Why your emotional health is dependent on how you feel physicallygenerations ago can continue to shape our experience in the present. 

Generational trauma, also called intergenerational trauma and transgenerational trauma, is passed down through generations in families through genetic changes to a person's DNA after they experience trauma. 

I didn’t mean to get so heavy within the first few lines of this page, but it’s a reality that is often overlooked when going down a path of self-discovery. It’s never really just about you. 

If you want to create a life of peace, tranquility and harmony, then there are a few things you’re going to work through on your way there. 

Whilst most spiritual new age folks will tell you to meditate and journal, and all will come right, I’m here to say - yes that, AND a whole bunch of nervous system regulation, somatic movement therapy and neuro-change to go with. It takes more than only a meditation practice to create a life of ease, plenty and purpose.

It takes YOU, all four parts of YOU - ticking along smoothly.

And the four parts I’m referring to are the emotional. Physical. Mental and spiritual.

In this episode we explore many of the ways in which we can create lasting change in the mind, body, heart and spirit. 

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The Zuckerman Institute

The Heartmath Institute

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I was leading a teleconference this morning with twenty interesting, diverse, solo entrepreneurs, consultants and coaches. The hot subject up for discussion was how overwhelmed, beat, tired, and burned-out many of the people were feeling due to the “too much to do / can’t stop now” syndrome.

Are you one of those people who can’t seem to stop “doing?”

I have yet to meet anyone who hasn’t felt overwhelmed from time to time. Since it tends to feel uncomfortable, if not downright unpleasant, we tend to view it as negative and as a weakness. We don’t dare to admit we are overwhelmed or dare to talk about it, which can leave us feeling isolated and alone, further exacerbating the feeling. We often deny we are overwhelmed because we do not know how to stop the frenetic behavior that leads to this feeling. So we do nothing. Our employers, colleagues or friends often do not help support us to stop overworking.

Why do we do this to ourselves? Primarily, this syndrome occurs in our work life but it can carry over to our personal and family life, and it frequently does. Focusing on projects often begins with good intentions but we can quickly and easily be overwhelmed if we do not have a plan to minimize and balance our work. Getting the project finalized for your team, writing the copy for your website, designing the new sales brochure or completing the 90-day marketing plan are extremely important – but having a balanced, health life is equally important.

This stressful pattern is telling you to change your life! Once you get this message, it is easier to identify the steps you need to take to shift out of the behavior quickly.

Following are helpful strategies gleaned from my personal experience and from my work with coaching clients who are burned out, growing cranky, frustrated and even depressed. These strategies immediately diminish feelings of being overwhelmed so you can refocus and make some work/life balance decisions.

What we talk about:

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Ari P Podcast S4 E2 - arianna.com.au/ari-p-podcast/s4e2

Work with Arianna 1:1 - arianna.com.au/offerrings

We believe we are in control of life when in fact, we control nothing but our perceptions.

Our perceptions are the way in which we regard, understand, or interpret something. They’re subjective and given the chance, naturally change all the time (because we are ever-evolving). What we perceive and believe today, can change in the blink of an eye, rendering that same belief irrelevant or moot tomorrow.

The thing is that we can find ourselves in a situation where we identify with (and get stuck in) any one of our perceptions.

As such we forget to reassess and recalibrate, and can live IN a perception that isn’t the truth for us - this means that we can live in an outdated truth.

If you’re devoted to evolution, then being open to evolve would seem like an obvious choice. THE QUESTION is - do you value change ?

Can you honour the changing tides within yourself?

We talk about all this and more in this week's episode. Let's explore together...

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Work with Arianna 1:1 - arianna.com.au/offerrings

Often our expectations are based on the assumptions we have about people or groups of people. The same is true of us. Have you ever noticed how your expectations become reality in your personal life? Expectation is literally a self-fulfilling prophecy. We do this consciously and subconsciously.

Remember the kid in grade school who was always really rowdy and disruptive? Sometimes if people already assume they are perceived a certain way, then that is indeed exactly how they will act, even if they don't mean to.

The rowdy kid in grade school knew everyone perceived him as disruptive, and so he was. The teacher expected bad behavior, and the expectations were fulfilled.

Consider the profound impact this can have in your own life. Are the assumptions and expectations you have about yourself liberating or victimizing?

There are countless examples of "self-fulfilling prophecies," or the Law of Expectations at work in everyday life.  The law of expectation basically says you're never going to get more than what you expect out of life. If you expect small things, you're going to get small things. If you expect big things, you're more likely to get big things. The proposition in probability theory known as the law of total expectation, the law of iterated expectations.

Ever notice how people who think they're going to be fired suddenly experience a drop in the quality and enthusiasm for their work? Then what happens? They get fired! Their belief causes them to act a certain way, and those expectations then work to bring about the very thing that at first was only a figment of their imagination.

In another study, second graders listened to statements from their teachers before taking a math test. There were three types of statements: expectation, persuasion, or reinforcement.

The expectation statements went something like, "You know your math really well!" or "You work really hard at your math."

Persuasion statements involved sentences like, "You should be good at math." or "You should be getting better math grades."

Finally, for the reinforcement statements, teachers said things like, "I'm really happy about your progress" or "This is excellent work!"

Now, what do you think the results were? The scores were the highest in the "expectation" category! Why were the expectation statements the most effective? They created personal assumptions within each student. Those assumptions conditioned the actual external results.

How can you see expectations playing out in your own life? I’m be curious to know! Reach out to me on Instagram and let me know.

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Work with Arianna 1:1 - https://www.arianna.com.au/four-fragments-of-you

I recently shared a reel on Instagram on an oral hygiene practice I love and boy did it cause a stir! I got so many messages asking about it, many wondering why, as someone who normally shares spiritual and energetic teachings,  I was suddenly sharing about oral health.

Well, the short answer is: It’s all connected. All of it. Any ritual or practice that supports the physical body has an effect on our mental, spiritual, and emotional lives.

How many times have you neglected your physical health in favour of cultivating transcendence? How many times have you negated your emotions because ‘the show must go on’. How many times have you meditated, cleansed, saved, smoked, only to realise the money mind is in still full swing.

It takes a certain amount of audacity to realign and defragment from an un-useful way of being.

Let’s explore this together.

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The Oral Hygiene Reel that caused a stir

Oral Hygiene blog 

8 Limbed Path of Yoga 

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Kindness and patience are qualities that should not be understood as individual acts that we “do”, such as an “act of kindness” or “patience in the moment.” Eventually we awaken to the realisation that these are graces that reside within us, subtly reshaping an act of kindness into a person of kindness. But awakening requires reflection time as a way of recognising how often our life circumstances seem to set us up to rely upon these graces in order to sustain ourselves through difficult passages.

Let's explore what these can look like in your life, and how you can carve out some reflection space and time to recognise it for yourself through a practice of loving-kindness.

The Definition of loving-kindness is ‘tender and benevolent affection’.

Loving-kindness, also known as metta (in Pali), is derived from Buddhism and refers to a mental state of unselfish and unconditional kindness to all beings. Maitrī (Sanskrit; Pali: mettā) means benevolence, loving-kindness, friendliness, amity, good will, and active interest in others. It is the first of the four sublime states (Brahmaviharas) and one of the ten pāramīs of the Theravāda school of Buddhism. While loving-kindness involves the motivation for happiness, compassion involves the motivation to reduce suffering – not because we find it aversive and are trying to escape it, but we have the loving motivation to reduce or end it.

The metta prayer of loving-kindness is a prayer or mantra used as part of a loving-kindness meditation, or metta bhavana. This kind of meditation and use of a mantra is popular in the Buddhist tradition. The word, metta, comes from Pali and can be translated as “good will” or “loving kindness.” Loving-kindness meditation (sometimes called “metta” meditation) is a great way to cultivate our propensity for kindness. It involves mentally sending goodwill, kindness, and warmth towards others by silently repeating a series of mantras.

Quick Take | Loving-Kindness Meditation Benefits:

May I be at ease in my body, feeling the ground beneath my seat and feet … May I be attentive and gentle toward my own discomfort and suffering … May I be attentive and grateful for my own joy and well-being … May I move towards others freely and with openness 

We cannot build our future world with the same rules that applied in the past because this is exactly what got us into the collective mess that we’re experiencing. You must find the link between your happiness and joy AND the happiness and joy of the planet.

What we talk about:

Mentions & Resources:

Ari P Podcast: Season 4, Episode 1 - Compassionate Acceptance

Ari P Podcast: Season 1, Episode 2 - Compassion as a Highway to Your Intuition

This is a conversation I’ve had over and over recently.

We can so easily be deceived by our own eyes and mind if we aren’t conscious of the foundation underneath promises we make ourselves. In this episode I speak to launching confidently towards your greatest joy, alignment and peace.  

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Mentions:

Hayley Carr

Work with Arianna

By invoking Compassionate Acceptance within, and by activating (and remembering our) capacity for true abundance, health and wellbeing, we restore our heart's innate ability to instantly radiate in all directions and dimensions of time, impacting all of our energy centres and systems. What does it mean to compassionately accept what is, whilst championing change and facilitating sacred activism? Let's explore this together.

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