A bonus story following on from our chat about Extended Family and In-Laws for our Chatter Community!

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In this episode of Honey, We Need to Chat, we dive into one of the trickiest dynamics in any relationship—extended families and in-laws. Whether it’s clashing expectations, communication breakdowns, or navigating family traditions, every couple faces the challenge of blending two family cultures into one.

🔹 Why every couple has to redefine their relationship with their families of origin
🔹 How to support your partner when their family dynamics are complicated
🔹 The unspoken rules of setting boundaries with in-laws
🔹 Why venting about your partner to your kids is never okay
🔹 How to handle emotionally draining family members without guilt

We also discuss a real-life dilemma from a listener struggling with a rift between their wife and parents, explore why parents can struggle to transition into a new family dynamic, and tackle the tough question of how much responsibility you have to maintain family relationships.

💡 Key Takeaway: Creating a strong relationship doesn’t mean cutting family out—it means learning to set healthy, intentional boundaries that serve both your partnership and your extended family relationships.

📌 Episode Timestamps:

• 02:00 - Welcome back! A quick tech issue but we’re rolling
• 05:13 - Processing anxiety: How stress affects communication in relationships
• 08:14 - Different processing styles: When one partner needs space & the other needs conversation
• 11:37 - Extended families & in-laws: Why every couple must navigate this dynamic
• 14:53 - The shift from being a child in your family to having your own family unit
• 18:14 - A listener dilemma: Parents feel rejected, wife feels abandoned—who’s right?
• 20:52 - How to repair family relationships when both sides are stubborn
• 24:12 - Setting boundaries when a family member constantly criticizes your partner
• 30:23 - How to protect your mental space when a parent is emotionally draining
• 37:54 - Why it's important to be intentional with family relationships & boundaries

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In this unforgettable conversation, media power couple Luke & Susie Holt open up about how live radio shaped their marriage, why connection beats conflict, and the raw parenting moment that changed everything. From emotional honesty to wrestling with your kids (literally), this is a masterclass in real relationship depth. Watch to be challenged, encouraged, and inspired to reconnect in your own life.

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Welcome to Honey, We Need to Chat, the ultimate real, honest podcast for couples about marriage, communication, and connection. Hosted by Amy and Blair, we unpack the everyday stuff that gets in the way of staying close, with humour, heart, and zero fluff.

We talk about emotional shutdowns, miscommunication, unmet needs, and how to reconnect with curiosity and grace, because when communication dies, bad things happen.

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In this milestone episode of Honey, We Need to Chat, we welcome our very first guests—Luke and Susie Holt! 🎉 Luke and Susie are veteran radio hosts, content creators, and the voices behind Floppin' Fatherhood Project⁠⁠ , a movement redefining fatherhood with honesty, humor, and heart.

From the joys and challenges of working together as a couple to the emotional journey of breaking generational parenting patterns, this episode is packed with real talk, personal revelations, and game-changing insights. We explore:

🔹 The reality of navigating marriage when life (and work) collide
🔹 How fatherhood expectations have evolved & why vulnerability matters
🔹 The mental load of parenting & the small shifts that make a big difference
🔹 Why learning, not just apologizing, is key to stronger relationships
🔹 The unexpected ways communication patterns shape our families

Luke and Susie share powerful reflections on fatherhood, including a deeply personal moment when they interviewed their own children about their parenting—what they learned may surprise you. We also dive into practical tools like hand signals for smoother couple communication and how to diffuse conflict in real-time.

💡 Key Takeaway: Strong relationships aren’t about being perfect; they’re about being intentional.

📌 Episode Timestamps:

• 02:00 - Meet Luke & Susie Holt—content creators, radio hosts, and parents
• 07:45 - How working together has strengthened (and tested) their marriage
• 12:30 - The mental load of parenting & how dads can truly share it
• 18:50 - The ‘Floppin’ Fatherhood’ story & how Luke’s dad shaped his approach to fatherhood
• 25:10 - Interviewing their kids: What they really think about their dad
• 33:00 - Why vulnerability in fatherhood matters & breaking generational cycles
• 40:15 - Communication hacks: Hand signals, conflict resolution, and navigating emotions
• 48:30 - The importance of curiosity in marriage & understanding your partner’s intentions
• 55:00 - Final thoughts, key takeaways & where to find Luke and Susie

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Love languages—most of us know about them, but are we actually using them effectively? In this episode, we dive deep into what love languages really mean in real life. Whether you're struggling to feel understood or frustrated that your partner isn’t meeting your needs, we break down common misconceptions and share practical ways to make love languages work for both of you.

We also unpack listener stories and Reddit relationship dilemmas—including what to do when your love language feels ignored, if it’s possible to misuse a love language, and why you might be struggling to express love the way your partner needs.

In this episode, we cover:
✅ Why knowing your love language isn’t enough
✅ The hidden reason you might struggle to meet your partner’s love language
✅ What to do if your partner refuses to meet your emotional needs
✅ Can someone manipulate love languages?
✅ Listener stories + real-life examples of love languages in action

Timestamps:
📌 0:00 – The Bobby Newport moment we can’t stop laughing about
📌 2:00 – Why liking & subscribing helps more than you think
📌 7:00 – Listener story: Love languages and exhaustion in marriage
📌 14:30 – The key to staying connected when life is crazy
📌 22:40 – Can love languages be misused in relationships?
📌 32:00 – What to do when your partner won’t speak your love language
📌 41:10 – Why giving love is just as important as receiving love

📥 Free Resources to Go Deeper:

📄 Download our free guide: [⁠The Balanced Partnership Guide⁠]

❤️ Support us on Patreon: ⁠www.patreon.com/honeyweneedtochat⁠

📩 Submit a Story: [⁠Share Your Relationship Struggles⁠]

💬 Join the Conversation: Have a breakthrough moment from this episode? DM us, tag us, or share your thoughts!

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She shows love through gifts. He wishes she wouldn’t. What happens when your love language feels rejected—or when you're more focused on giving than understanding? In this bonus episode, we unpack the messiness of mismatched love languages, emotional identity, and what it really takes to feel seen in a relationship. Whether you're the gift-giver or the gift-avoider, this one's for you.

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Welcome to Honey, We Need to Chat, the ultimate real, honest podcast for couples about marriage, communication, and connection. Hosted by Amy and Blair, we unpack the everyday stuff that gets in the way of staying close, with humour, heart, and zero fluff.

We talk about emotional shutdowns, miscommunication, unmet needs, and how to reconnect with curiosity and grace, because when communication dies, bad things happen.

💬 Subscribe for weekly episodes that feel like real talk with friends.

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🎙️ In this week’s Chit-Chat episode, we dive into a mix of personal reflections, listener questions, and relationship dynamics that shape the way we grow together. We cover:

✔️ Regrets & Lessons – Do we have any? What do we wish we had done differently?
✔️ Wins & Strengths – What we’ve done right in our relationship and parenting.
✔️ Conflict Resolution – Should couples never go to bed angry? Why or why not?
✔️ Funny Relationship Stories – We wrap up with a hilarious dating mix-up!

KEY TAKEAWAYS
🔹 Why we wouldn’t change anything—even the tough moments.
🔹 The importance of getting professional help before it's too late.
🔹 How understanding values early on could have helped us navigate challenges better.
🔹 Our biggest green flags in each other and why they matter.
🔹 The truth about "never go to bed angry"—when it helps and when it hurts.

TIME STAMPS
00:00 – Welcome & why we’re still in swapped seats 😂
04:00 – Unboxing our surprise gifts from a listener!
07:46 – Do we have any regrets? What we wish we’d done differently.
14:52 – The biggest strengths in our relationship.
22:47 – How we picked our kids’ names (and our process for choosing names).
25:03 – Should couples "never go to bed angry"? Our take on conflict resolution.
29:40 – Funny dating story: A hug… for the waiter?! 🤦‍♀️
31:48 – Outro & where to find extra content!

🎧 LISTEN NOW – And don’t forget to join our growing community on Patreon or Spotify Subscriptions for exclusive content, listener input, and behind-the-scenes fun!

💡 Join the Conversation! Share your relationship insights, funny dating stories, or conflict resolution tips with us. We might feature them in a future episode!

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📄 Download our free guide: [⁠The Balanced Partnership Guide⁠]

❤️ Support us on Patreon: ⁠www.patreon.com/honeyweneedtochat⁠

📩 Submit a Story: [⁠Share Your Relationship Struggles⁠]

💬 Join the Conversation: Have a breakthrough moment from this episode? DM us, tag us, or share your thoughts!

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Ever mistaken your waiter for your date? Or had your mum stalk your crush on LinkedIn? In this hilarious bonus episode, we share the funniest dating fails and first date regrets from Reddit (and our listeners). From toe-pic scandals to dog shelter drama, we dive into real-life romantic disasters—and how laughter helps us connect and grow. Send us your funniest stories to be featured!

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Welcome to Honey, We Need to Chat, the ultimate real, honest podcast for couples about marriage, communication, and connection. Hosted by Amy and Blair, we unpack the everyday stuff that gets in the way of staying close, with humour, heart, and zero fluff.

We talk about emotional shutdowns, miscommunication, unmet needs, and how to reconnect with curiosity and grace, because when communication dies, bad things happen.

💬 Subscribe for weekly episodes that feel like real talk with friends.

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Is it weaponised incompetence—or just disconnection, burnout, and unspoken expectations? In this bonus episode, we dive deep into a viral Reddit story and break down the tension behind uneven emotional and mental loads in relationships. We explore how gender norms, childhood modelling, and silent resentment build walls—and how to dismantle them with honest, courageous communication. A must-watch for couples navigating chores, fairness, and growing together.

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Welcome to Honey, We Need to Chat, the ultimate real, honest podcast for couples about marriage, communication, and connection. Hosted by Amy and Blair, we unpack the everyday stuff that gets in the way of staying close, with humour, heart, and zero fluff.

We talk about emotional shutdowns, miscommunication, unmet needs, and how to reconnect with curiosity and grace, because when communication dies, bad things happen.

💬 Subscribe for weekly episodes that feel like real talk with friends.

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🎧 Listen to full episodes on all streaming platforms

📥 Download free relationship tools: honeyweneedtochat.com/free-relationship-resources

❤️ Book a Free Clarity Session with Amy: nextchaptercoaching.com.au/free-clarity-session

📸 Follow us on Instagram: instagram.com/honeyweneedtochat

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Have you ever felt like your partner conveniently doesn’t know how to do basic household tasks? Does your significant other suddenly become “bad” at something so you’ll just do it for them? This is weaponized incompetence—and it’s a massive conversation in relationships right now.

In today’s episode, we break down:
✅ What weaponized incompetence actually is (and what it isn’t)
✅ Why it tends to show up in relationships (and why men are called out for it most)
✅ How to tell the difference between genuine struggles vs. strategic helplessness
✅ Real-life stories from Reddit & our listeners that expose both sides of the issue
✅ How to communicate about unfair workloads without starting World War III

And don’t miss our new listener shoutouts

⏳ Timestamps:

• 0:00 – The lost remote drama: Who’s really to blame?
• 3:23 – Listener story: “My ex admitted to doing chores badly on purpose”
• 9:09 – Story 1: “My girlfriend keeps accusing me of weaponized incompetence... but I’m genuinely just bad at things”
• 17:20 – Why forgetting the remote again might be hurting your relationship more than you think
• 25:47 – Story 2: “My boyfriend acts helpless about everything… or does he?”
• 34:45 – The real difference between incompetence & lack of confidence
• 41:25 – Story 3: “My girlfriend refuses to do chores… should she pay rent instead?”
• 46:05 – How to approach these conversations without creating resentment

Key Takeaways:

• Not every mistake = weaponized incompetence – But patterns matter.
• If your partner repeatedly “can’t” do something, ask why – Is it genuine or strategic?
• Communication & shared values matter – Unspoken expectations breed resentment.
• Both sides need to step up – Either by learning or letting go of control.

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📥 Free Resources to Go Deeper:

📄 Download our free guide: [⁠The Balanced Partnership Guide⁠]

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⁠📩 Submit a Story: [⁠Share Your Relationship Struggles⁠]

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