your inner CEO that goes offline when you’re overwhelmed)
• Why emotional hijacks aren’t personal flaws, they’re survival responses
• How neuroplasticity means you can retrain your emotional patterns
• And how grounding practices like breathwork, movement, and rest don’t just “feel good”; they literally help your brain come back online

I created this to help you feel less like you’re “too sensitive” or “not trying hard enough”… and more like a woman whose brilliant nervous system is just asking for the right kind of support.

This isn’t about doing more. (Hear me on this one!) It’s about understanding the invisible mechanics behind why you feel what you feel, and learning how to work with your biology, not against it. When you know how to respond to your body’s signals instead of suppressing them, everything changes. Because emotional regulation isn't just about staying calm, it’s about creating the safety your brain needs to choose presence, power, and peace.

Chapters

00:00 Understanding Emotional Hijacks

02:36 The Brain's Emotional Circuitry

05:28 The Role of the Amygdala in Emotional Responses

08:19 Navigating Emotional Reactions

11:03 The Importance of Context in Emotional Regulation

13:50 Neuroplasticity and Emotional Resilience

🖤 In this episode, Arianna explores the concept of discernment, particularly for high performers who often struggle with knowing when to push and when to rest. She emphasises the importance of self-awareness and nervous system regulation as foundational elements for making aligned decisions. Through practical insights and personal anecdotes, Arianna guides listeners on how to cultivate discernment in their daily lives, embrace discomfort as a source of data, and develop a deeper relationship with themselves to enhance their decision-making processes.

📌 Takeaways

Discernment is the ability to make aligned decisions amidst pressure.

Nervous system regulation is crucial for effective discernment.

Self-awareness is the foundation of emotional intelligence.

Discomfort should be viewed as data, not failure.

High performers often struggle with knowing when to rest.

Practising discernment on small decisions builds the muscle for larger ones.

Creating stillness practices helps in recognising inner cues.

Trusting oneself is essential for high-integrity leadership.

Decisions made from presence feel grounded and clear.

Self-awareness allows for better management of energy and emotions.

🖤  to find out more about LEAD FROM STILLNESS: https://www.ariannapienaar.com/coaching

to apply for 1:1 coaching: https://www.ariannapienaar.com/apply-for-leadership-coaching

Soul School: https://www.ariannapienaar.com/soul-school

🖤 Chapters

00:00 Understanding Capacity and Discernment

08:27 The Importance of Nervous System Regulation

16:36 Self-Awareness and Emotional Intelligence

20:49 The Challenge of High Performance

24:09 Refining Your Discernment Practice

29:49 Discomfort as Data

34:38 Making Decisions from Presence vs. Pressure

39:25 Building the Muscle of Discernment

Ready to Dive Deeper?

🌟 [Work with Arianna] arianna.com.au/coaching

Stay Connected:

📸 [Follow on Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/ariannapienaar/)

🔗 [VisitWebsite](arianna.com.au)

📘 [Like on Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/ariannapienaar/)

Support:

If you found this video helpful, please give it a thumbs up, share it with your friends, and subscribe to my channel for more transformative content!

➛ YouTube Video URL:  https://youtu.be/nXup_oyEZjE

Video hashtags: #discernment #highperformance #selfawareness 

Disclaimer: The information provided in this video is for educational purposes only and should not be considered medical advice. Always consult with a healthcare professional before starting any new wellness practice.

Thank you for being here! 

Let's embark on this journey to find peace and plenty together. 🌱✨

🌟🌟🌟🖤 In this conversation, Arianna discusses the importance of intentionality in personal practices such as breath work, meditation, and movement. She emphasizes the need to regulate the nervous system through specific techniques and how to anchor the mind during meditation. Additionally, she highlights the significance of physical movement and yoga in maintaining body awareness and managing mental distractions.

Finally, she introduces the Stillness Method, a structured 30-day program designed to help individuals cultivate these practices effectively.

📌 Takeaways

00:00 Intentional Living: The Key to Success

01:50 Regulating Your Nervous System

04:37 Anchoring Your Mind

07:15 The Importance of Physical Activity

09:42 Overcoming Mental Barriers

12:10 The Stillness Method: A 30-Day Journey

🖤 Stillness PLAYLIST LINK: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLIS1OC2OeNNfmxiEWcsBOsisItTjDfpxC&si=wCEwZtE3QkZbzLV3

🖤 Join the Stillness Method here: https://www.ariannapienaar.com/stillness

🖤 Yoga Nidra Practices: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLIS1OC2OeNNe0Qtbf5-aZl1ySt7WZzaYl&si=dSgPWoP7X2qTx95W

🌟 Breathwork Practices: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLIS1OC2OeNNcdNsibOnPglJHdiMcqRey4&si=W7wLoBzQ8_A46pQ2

🌟 Meditation Practices: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLIS1OC2OeNNc6utF5fjsrVjOsoKpP8J-E&si=acmqOYpL5hBnv-Ki

🌟 [Work with Arianna] arianna.com.au

Stay Connected:

📸 [Follow on Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/ariannapienaar/)

🔗 [VisitWebsite](arianna.com.au)

📘 [Like on Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/ariannapienaar/)

Recommended Videos:

1. HOW TO DO BELLY BREATHING EXERCISES https://youtu.be/bebgc3OcLcI?si=itEsFnK31n8YPxy4

2. YOGA FOR SLEEP https://youtu.be/rMxPZSGkyQY?si=rJACCviHvvdv6J583. BODY SCAN MEDITATION https://youtu.be/iMJEi1S5mTY?si=VrLdu5o4cg6JKpaG

Support:

If you found this video helpful, please give it a thumbs up, share it with your friends, and subscribe to my channel for more transformative content!

➛ YouTube Video URL: https://youtu.be/OU512ZVsTaI

Video hashtags: #breathing #breathwork #meditation #nervoussystem

Disclaimer: The information provided in this video is for educational purposes only and should not be considered medical advice. Always consult with a healthcare professional before starting any new wellness practice.

Thank you for being here! Let's embark on this journey to find peace and plenty together. 🌱✨

If rest feels frustrating, unproductive, or even impossible—you’re not alone. In this episode of The Art of Stillness, we explore why so many high-achieving women find it hard to slow down, even when they know they need to.

You'll learn:

• The hidden resistance to rest (and what it’s really protecting)

• How your nervous system interprets stillness

• Why “doing nothing” can feel unsafe—and what to do about it

• Gentle practices to build your rest tolerance over time

Whether you’ve been stuck in hustle mode or feel guilty for slowing down, this episode offers grounded guidance, compassion, and practical tools to support your body and mind in recalibrating your relationship with rest.

 Not all action is aligned.

This episode offers you a radical reframe: Stillness isn’t a delay in your progress. It’s the strategy you’ve been missing. We’ll talk about why traditional productivity tools don’t work for multi-passionate women, how to stop confusing motion with momentum, and how to let your next step find you. If you’ve tried every scheduling hack, every morning routine, every planner—and still feel overwhelmed—this episode is for you.

Here, we trade the hustle for harmony.

Strategy for resonance. Force for flow.

If you're curious about your own design and if you're living in alignment, head on over to this page and book yourself in for an MG Magic Audit: https://www.arianna.com.au/mgmagicaudit

 You don’t owe anyone your exhaustion. You’re allowed to say no to the extra project, the unaligned opportunity, the people-pleasing loop. In this episode, we explore what happens when you start honouring your “no” as much as your “yes.”

You’ll discover where your boundaries are being blurred, how to stop leaking energy to commitments that don’t serve you, and why the pause between stimulus and response is where your power lies.

If you’ve been carrying more than your share, overgiving, overextending, or saying “yes” out of guilt… this is your call back to sovereignty. Stillness isn’t selfish—it’s sacred.

To book yourself in for a Magic Audit: https://www.arianna.com.au/mgmagicaudit

You weren’t built to move at one speed. Some days, you’re on fire—bursting with ideas, creating with ease. Other days, your body asks for quiet, for softness, for stillness. But the world doesn’t make space for that kind of rhythm.

In this episode, we’re dismantling the myth of consistency and productivity—and talking about what it really means to build a life that aligns with your natural energy flow. You’ll learn how to honour your cycles, how to spot when you’re forcing against your body’s truth, and how to recalibrate your pace so your work supports your energy—not the other way around. This is your permission slip to stop trying to “keep up” and start designing a rhythm that feeds you.

TO Book yourself in for a Magic Audit - https://www.arianna.com.au/mgmagicaudit

 When was the last time you made a decision without overthinking it? In a world that rewards logic and productivity, it’s easy to lose connection with your intuitive “yes.”

This episode is about reawakening that clarity—learning what it feels like in your body, how to recognise when you’re overriding it, and what happens when you begin to trust it again. If you’ve been second-guessing, stuck in indecision, or trying to “strategise” your way forward—this is your invitation to feel instead of force.

To book yourself in for a MAGIC AUDIT: https://www.arianna.com.au/mgmagicaudit

 You’ve done all the “right” things—said yes to the opportunities, built the career or business, stayed productive- and yet, under the surface, something still feels off. This episode is a gentle invitation to slow down and listen to the voice you’ve been too busy to hear: your own.

We’ll explore why stillness isn’t about doing less—it’s about remembering who you are when you stop proving. If you’re feeling the ache for alignment, this is where your return begins.

To book yourself in for a MAGIC AUDIT: https://www.arianna.com.au/mgmagicaudit

 This is the integration. The moment where all the insights, pauses, and shifts you’ve experienced throughout this series begin to land. In this final episode, we explore what it means to lead from clarity, to live from energy, and to trust yourself again—fully. This is the place where force fades and magnetism rises.

Where success feels less like striving and more like receiving.

You’ll meet the version of you who knows how to choose herself without apology. Who no longer edits her truth to be palatable. If you’re ready to stop outsourcing your power and start living as the woman you were always meant to be, this one is for you. This is your still step forward. Let’s take it together.