A talk about perfectionism at our family retreat fall 2025 by Russell Foxworth and Nathan Francis. This talk explores perfectionism not as a mere personality quirk but as a deeply rooted spiritual condition that distorts our relationship with God, others, and ourselves. Centered on Scripture, particularly Romans 12:3, Eph. 4:1-3 and 2 Corinthians 12:9, it defines perfectionism as an excessive desire to meet unrealistic standards—either self-imposed or projected onto others—driven by fear of failure, shame, or the need for approval. The teachers illustrated how perfectionism manifests in daily life, from minor irritations like toilet paper orientation to deeper patterns of self-criticism, overachievement, and judgmental attitudes, all of which stem from a longing for the perfection lost in Eden and promised in heaven. By exposing the hidden motivations—such as fear of rejection, distrust in God's grace, and the desire to control outcomes—the talk calls for humility, self-reflection, and a radical embrace of divine sufficiency found in weakness. Ultimately, it invites listeners to exchange striving for surrender, recognizing that true wholeness comes not from flawless performance but from Christ's grace, which is made perfect in our brokenness.