Holy Wreckage

A Christian divorce testimony about losing your identity, surviving a divorce you never wanted, and finding yourself again in Christ.

Destri Diehl had the life a lot of people dream about.

She was a pastor’s kid who got married at 19. She spent twenty years in ministry alongside her husband, had kids she adored, and lived in a beautiful home in historic downtown Rapid City. She believed with her whole heart that marriage was forever.

Then came a divorce she never wanted.

In this episode of Holy Wreckage, Destri opens up about how the end of her marriage shattered her, and how God used the fire to show her something she didn’t expect. Somewhere along the way she had lost her identity in being a wife, a mom, and a ministry leader. She’d been doing things for Jesus instead of with Him.

We talk about:

• Losing your identity in the roles everyone loves you for
• Wrestling with God when your marriage ends without your say
• Why she still hates divorce but is grateful for where God has brought her
• How to forgive and pray for someone who hurt you, and being thankful for the “no’s”
• Co-parenting and walking her kids through a divorce they didn’t get a say in
• Life as a single mom in a church built for couples
• “Holy Spirit tears” and why healing after divorce means letting yourself get messy

Today Destri serves at Love INC in Rapid City, South Dakota, where local churches come together to walk alongside people in need. It’s also where her own community carried her through the hardest season of her life. If you’re in the Rapid City area and want to volunteer or get your church involved, reach out to them.

If you’re in the middle of your own wreckage, this one’s for you. You don’t have to go around the fire. God will meet you in it.

“When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned.” Isaiah 43:2

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My DNA Test Revealed My Dad Wasn’t My Dad | NPE Christian Testimony

Nena thought she knew exactly who her family was.

She had taken an Ancestry DNA test years earlier, barely paying attention when emails about new DNA matches appeared in her inbox. But eventually, something inside her kept telling her to look.

When she finally did, she discovered something that would change everything:

The man she had always known as her dad wasn’t her biological father.

In this episode of Holy Wreckage, Nena shares what happened after her DNA discovery sent her searching for answers—and eventually led her to a biological father and family she never knew she had.

This conversation is for anyone who has discovered through DNA testing that a parent isn't biologically related to them, is searching for a biological parent, is grieving the family they thought they knew, or is struggling to understand where God is in the middle of an identity-changing discovery.

Nena's story is a reminder that even when we don't understand what God is doing, nothing is wasted.

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If you've discovered that the person you believed was your biological parent isn't biologically related to you, you are not alone.

NPE stands for Not Parent Expected and commonly describes the experience of discovering through DNA testing or other circumstances that an assumed biological parent is not biologically related to you.

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Your identity may have been shaken, but your identity in Christ hasn't changed.

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I Became My Son’s Drug Dealer | How God Redeemed Our Addiction Story

Jennifer Chase grew up knowing exactly what addiction could do to a family.

And she was certain it would never happen to her.

But after a brain tumor left her living with chronic pain, prescription opioids entered her life—and eventually became something far more powerful than pain relief.

In this episode of Holy Wreckage, Jennifer shares her journey through addiction, motherhood, childhood trauma, recovery, and the faith that changed the trajectory of her family's story.

This is a conversation for anyone who has ever loved someone in addiction, battled addiction themselves, carried shame over the damage they've caused, or wondered whether God could possibly redeem what feels too broken to repair.

Jennifer Chase is the founder of Rise Addiction, where she helps individuals and families navigate addiction, recovery, boundaries, healing, and the complicated reality of loving someone who is struggling.

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This conversation includes discussion of childhood sexual abuse, opioid and prescription drug addiction, impaired driving, family trauma, and mental health struggles.

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What happens when you love God, serve in ministry, become a pastor—and still can’t stop the addiction destroying your life?

In this episode of Holy Wreckage, Crystal sits down with Jason Lyle, host of the Sacred Grit podcast, for an honest conversation about sex addiction, shame, adoption trauma, faith, nervous system regulation, and recovery.

After learning about nervous system regulation, Jason began looking beyond willpower, shame, and behavior alone. He started understanding the connection between trauma, dysregulation, impulse, the body, and the brain.

This conversation is for anyone struggling with sex addiction, pornography addiction, compulsive behavior, church shame, adoption trauma, childhood trauma, emotional dysregulation, or the exhausting cycle of doing something you desperately want to stop doing.

There is a way forward.

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⚠️ CONTENT NOTE: This episode discusses sex addiction, pornography, infidelity, adoption trauma, suicidal thoughts, and suicide planning.

If this episode speaks to something you’ve been carrying in secret, share it with someone you trust.

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Healing out loud, one wreck at a time.

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What happens when fear stops being an emotion and starts controlling every decision you make?

In this powerful episode of Holy Wreckage, Crystal sits down with Valerie Carter, founder of RRT Ministries: Rescued, Redeemed and Transformed, for a raw conversation about childhood trauma, spiritual realm encounters, crippling fear, addiction, disordered eating, surrender, and the healing power of Jesus Christ.

Valerie shares how childhood sexual abuse and assault left her living in constant fear. That fear followed her into adulthood, affecting her sleep, relationships, parenting, friendships, and ability to leave her own home. She made decisions based on what might happen, struggled with severe anxiety and insomnia, and used over-the-counter medication to cope and find rest.

Everything began to change when someone challenged Valerie with a difficult question: Had fear become her idol?

After asking the Holy Spirit for the truth, Valerie recognized how often she had placed fear above her trust in God. She describes falling to her knees in repentance, surrendering the control fear had over her life, and experiencing a dramatic spiritual deliverance that allowed her to breathe, sleep, and live differently for the first time.

Crystal and Valerie also have an honest conversation about the ways trauma can lead people to cope through alcohol, pills, food, sex, pornography, unhealthy relationships, eating disorders, or other addictions. These behaviors may temporarily numb the pain, but they cannot heal the wound underneath it.

This conversation is for the person who loves God but still feels controlled by fear.

If this episode speaks to you, subscribe to Holy Wreckage, leave a comment sharing what you are ready to surrender, and send this conversation to someone who needs to know that freedom is still possible.

⚠️ Content Note: This episode includes discussion of childhood sexual abuse, sexual assault, sex trafficking, panic attacks, addiction, eating disorders, and trauma-related coping behaviors. Please listen with care.

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What would you do if the person you loved most was given just a few years to live?

In this deeply moving episode of Holy Wreckage, Crystal sits down with Rachel Schneider, author of The Widow Chose Red, whose family was forever changed when her husband was diagnosed with ALS (Lou Gehrig's disease). Together they walked a heartbreaking journey of caregiving, anticipatory grief, raising two young sons, and learning what it truly means to trust God when life doesn't make sense.

After 21 years of marriage, Rachel and her husband John were living the life they had always dreamed of when ALS suddenly entered their story. Over the next three years, they faced impossible decisions, watched the disease slowly take away his physical abilities, and ultimately said goodbye far too soon.

Rather than allowing bitterness to define her life, Rachel chose to lean into her faith, discovering that even when miracles don't come the way we hope, God's presence never leaves. Her testimony is a powerful reminder that while suffering may change the course of your life, it never changes the faithfulness of God.

Whether you're walking through grief, caring for someone with a terminal illness, navigating the loss of a loved one, or simply wondering where God is in your own season of suffering, this conversation will remind you that He is near to the brokenhearted and faithful through every step of the journey.

In this episode you'll discover:

• What ALS (Lou Gehrig's disease) really is and how it impacts families
• Walking through anticipatory grief before losing a loved one
• Caring for a spouse with a terminal illness
• Trusting God when healing doesn't come the way you prayed for
• Helping children navigate grief after the loss of a parent
• Finding gratitude, hope, and purpose in the middle of heartbreak

Rachel Schneider is the author of The Widow Chose Red, a powerful memoir chronicling her family's journey through ALS, grief, and unwavering faith. Through her ministry and platform, Spirited Prosperity, Rachel encourages others to build resilient faith, discover hope in suffering, and trust God through life's greatest challenges.

If you're walking through grief, caregiving, or a difficult season of life, you can connect with Rachel at:

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📖 The Widow Chose Red

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Edited by Matt Sarmiento

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What happens after the DNA test changes everything?

In Part 2 of our conversation, Andrea Lomboy shares a biblical framework for navigating the emotional and spiritual aftermath of an unexpected DNA discovery. Whether you're an NPE (Not Parent Expected), adoptee, donor-conceived, or anyone whose biological identity has been unexpectedly rewritten, this episode offers practical encouragement rooted in faith.

Andrea walks through her five-step pathway to healing:

• Acceptance
• Grief
• Personal Agency
• Forgiveness
• Integration

Rather than encouraging listeners to "just get over it," Andrea explains why healing is a process—not a moment—and why forgiveness cannot be forced before grief has been honored. Throughout the conversation, she shares Scripture, personal experience, and practical wisdom for rebuilding identity, setting healthy boundaries, and finding peace in Christ after family secrets come to light.

If you've ever wrestled with questions like:

• How do I forgive the people who kept this secret?
• Why does this hurt so deeply?
• How do I move forward without pretending I'm okay?
• Where is God in the middle of my DNA discovery?

...this episode was created with you in mind.

No matter how your story began, your identity is not determined by your DNA. Your worth has never changed, and God is still writing your story.

About Andrea Lomboy

Andrea Lomboy is a Christian speaker, educator, and fellow NPE who is passionate about helping others find healing after unexpected DNA discoveries. Drawing from her own journey and years of biblical study, she equips individuals to navigate identity loss, grief, forgiveness, and restoration through a Christ-centered perspective.

Learn more or connect with Andrea at Seek.us.com.

When God Rewrites Your Story: Finding Grace After a Life-Changing DNA Discovery

What would you do if a DNA test revealed that everything you believed about your family was wrong?

In this deeply moving episode of Holy Wreckage, Crystal sits down with Andrea Lomboy, whose DNA discovery uncovered a lifetime of hidden truths and sent her on an unexpected journey of grief, identity, forgiveness, and ultimately, God's incredible faithfulness.

After believing one man was her father for 40 years, Andrea discovered through DNA testing that he wasn't biologically related to her. Her search for answers eventually led her to meet her biological father for the very first time at 57 years old. What followed was a story of extraordinary grace, healing, and the unmistakable hand of God.

Rather than allowing bitterness to define her life, Andrea chose to pursue truth while extending grace to both of her parents. Her testimony is a powerful reminder that while a DNA discovery may rewrite your family story, it never changes who God says you are.

Whether you're an NPE (Not Parent Expected), adopted, donor-conceived, navigating a DNA surprise, or simply walking through a season where your identity has been shaken, this conversation will remind you that your worth has never depended on your circumstances. God is still writing your story.

• Andrea's incredible DNA discovery story
• Meeting her biological father after 57 years
• Processing grief after an unexpected DNA surprise
• Finding identity in Christ when your family story changes
• Extending grace while navigating deep emotional wounds
• How faith became the foundation for healing

Andrea Lomboy is a Harvard-trained Lifestyle Medicine & Wellness Coach, speaker, educator, and founder of SEEK, a faith-guided coaching practice dedicated to helping people pursue healing of the body, mind, and spirit. Drawing from both professional expertise and her own deeply personal DNA discovery journey, Andrea helps individuals move from surviving to thriving through evidence-based wellness practices and biblical truth. (LinkedIn)

If you've experienced a DNA discovery or are looking for faith-based health and wellness coaching, you can connect with Andrea at:

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In this episode of Holy Wreckage, Linda shares the devastating truth a DNA test uncovered: the father who raised her was not her biological father. It also left an unanswered question whether her mother had an affair or her biological father donated the sperm she was conceived with.

What began as curiosity about ancestry turned into a complete identity earthquake.

Linda vulnerably shares what it felt like to discover she was an NPE (Not Parent Expected), how childhood wounds and family dysfunction resurfaced, the emotional toll of genetic mirroring, and the complicated reality of finding biological family after decades of unknowingly living a different story.

For many NPEs, adoptees, donor-conceived people, and those impacted by misattributed parentage, a DNA surprise is not just information. It can shake everything:

• Your identity
• Your family story
• Your medical history
• Your sense of belonging
• Your faith

But the truth that wrecks the story you were given does not get to wreck the purpose God placed inside of you.

Linda also shares how Jesus met her in the middle of betrayal, rage, rejection, confusion, and grief and how true healing came through faith.

If you've ever wondered:

• What does it feel like to discover your dad isn’t your biological father?
• How do you heal from an NPE or DNA surprise?
• Can Jesus heal identity trauma and family betrayal?
• What is genetic mirroring and why does it matter?
• How do you process discovering biological siblings later in life?
• Can God redeem something this painful?

This episode is for you.

Holy Wreckage exists to tell the truth about trauma, addiction, identity, family secrets, and the God who meets us there.

Thank you for watching, listening, and sharing.

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**NPE / DNA Surprise Resources:**
Right to Know: https://righttoknow.us/
DNA Surprise Support: https://righttoknow.us/dna-surprise
Resource Hub: https://righttoknow.us/learning
DNAngels: https://dnangels.org/

**Production Credits:**
Testimony by Linda
Hosted by Crystal Dunaway
Recorded for Holy Wreckage
Edited by Matt Sarmiento

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In this episode, Crystal Dunaway shares her personal DNA discovery story: adoption, name loss, childhood trauma, genetic mirroring, an unexpected AncestryDNA result, finding a biological father after 44 years, and learning how Jesus can meet us in the middle of an identity-shattering truth.

A DNA surprise is not just new information. For many NPEs, adoptees, donor-conceived people, and those impacted by misattributed parentage, it can feel like a soul earthquake. It can shake your identity, your family story, your medical history, your sense of belonging, and your faith.

But the truth that wrecks the story they gave you does not get to wreck the purpose God put in you.

Holy Wreckage exists to tell the truth about trauma, addiction, identity, family secrets, and the God who meets us there.

Thank you for watching and sharing.

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NPE / DNA Surprise Resources:
Right to Know: https://righttoknow.us/
DNA Surprise Support: https://righttoknow.us/dna-surprise
Misattributed Parentage Fact Sheet: https://righttoknow.us/downloads/factsheets/misattributed-parentage.pdf
Resource Hub: https://righttoknow.us/learning

Production Credits:
Testimony by Crystal Dunaway
Recorded for Holy Wreckage
Edited by Crystal Dunaway

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