We kick off a new series about being honest with God. Honesty with God starts with honesty with ourselves. This week's discussion questions are below:
1. Where do you most often feel like you need to “have it together”?
Who are you most tempted to perform for—family, friends, coworkers, church, or even God?
2. What version of yourself do you tend to present to other people?
Are you the strong one, the good one, the funny one, the successful one, the spiritual one, the independent one, the one who always has the answers—or something else?
3. What are you afraid might happen if people saw more of the real you?
What does your false self seem to be protecting you from?
4. Are there things you have learned you aren't supposed to talk about?
What questions, doubts, emotions, failures, or struggles have you learned to keep hidden?
5. Where might your faith have become more performative than transformative?
Are there things you say you believe that you haven't actually allowed to change you?
6. What are you trying to prove about yourself?
Who are you trying to prove it to? What do you think would happen if you stopped trying?
7. Where are you hiding from God?
Are there things you avoid bringing to God because you think they are too ugly, angry, doubtful, embarrassing, or disappointing?
8. What is something you are afraid to tell God because you think it isn't the “right” thing to say?
9. Read Genesis 3:7–9 again.
Adam and Eve's response to shame was to cover themselves and hide.
When you experience shame, what is your instinct—to hide, cover, defend, explain, blame, perform, or run toward God?
10. Hebrews 4:13 says that “nothing in all creation is hidden from God's sight.”
How does that truth make you feel?
Does it primarily feel frightening, freeing, uncomfortable, comforting—or something else?
11. What would change if you really believed that God already knows the worst and loves you anyway?