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Imagine growing up with a parent struggling with schizophrenia—how would it shape your life and career choices? Chrissy Ames Cotto, a licensed marriage and family therapist, joins us to share her deeply personal and transformative journey. From her challenging adolescent years to her path of self-healing through therapy, Chrissy's story is a testament to resilience and the power of hope. This episode opens a window into the human experiences that fuel the therapeutic process, helping us to connect more deeply with our emotional battles and triumphs.

We also unpack the principles of Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT) and the significant role mindfulness plays in cultivating resilience. Chrissy discusses the fine line between maintaining an optimistic outlook and falling into the trap of toxic positivity, urging us to respect our feelings and set healthy boundaries. Through her insights, we learn how staying present can help us navigate even the toughest moments, making room for growth and a more hopeful perspective on life’s challenges.

What does forgiveness look like, especially when it feels impossible? Chrissy delves into radical acceptance, discussing how acknowledging our feelings is crucial to the healing journey. We explore the complexities of letting go of resentment, the necessity of setting boundaries, and the importance of self-forgiveness. To cap it off, Chrissy emphasizes the power of gratitude and reframing our perspectives to foster hope and personal resilience. This conversation is a true guide to embracing growth, healing, and a brighter outlook amidst life’s adversities.

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 Join us for an enlightening conversation with Dr. Tara Armstead, as she reflects on her 18-year journey in education. Dr. Armstead opens up about her personal battles and how they inspired her to write a book that challenges societal norms and educational practices. You'll learn how her unique perspective and dedication to embracing differences can revolutionize the way we teach and engage with students.

Dr. Armstead's story isn't just about overcoming personal hurdles; it's a compelling narrative on the power of individualized education. We dive into real-life stories, such as a student's struggle with the loss of a parent, to underscore the importance of empathy and personal connection in teaching. Discover how adapting to diverse learning styles can significantly impact student success in the public school system, and why focusing solely on testing and grades can overlook crucial emotional and social factors.

But that's not all. We also explore the crucial link between human connection and resilience. Through poignant anecdotes, Dr. Armstead shares the transformative effects of making students feel genuinely valued. The episode challenges traditional hierarchical leadership models, advocating instead for a collaborative approach that fosters shared purpose and mutual respect. Whether you're an educator, a parent, or someone passionate about changing the status quo, this episode offers valuable insights into how we can build a more inclusive and effective educational environment.

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Join us on this episode of Hopeology as we sit down with Dr. Max Kusovitsky, a  psychoanalyst from the New York/New Jersey tri-state area. Dr. Kusovitsky peels back the layers of psychodynamic therapy, debunking myths about Freudian and Jungian practices, and reveals how modern techniques uncover unconscious thoughts to facilitate genuine healing and transformation. Discover how meaningful therapeutic work goes beyond surface-level issues to foster resilience and authenticity.

How do we balance fostering hope with the risk of it becoming unrealistic? Our discussion ventures into the delicate boundaries of hope, using examples like grandiose fantasies to highlight the need for empathy and respect in therapy. Drawing from Rogerian theory, Christina emphasizes the importance of unconditional positive regard and tailoring therapeutic approaches to each person's unique circumstances. Dr. Kusovitsky provides insights into the nuanced role of hope in therapy, marking the fine line between beneficial optimism and harmful delusion.

We also explore the intricate dance between resilience and hope in the quest for personal growth. Resilience acts as a shield against life's adversities, while hope serves as the North Star guiding individuals toward their dreams. Through engaging anecdotes and practical examples, we unravel the transformative journey from a fabricated self to an authentic one. Learn how understanding unconscious desires and setting realistic goals can lead to profound personal transformation, and how practitioners can nurture these qualities for true healing and growth. Tune in for a deeper understanding of the complex interplay between resilience, hope, and authenticity in psychodynamic therapy.

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Imagine the profound difference a lifetime of therapeutic support could make for those who've grown up in foster care. That's the mission at the heart of A Home Within, where  Emily Yang and Candice Simonds join us to reveal the inner workings of their program. With a network of over 500 volunteer therapists, they've created a sanctuary for healing that transcends traditional limitations, offering lifelong therapy to foster care alumni regardless of age or income. As they mark their 30th year, discover how they empower therapists with professional development and a robust clinical consultation framework, all while nurturing resilience and hope in long-lasting therapeutic relationships.

Our conversation focuses on the dedication of A Home Within's therapists and sustaining the growth of local chapters like New York City, Portland, and Los Angeles. We discuss the intricate balance of responsibilities that prevent burnout and the open doors for even retired therapists to contribute their wisdom.

We discuss the partnership with the University of San Francisco's foster care research group, which ensures that their services are ever-evolving to meet client needs.

Dive into the heart of their unique mental health services approach, which gracefully steps away from the shackles of progress-based reimbursement systems.

Wrapping up our inspiring session, Emily and Candice share the wellsprings of hope that drive them: the strength of community ties and the powerful narratives of those involved with A Home Within. The organization's ambitious goal of expanding their volunteer base to celebrate their 30th year reminds us all of the profound impact of kindness and compassion. If you're a therapist eager to join this transformative community or just someone passionate about the magic of sustained support, this episode is a heartfelt invitation to witness the cultivation of hope and connection.

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Ever felt like life's throwing more curveballs than you can catch? Tune in as my guest, Sam Knickerbocker, and I discuss the resilience and choices that transform adversity into a foundation for growth. Sam's journey is not just a tale of overcoming; it's a blueprint for anyone looking to navigate the complexities of personal trauma and financial uncertainty—with a sprinkle of neuropsychology and biochemistry for good measure.

Our conversation is a deep dive into the psyche, exploring how our past traumas can dictate our decisions, particularly with money. We tackle the notion that life's 'scent trails' can be disrupted, but how we react to these disruptions can either perpetuate a cycle of avoidance or catalyze a path to healing and self-discovery. Listen as we unravel the threads of choice and consequence, and how, by taking responsibility for our actions, we can paint a canvas of intentionality and purpose.

As we wrap up, Sam shares his vision for legacy—how it's shaped by the values we embrace and the impact we wish to leave on the world. The dialogue weaves through cultural differences in legacy perception, the importance of understanding one's roots, and the role of faith and the human spirit in fostering hope. Join us for an episode that promises to leave you inspired to look inward and build a legacy that echoes with meaning and positivity.

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Christophe Ngo shares about his journey from struggling with his own sexuality to becoming a compassionate marriage and family therapist specializing in sex therapy, kink, and alternative lifestyles along with the neurodiverse population. Christophe's story is a beacon for anyone grappling with the complexities of identity and the transformative potential of facing our deepest discomforts. He draws on his personal battles to offer a unique perspective on the therapeutic process, emphasizing empathy and the power of self-discovery.

We don't just talk therapy; we uncover the deeply personal narratives that define us. Christophe and I unravel his past economic hardship which shapes his present, coloring his perceptions of success and self-worth. This episode is a candid look at overcoming imposter syndrome and the psychological journey from scarcity to abundance. It offers a compelling exploration of how previous encounters with poverty can linger, influencing our attitudes toward money, ambition, and the ever-elusive concept of self-care.

Finally, Christophe shares invaluable insights into the role of shame, labels, and sexual identity in personal development. Our discussion reveals how kink can be more than taboo—it can be a source of empowerment and a path to reclaiming pleasure from the shadows of shame. We close with a reflection on the importance of maintaining boundaries in personal relationships, especially against the backdrop of family and cultural expectations. Gratitude fills the air as we wrap up, inviting listeners to continue the conversation and connect with Christophe's transformative work online.

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 My latest podcast episode offers an intimate glimpse into the forgotten world of homelessness, as Zak Mucha, a seasoned social worker and psychoanalyst, joins me, Christina McKelvey, to share powerful narratives of resilience. Zak, also the president of the Chicago Center for Psychoanalysis, illuminates the transformative impact of the Assertive Community Treatment program that he led, their dedication, and connection to the clients. We explore this particularly through the lens of his book "Swimming to the Horizon," where the poignant journey of Charles—a man battling severe psychosis and addiction—is at the forefront of our discussion.

As we navigate the complexities of Charles's story, it becomes clear that the path to recovery is about more than just therapy; it's about meeting basic human needs. Our conversation takes a turn into the critical work of providing emergency housing, food, and a sense of security, bringing Maslow's theory to life in a raw, practical application. Zak's experiences shed light on the often-overlooked importance of secure housing and its profound effect on those under the heavy influence of antipsychotic medications. These stories serve as a testament to the relentless efforts of the ACT team to secure the pillars of stability and dignity for the most vulnerable members of our society.

Wrapping up, Zak and I reflect on the essence of hope and the inherent responsibility we have towards one another. We examine the symbiotic relationship between purpose and hope in the realm of mental health intervention.

About: Zak Mucha, LCSW, is a psychoanalyst in private practice and president of the Chicago Center for Psychoanalysis. He spent seven years working as the supervisor of an Assertive Community Treatment (ACT) program, providing 24/7 services to persons suffering from severe psychosis, substance abuse issues, and homelessness. Mucha has worked as a counselor and consultant for U.S. combat veterans undergoing training for digital forensic investigations in child pornography.

Before going into the clinical field, Mucha has worked as a freelance journalist, truck driver, furniture mover, construction worker, union organizer, staff member at a juvenile DCFS locked unit, and taught briefly at a women’s prison.

He is the author of Emotional Abuse: A Manual for Self-Defense as well as a collection of poetry, Shadow Box (Albireo MKG, 2019), and a novel, The Heavyweight Champion of Nothing (Dockyard Press, 2021). Swimming to the Horizon: Crack, Psychosis, and Street-Corner Social Work (Koehler, 2024), and The Ambulatorium (PWIC, 2024) are coming soon.

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I speak with Lan Nguyen, who speaks on the challenges faced by adult children of parents with borderline and narcissistic personality disorder. Through her experience, we peel back the layers of complex trauma that weave through generations, shining a light on how cultural shame can fuel these disorders. Join our thought-provoking conversation as Lan helps us understand the importance of validation in therapy and the journey towards healing from these deeply entrenched familial patterns, aiming to break the cycle of trauma.

This episode is not just a narrative but a revelation of how cultural competence and the intertwining of a therapist's narrative with clients can catalyze connection and healing. Hear about the role of faith, the suppression of fear, and the embracing of a multifaceted identity in the therapeutic process. It's a candid exploration of how the absence of fear allows love to flourish, guiding us through the darkest times.

The emotional odyssey of reconciliation with parents over an intercultural marriage offers a raw glimpse into setting boundaries and fostering personal growth. We celebrate resilience as we discuss the role therapy plays in addressing generational trauma, and how faith can serve as both motivation and a beacon of hope in the healing journey. With Lan's insights and my own experience as a therapist, we offer an empathetic space for those in the AAPI and BIPOC communities dealing with the complex layers of trauma, underscoring the power of vulnerability, forgiveness, and the commitment to being a cycle breaker and healer within our communities.

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Lan specializes in mostly AAPI or BIPOC adults/millennials who are coping with intergenerational, childhood, or complex trauma; narcissistic abuse, codependency; grief; first time therapy seekers; dating & self-confidence; attachment issues & unhealthy family dynamics.

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When life threw a curveball at Chris Firebaugh in the form of stage four melanoma, he caught it and threw it right back. Join us as Chris opens up about the seismic shift that came with his diagnosis, and the unexpected avenues of healing he found along the way. Starting with a casual observation from a friend, Chris's journey through the tribulations of cancer treatment reveals how resilience and community can turn a battle for survival into an inspiring tale of transformation.

Chris's narrative takes an enlightening turn as he discusses the serene art of Tai Chi and its profound impact on his mental and physical well-being. As we explore his path, we uncover the solace and strength drawn from mindful movements and the deep breaths of martial arts. But it's not just about the tranquility of Tai Chi; Chris's voice also finds a different kind of release in the world of music. His story crescendos in karaoke where he leads others to belt out tunes to find joy and connection amidst life's challenges.

Wrapping up our conversation, Chris reflects on the post-cancer landscape and the ethos of living for happiness over hustle. He shares his philosophy on life after looking mortality in the eye, emphasizing the importance of stress-free living and finding purpose in making others happy. Chris's experience is a compelling showcase of how passion can fuel recovery and ignite hope, reminding us all that sometimes, it's the pursuit of simple pleasures that leads to the greatest healing and happiness.

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Have you ever stopped to consider how your thoughts influence your emotional well-being? Join me, Christina McKelvy, along with the remarkable Dr. Debbie Joffe Ellis, as we delve into the transformative world of Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT). In a compelling discussion, she shares her profound insights on how this pioneering cognitive approach, deeply rooted in Stoic philosophy, and pioneered by her husband, Dr. Albert Ellis can help us navigate life's tumultuous seas with greater resilience and hope.

This episode unravels the tightly wound threads of irrational thinking and its impact on our lives. Debbie guides us through the liberating shift from the chains of 'musts' and 'shoulds' to the freedom of flexible preferences, illuminating how such changes can heal our minds and foster emotional fortitude. We also celebrate the therapeutic powers of humor and emotions, essential companions in our journey toward mental health and the pursuit of a joyful existence.

Wrapping up our conversation, she shares heartwarming stories of hope that underpins her work. Her personal experiences and those of her parents who were survivors of the Holocaust, serve as a beacon, illuminating the path to improvement through persistence and gratitude. She also highlights resources for self-care and emotional management available through her website, leaving us with a poignant reminder of the abiding presence of hope in our lives. Tune in and be part of this uplifting exploration of the human spirit's capacity to thrive against all odds.

From her website: Dr Debbie Joffe Ellis is a licensed psychologist (Australia) and mental health counselor (New York), adjunct professor at Columbia University TC, and is affiliated with several major psychological associations and societies − including being a Member of the Australian Psychological Society, and an International Affiliate Member of the American Psychological Association. She has a doctorate in alternative medicine (MDAM) from the Indian Board of Alternative Medicine in affiliation with the World Health Organization, from whom she also received a gold medal (1993) in recognition of her service to the field of alternative and holistic medicine.

Dedicated to her husband, the great pioneering and remarkable psychologist Albert Ellis PhD, they worked together for several years giving public presentations and professional trainings on Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), as well as collaborating on writing and research projects, until his death in 2007. She continues to present, practice and write about his groundbreaking approach of REBT.

She currently has a private practice in New York City, and also delivers lectures, workshops and seminars throughout the U.S.A. and across the globe

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