Hotter Together with Joel Monteleone

Chandler Bolt built Self-Publishing.com into a real business, then met Aubree at a house party where three different friends tried to set them up without knowing it. What followed was a breakup, a cross-country move, a future-planning night held together with sticky notes on his living room windows, and a marriage that changed how he leads his company.

Key Discussion Points: 

• The referral strategy Chandler used to meet Aubree instead of dating apps

• Aubree's "cab light" theory of why some relationships never move

• The night Chandler realized he had a plan for everything except her

• How marrying Aubree made him a better, more empathetic CEO

• The children's book Aubree kept secret from him for over a year

  
  

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Timestamps

0:00–2:04 — He's built a personal brand doing the most in public. She lives a private life.

2:04–6:57 — Three different friends tried to set them up. None of them knew about the others.

6:57–9:06 — A guy in a pineapple shirt and an overeager wingman nearly cost him his shot.

9:06–12:29 — They danced on a rooftop for hours, and he texted her back the very next day.

12:29–15:06 — He was done with LA. She wasn't ready to follow him anywhere.

15:06–18:00 — She drove him to the airport for his move, then ended things right after.

18:00–20:35 — Her theory: men are cabs. If the light's not on, you get out.

20:35–23:06 — She sat him down and told him straight: no plan means no her.

23:06–25:12 — He didn't propose. He covered his windows in sticky notes instead.

25:12–30:20 — Why you should never take relationship advice from someone who's single.

30:20–34:22 — If your friend group just trashes their husbands, that's a red flag.

34:22–38:17 — Marrying her changed how he leads an entire company.

38:17–41:06 — His right hand at work quit, and it broke something open in him.

41:06–45:06 — She never once cared what he was worth, and that's exactly why he trusted her.

45:06–47:23 — She kept an entire book hidden from him for a year.

47:23–50:54 — Their real dream: land outside Austin, family close enough to walk to.

50:54–58:40 — His last piece of advice: love isn't a feeling you wait for.

Fabi and Chase both got their heart broken before they found each other. This episode is about what happens when you stop chasing love and start becoming the person who can hold it, and the wild, specific signs that show up when it's finally real.Key Discussion Points:- Why trust starts with yourself, not someone else- The vision board that manifested him first- Getting triggered is not a red flag- Choosing couples therapy before saying I do- Her cervix healed after doctors said noFollow Chase: https://www.instagram.com/chasefinlay/Follow Fabi: https://www.instagram.com/fabiennefinlay/ Follow Joel: https://www.instagram.com/joel_monteleone/Time Stamps: 00:00 to 03:03 — Second chances at relationships03:03 to 04:43 — The choice point that decides everything 04:43 to 05:14 — The moment Chase triggered her completely 05:14 to 06:26 — Divorced at 36 with a cancer diagnosis 06:26 to 08:25 — Why life is rigged in your favor 08:25 to 14:17 — Manifesting him with a vision board 14:17 to 16:17 — She was deleting Bumble when she found him 16:17 to 22:04 — Six minutes at 7:30am or it's not happening 22:04 to 26:08 — Become the list instead of chasing it 26:08 to 30:18 — The swipe that changed both their lives 30:18 to 32:19 — A tarot card, a lion, and a wild sign 32:19 to 44:18 — Why instant chemistry can be a red flag 44:18 to 48:12 — Choosing couples therapy before the wedding 48:12 to 52:03 — The letter that revealed she was pregnant 52:03 to 58:01 — Her cervix healed and doctors were stunned

Brody and Kendall are both multimillionaire entrepreneurs who coach thousands of people on relationships and business. This episode is what happens when two people who teach this for a living actually have to live it, blended family, two companies, and a calendar that has to hold it all.

Key Discussion Points:

- How dating a fellow entrepreneur kills loneliness

- Why breadwinner women struggle to find love

- The VIP day that became a relationship

- Slowly integrating into a blended family

- The calendar that runs two empires

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https://www.instagram.com/brodiekern/Follow Joel:

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Timestamps:

00:00 – 01:40 What changes when you date a fellow entrepreneur

01:40 – 04:24 Finally having someone who just gets it

04:24 – 07:10 Letting go of the sole provider role

07:10 – 09:14 Coaching 1,200 men, and his own two kids

09:14 – 11:51 Why breadwinner women struggle to date

11:51 – 14:06 The VIP day that started everything

14:06 – 16:01 Inseparable within days, together a year and a half

16:01 – 18:18 The hardest archetype to date in

18:18 – 20:59 The masculine feminine pendulum

20:59 – 24:00 Letting her be what she needs, without making it weird

24:00 – 26:24 The volcano and the grounded one

26:24 – 28:56 What it actually took to attract this

28:56 – 33:15 Meeting his kids, and choosing to want more

33:15 – 37:21 The slow, deliberate build into a blended family

37:21 – 39:46 The shared calendar behind two businesses and two kids

39:46 – 43:23 What becomes possible in a truly great relationship

43:23 – 49:26 Business as personal development

Andrew hired Steph as his men's relationship coach. Six months of friendship later, they started dating and never looked back, until they broke up completely during the hardest year of her life. This episode is a real look at what security actually costs, and what it takes to rebuild it.Key Discussion Points:- How hiring a coach became a relationship- The health crisis that changed everything- Why they broke up to come back stronger- Talking to men honestly about sex- What real security looks like day to dayFollow Stephanie: https://www.instagram.com/stephanieganowski/Follow Andrew: https://www.instagram.com/peluso.andrew/Follow Joel: https://www.instagram.com/joel_monteleone/Timestamps :00:00 – 02:22 Dating a sex coach, never bothered by it02:22 – 05:17 Why other men mocked her career, he didn't05:17 – 09:10 Family, and losing his mom early on09:10 – 12:11 How they actually met: he hired her12:11 – 14:30 The books and conversations that rebuilt him14:30 – 19:15 The apology nobody else remembered19:15 – 24:23 A hard conversation is like an orgasm24:23 – 27:59 What men actually need to ask in bed27:59 – 32:11 Where real security comes from32:11 – 35:13 Her body broke down, so did they35:13 – 38:19 The breakup, and the program that changed her38:19 – 41:24 I want him, I don't need him41:24 – 45:16 What men actually go through in dating45:16 – 49:36 Social media's gender war49:36 – 53:13 Play, jingles, and their dog Pico53:13 – 58:39 Home, the future, staying accountable

Courtney landed a Forbes feature, spoke at Cannes Lions, and had the best month of her business ever. All while pregnant. Her husband Lucas walked away from academic medicine the same year. This episode is proof that waiting to feel ready is the fastest way to waste your life.

Key Discussion Points:

• Marriage as career leverage
• Refusing to wait until ready
• Delegating outside her top priorities
• The chore war that changed things
• Zero tolerance for kids as excuses
• Why boring is actually the biggest compliment

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Timestamps:00:00 – 01:55 The pregnancy that hit at her career peak

01:55 – 04:26 Full send: never waiting to be ready

04:26 – 08:13 20 percent capacity: pregnancy's priority filter

08:13 – 09:48 A road trip, a surprise sonogram in Pensacola

09:48 – 12:43 Pregnancy's psychedelic side, nobody warns you

12:43 – 16:04 The moment it hit Lucas: becoming a dad

16:04 – 20:48 Controversial take: coach your partner or not

20:48 – 23:35 Why it's called Hotter Together

23:35 – 27:43 She knew from his Hinge profile

27:43 – 31:31 The book that started a chore war

31:31 – 33:03 I make money for my baby

33:03 – 34:50 Throwing up mid call, still showing up

34:50 – 37:56 Blaming your kids for unlived dreams

37:56 – 41:43 It's real when the relationship gets boring

41:43 – 45:39 The tantra retreat that defined their roles