Honey Monster

We continue on our Journey down memory lane and discuss how we are stronger as friends now than ever! Sometimes people are just meant to be in each others lives.

At the end of the last episode we realised that dates are timelines are hard to place. So we sat down together off air and workout when things happened in order. It made it so much easier to go through everything. 

WE talk about our friendship break ups, party nights and managed to laugh our way through this one.

Introducing Lexi, my fabulous friend who saw me through the entire ordeal. Sometimes up close and other times from afar. 

We discuss our friendship and the impact my abusive relationship had on us. My abusive Ex from her prespective and how it looks from teh outside in.

Women are most at risk once they leave an abusive partner. 75% of domestic murders happen after the person has left the relationship. I was Harrassed for a year after I left my ex. 

http://www.nationaldomesticviolencehelpline.org.uk/

Leaving an abusive relationship takes time, energy and resources. Here is how I managed it, maybe it will help you too. 

http://www.nationaldomesticviolencehelpline.org.uk/

I tried to leave my ex so many times I actually don't know how many 'break up's we had over the eight years we were together. Every time I finally said 'enough is enough,' something just pulled me back in again. 

http://www.nationaldomesticviolencehelpline.org.uk/

When does it turn from a new relationship to an abusive one? How does that happen and why it's never as simple as 'why don't you just leave?'

Links to the literature on the subject and resources: 

http://www.nationaldomesticviolencehelpline.org.uk/

Books: 

Why does he do that - Lundy Bancroft 

The verbally abusive Relationship - Patricia Evans

Look what you made me do -Helen Walmsley Johnson

I focus on the early stages of the relationship and the warning signs to look out for based on what happened to me.  Pointing out patterns in behaviour and tatics such as isolation.

After the restraining order - my ex took to twitter to harrass me by proxy.

When i finally made it out of the relationship - my ex harrassed me for nearly a year.