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In this episode, Johnathan Arnold and David Fry discuss whether or not the church should offer virtual communion and how the rush to live-stream the Lord's Supper reflects a general over-spiritualization of the church. 

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Travis Johnson joins David Fry and Johnathan Arnold to discuss his recent article, "Ravi Zacharias and the Moral Failure of Spiritual Leaders."

Quotes from Travis:

• Victims need to know that it's safe. The church can be a safe place to come forward and share your experience so that you can get the help that you need.  We in the church want to be a part of that healing process.
• We have to talk about this for the sake of transparency. People are struggling with this.
• Within the church, there are other victims of sexual abuse and they need to know we care. We need to be their voice. Many are afraid to come forward and they need to know the church can be a safe place to come forward and share your experience so you can get the help that you need.
• We need to talk about it because we learn from our mistakes. Other ministries will look at this and say, “What can we do to make sure that this doesn’t ever happen in our organization?" Churches will be learning from this, hopefully implementing changes that will strengthen their ministries.
• Our people need to hear from us that we care deeply about these issues. That we as leaders want to live lives of holiness and purity. They need to hear from us that we need their help in this area of accountability and transparency. 
• If there are victims of any kind of abuse in the congregation, they need to hear our voice that we care for them, that we love them, and that we will always stand with victims.

Quotes from Fry:

• It ought to be a reminder to everyone that sin is never just about me and my private life. It always affects relationships and other people. 
• As a church, we have to create a culture in which we are accountable, and have a culture and atmosphere so that if there is wrongdoing and lack of discretion, then that can be dealt with in a truthful and graceful way.
• When something comes to our attention, we have to listen to it.  It doesn’t matter how impeccable someone may seem to be.
• A church should have a policy for how things are followed up. If there’s a report of any wrongdoing, there should be a procedure. 

Quotes from Arnold:

• It’s important that we are theologically robust and defend the Christian faith with the best intellectual arguments. But if we are not living a life of integrity, then it doesn’t matter.
• This is something pastors should talk to their churches about.

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Andrew Graham joins David Fry and Johnathan Arnold to discuss the recent news about Ravi Zacharias and what we can do in our own churches and institutions to expose abusers and help victims.

Quotes from Graham:

• People in Christian leadership are not exempt from temptation, not exempt from the possibility of falling. There needs to be structures in place that protect them and the people who serve alongside them.
• If we view this as an isolated, RZIM-specific issue, then I think we will be talking about the next one. Rather than each of us in our own context looking at what needs to be done differently moving forward.
• What systems are in place so when a ministry leader acknowledges I am not okay, there is a place for restoration and recovery? Rather than feeling like the only way forward is to continue to hide.
• Books like Becoming a Church that Cares Well for the Abused by Brad Hambrick and We Too: How the Church Can Respond Redemptively to the Sexual Abuse Crisis by Mary E. DeMuth are very practical resources that talk about what to do for the victim and victimizer. 
• We need to listen to those who are victims. We need to hear their stories.
• Expressing your abuse narrative in a safe context is a significant part of beginning the healing journey. Identify someone who can help you.
• What am I doing and what are you doing in your context to make sure that the people who see you as a spiritual leader would say, “I know I can go to you and talk to you about this and you will handle it the right way."
• If someone identifies you as a safe person, you need to do the right thing. 

Quotes from Fry:

• We need to be very intentional as Wesleyans that we do not develop theological misconceptions that become a part of a structure that ensures something will happen and it will be overlooked because it can’t count as sin.
• We do not want to provide a theological shield behind which those who possess power in a ministry can hide.
• Someone who is caught up in sin will find theological reasons to justify themselves.
• We have to be aware that we are naturally going to be defensive of the system within which we work.
• We need room in our theology to understand that our system is not perfect. 

Quotes from Arnold:

• If we are serious about holiness, we must realize how we can undermine holiness by failing to call something sin that is sin.
• There are consequences for our theology. If we are not careful in the way that we preach and teach, real people get hurt.
• We’re unlikely to see red flags when our theological impulse is to justify those red flags.
• None of us are calling for the church to be weak on sin. We’re just calling for more nuance, more maturity, more carefulness, and more theological work. Because simplistic thinking hurts people. 

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In this episode, Johnathan Arnold and David Fry continue to discuss prevenient grace in the thought of William Burt Pope.

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This is the first episode in a series on William Burt Pope's doctrine of prevenient grace.

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In this episode, Andrew Graham and Johnathan Arnold continue discussing how to care for others in distress.

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In this episode, Johnathan Arnold and Dr. Andrew Graham discuss helping others in distress.

Quotes from Graham:

• The best way to assess whether or not someone is in distress is to look at any changes in their mood, affect, behavior habits—eating, sleeping—and how these changes affect their functioning.
• There are people who are in distress while not yet disordered or dysfunctional or diagnosable.
• One detrimental mistake is to automatically assume that a distressed person has a spiritual problem.
• We can too quickly over-spiritualize distress or we can too quickly under-spiritualize distress.
• In addictions counseling, a frequently used adage is: Your past may explain your behavior, but it doesn’t justify it.
• Do not assume you know when someone is in distress or that you know the best way out.
• There is no situation beyond God’s power to redeem and restore for His glory and our edification.
• We can’t look at somebody and say that because they’re limping in the way that I limp, or because they’re going through a situation I went through, that means God is providing for them the same way out that He provided for me. 
• We’re all called to come alongside those who are in distress.
• We need to support one another through relationship—through connection.
• How connected are you to the body of Christ? That is an important component to moving on and moving through times of distress.
• One of my passions is to help equip the church to provide soul care. There are situations where basic counseling skills can be used by laypeople—people who are not even naturally equipped in this way—to where they can impact their own church community and beyond.

Quotes from Arnold:

• Sometimes in our churches, we’ve created a culture where we feel like we need to have it all together, so it’s easy to hide our distress.
• Helping someone else can help the whole body. 
• When one part of your body is hurt, it draws energy and strength from the rest of the body until it is healed. That’s one of the reasons why I think maybe we avoid this. It can be costly and messy to get involved in somebody’s life and walk with them through the distress that they’re facing.
• If my wife is in distress, I know it. I don't have to guess, because I live my life with her. Maybe the problem is that we’re disconnected in our Western model of church—we're consumer-minded, we come to get what we want and then go. Maybe we have a little clique, two or three people that we talk to every service, but we don't really have a community. We don't know when others are going through distress or how to help them because we don't really even know them. They’re not a part of our life. What if the church looked like Acts 2—breaking bread together and living life together?
• Creating a healthy church may be one of the first steps towards being better at helping people in distress.

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In this episode, Johnathan Arnold and David Fry continue discussing the pastor as theologian.

Quotes from Fry:

• I want to challenge all of us to recommit ourselves to pulpit ministry—the preaching ministry of the shepherd. We are to feed our congregation with the truth of God.
• We are not going to grow personally, spiritually, or theologically by putting in the minimum study time—giving attention to everything else and just squeezing out the time we ought to be growing.
• Pastors, we must be growing ourselves if we expect our church to be maturing in Christ.
• The maturation we are after is opposed to get-big-quick schemes and methods. It requires long, slow, steady growth. It doesn't guarantee that we're going to go from a church of 50 to 500 in three to five years. But it does guarantee that we are going to shepherd people who are growing and in turn will shepherd others.
• We need to allow Christ to build his church his way rather than our own way. There are a lot of innovative ways to increase numbers, and it doesn't take a lot of skill to do those things, but it does take dedication and study to help people grow spiritually and mature in their Christian faith. As pastors, we cannot get sucked into this mentality of being a CEO who is tasked by our shareholders to grow as quickly as we can.
• Theologizing isn't just bringing up old dead people and reciting what they said. It is, this is why it matters to us who are alive today—this is what it means in what we actually face day in and day out.
• We need to be preaching about modesty because it is an opportunity to address a very important cultural issue from a deeply biblical and theological framework.
• The teenagers at our church really latch on to the theological rationale. They're convinced that immodesty is a serious issue. They cannot allow themselves to be immodest lest they live cross-way to what they believe about Christ, sin, and atonement.
• We need to know why we're doing what we're doing. Doing and believing is a connection that pastor-theologians must help people to make.

Quotes from Arnold:

• Pastors probably need to read the Bible more than they do. I know your practice is to read the entire Bible every 100 days. But we also need better reading habits. If we're not equipped with how to read the Bible, we'll have a tendency to skim until we find the verse that we're already familiar with or that "stands out to us." We must invest in our exegetical abilities, read the best commentaries, and take advantage of historical theology—read the Bible with the communion of the saints.
• If someone sits under our pulpit ministry for 15 years, what are they going to know? I think that answer is pretty embarrassing sometimes. In Bible college, I heard things like, "Bible college is a place where you can learn why you believe what you believe." I thought that was the church. What is a pastor even doing?
• Pastors ought to be modeling how to think through challenging questions.
• Someone recently asked me why it's important to dress modestly. What am I going to do in this moment? I'm going to give him a biblical theology of modesty. And when I was theologizing in that moment, I was pastoring.
• I want people to walk away from a conversation about an issue like modesty—not thinking about the standards of a particular faith tradition, or about me, or about John Wesley, or about what we've always done, or even about our culture and how bad it is—but first and foremost about Jesus. I want them to think, clothing is about Christ. Because it is. If we start there, that's a very healthy context for discussing the particulars.
• We have incredible opportunities to bridge from the cultural issues that people are facing to Jesus and the gospel—to give a theologically robust, Christ-centered, beautiful response that can bring great health to the church.

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A special episode for young children, part of a series of "Kids' Compline: Bedtime Prayer for Young Children."

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A special episode for young children, the first in a series of "Kids' Compline: Bedtime Prayer for Young Children."

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