Welcome back to How Are You Arriving! I am so excited to announce our next theme on this podcast. The next few episodes fall under the theme of Passion-Driven Work. I admire the people whose work is not only about the paycheck, but also about purpose. Passion-driven work is what happens when a cause, a belief, or a commitment calls us and we answer. Some jobs we chose because they’re practical, while others chose us because of what we believe in, who we want to help, or the difference we have to make. The stories we will be diving into show us what happens when work is fueled not only by skill but also by conviction, when what we do is tethered to what matters most to us.  

This week, I am delighted to have a dear old friend, Sandra Lippard, joining me on the podcast. She lives in Maryland with her husband and 15-year-old twin girls. Sandra’s first career was in product marketing for high-tech companies, and after her children were born, she took some time off to reevaluate her priorities. She then switched gears to work in a field that made a difference in her own life. Tune in to find out more!

In this episode…

• Surrogacy 

• Empathy 

• Rocky paths 

• Gratitude 

• Passion & job 

• Resilience 

• Values, beliefs, & emotions

Quotes

“The first step is making sure that you are comfortable having a relationship with this person for a year.” - Sandra Lippard 

“It’s so inspiring to know that the work you do everyday comes from lived experience.” - Cristina Young 

“No journey is ever identical.” - Sandra Lippard 

Timestamps: 

0:00 - 2:30 | Introduction 

2:30 - 7:55 | Surrogacy  

7:55 - 11:30 | Surrogate clients 

11:30 - 15:10 | Gratitude 

15:10 - 17:45 | Patterns 

17:45 - 20:25 | A passion or job 

20:25 - 23:45 | Sandra’s resilience 

23:45 - 27:05 | Values, beliefs, & emotions  

27:05 - 30:30 | Intentions of the surrogates 

30:30 - 32:05 | Misunderstandings 

32:05 - 37:00 | Turning struggle into purpose 

37:00 - 37:43 | Outro 

Welcome BACK to How Are You Arriving. This episode marks the third episode of the four-part series on the resiliency factor. Joining me this week is Kristen Mullen, who is here to talk about resilience. She is a school psychologist who specializes in serving students struggling with trauma and emotional regulation. Kristen has been in this field for more than 20 years and possesses a remarkable calm, as well as expertise that I believe lends a great deal of peace to all the families she works with. Tune in to find out more! 

In this episode… 

• Facing challenges personally vs. professionally 

• Deep breaths 

• Making a plan

• Talking to people 

• The power of information 

• Make lemonade out of lemons 

• Being proud of yourself 

Quotes

“When you are faced with a challenge it is important to first try and take a deep breath, then try to figure out your plans, who you are gonna see, talk to as many people as you can, and really try and make a plan.” - Kristen Mullen 

“When your child is in pain you want to take their place in a heartbeat.” - Kristen Mullen 

“Strength is in reflecting and repairing.” - Cristina Young 

“We don’t really grow and change in a comfortable setting. We need to be uncomfortable.” - Kristen Mullen

Timestamps: 

0:00 - 2:30 | Intro 

2:30 - 7:35 | Challenges professionally vs. personally 

7:35 - 10:35 | The power of information  

10:35 - 13:10 | Gathering your people 

13:10 - 16:00 | BIG feelings 

16:00 - 17:25 | Being proud of yourself 

17:25 - 20:05 | Changing from challenges 

20:05 - 21:55 | Parenting choices 

21:55 - 24:50 | The children Kristen works with 

24:50 - 29:00 | Is resilience learned? 

29:00 - 33:00 | Teaching resilience to kids 

33:00 - 37:05 | Resilience within yourself 

37:05 - 38:15 | Imagining the worst-case scenario 

38:15 - 40:00 | Building time in for reflection 

40:00 - 43:25 | Empty nest 

43:25 - 47:00 | Stop and reflect  

47:00 - 50:05 | A truth or lesson about resilience 

Welcome BACK to How Are You Arriving. This week is the 2nd part of the 4-part series called The Resilience Factor. I am thrilled to welcome Dr. Marisa Messore to my show today. This episode is titled “Everyday Resilience: The Small Stuff Builds The Big Stuff.” 

Marisa attended Boston University for medical school after completing her undergraduate studies at Tufts. She completed her residency here at the University of Miami, studying OBGYN, and has been in private practice since 1997. In 2003, Marisa joined the menopause society and became a certified menopause practitioner. She is THE doctor to see regarding all things menopause and hormones. Tune in to hear about how she tackles resilience! 

In this episode…

• Bouncing BACK

• Conflict resolution 

• Navigating 

• Covid-19

• Looking at the positive 

• Mental breaks 

Quotes

“Resilience is about bouncing BACK but with a new strength.” - Cristina Young 

“With anything in life, looking at the positives is so important.” - Marisa Messore

“When you make the decision to begin to accept you give up real estate in your brain that was preoccupied with fighting it, and all of a sudden that real estate is available for other things” - Cristina Young  

Timestamps: 

0:00 - 3:00 | Intro 

3:00 - 4:30 | Definition of resilience 

4:30 - 9:00 | What resilience means to Marisa 

9:00 - 11:05 | Takeaways from COVID 

11:05 - 12:35 | Belonging to something bigger than yourself 

12:35 - 15:30 | Resilience within patients 

15:30 - 17:45 | Exercise 

17:45 - 21:50 | Mindset 

21:50 - 25:35 | Menopause affecting resilience  

25:35 - 26:35 | Social media 

26:35 - 29:50 | The secret sauce managing menopause 

29:50 - 32:50 | Not sweating the small stuff 

32:50 - 34:25 | Compassion for yourself 

34:25 - 38:15 | Menopause being a public topic 

38:15 - 38:48 | Outro 

Welcome BACK to How Are You Arriving. This week marks the beginning of a 4-part series called The Resilience Factor. What does it REALLY mean to be resilient? In the next four episodes, we will dive into what resilience looks like in everyday life, in our relationships, amidst internal obstacles, and during significant transitions. Then we will examine the growth that comes after the hardship and struggle. 

You’ll hear real stories and practical tools that you can apply in your own life. Subscribe now and join me as we explore how resilience helps us bounce BACK!

In this episode…

• Differences in resilience 

• Support system 

• Parents feelings 

• Choices

• Giving & being given to

• Teaching teens resilience   

• Being seen 

Quotes

“Some resilience is not about standing alone, but really about leaning into family, friendship, school, culture, and community. Our connections can actually be the strongest anchor in the storm.” - Cristina Young 

“The whole process of growing up is all about messing up. You have to let your teens mess up in order to grow.” - Michelle Icard 

“As a parent, you have to accept that you are raising someone apart from you. Someone whose job it is to separate from you. Someone who will be who they’ll be regardless.” - Michele Icard

Timestamps: 

0:00 - 4:15 | Intro 

4:15 - 5:20 | Definition of resilience 

5:20 - 8:10 | Support 

8:10 - 11:55 | Being strong for others 

11:55 - 14:10 | Teaching teens resilience 

14:10 - 16:35 | A calm stance as a parent 

16:35 - 25:00 | Resilience is challenging 

25:00 - 28:50 | Knowing yourself as a parent 

28:50 - 32:05 | Being seen & mattering to others 

32:05 - 38:50 | Helping your kids know they matter to the family 

38:50 - 41:45 | Help kids with the friendship storms 

41:45 - 46:20 | Resilience in a time of need 

46:20 - 49:50 | Scripts 

49:50 - 50:59 | Outro  

Welcome BACK to How Are You Arriving? This week we have Max Gelband and I think you all are going to love him. Max is a 27 year old real estate broker who is originally from Boulder but has been in Miami for a couple of years. I am lucky enough to know Max because he actually helped me find my office. He is transparent, he is vulnerable, he is smart, and he shares so many interesting insights in this episode. Tune in!

In this episode…

• Goal setting 

• Consistency 

• Motivation/motivators 

• Internal dialogue 

• Support system 

• Self awareness 

• Expectations 

• Attitude & effort 

Quotes

“I think it is important to reflect on what was before we dive into what we hope happens in the future.” - Cristina Young

“If I can be a semi-decent human being, I am probably doing better than most of the humans on the earth right now.” - Max Gelband 

Timestamps: 

0:00 - 3:00 | Intro 

3:00 - 7:35 | Goal setting for seasons 

7:35 - 10:20 | 5 people you spend the most time with 

10:20 - 12:20 | Being a semi-decent human being 

12:20 - 15:00 | Applying the lessons 

15:00 - 17:10 | Changes for seasons 

17:10 - 20:35 | Eliminate the ignorance tax 

20:35 - 22:45 | Internal monologue 

22:45 - 25:00 | Self discipline 

25:00 - 27:50 | Humility 

27:50 - 32:25 | Upbringing 

32:25 - 34:35 | Transparency 

34:35 - 37:40 | Free spirit 

37:40 - 46:25 | Changing & growing 

46:25 - 47:45 | Understanding yourself 

47:45 - 50:05 | Let them 

50:05 - 53:30 | Future self 

53:30 - 54:16 | Outro 

Welcome BACK to How Are You Arriving? This week I have Mel Beattie joining me who is a hoot. She’s smart, she's savvy, and best of all…she’s my neighbor! Mel is a mother, a business school grad, an amazing politician, and a volunteer extraordinaire who is turning over a new leaf that I think will be very inspiring to all of you. Tune in! 

In this episode… 

• Slowing down 

• Transitions 

• Reinventing 

• Selfish can be GOOD

• Support system

• Future self 

Quotes

“We need to think about investing in the future version of you so we can help her feel like she matters.” - Cristina Young 

“A little unhappiness and discomfort forced me to start changing.” - Melissa Beattie 

“Yes, maybe it hurts, but as long as I get the lesson out of it, it's so rich.” - Cristina Young 

Timestamps: 

0:00 - 1:25  | Intro 

1:25 - 3:30 | How Mel is arriving 

3:30 - 5:55  Slowing down 

5:55 - 7:35 | Investing in the future version of you 

7:35 - 9:35 | Hormones 

9:35 - 12:00 | Support system 

12:00 - 15:30 | Resources 

15:30 - 20:00 | Successful fall 

20:00 - 23:00 | Regulating emotions 

23:00 - 26:00 | Self-examination 

26:00 - 33:00 | Upbringing 

33:00 - 35:30 | Independence 

35:30 - 40:10 | Setting your kids up to succeed 

40:10 - 42:35 | Recording progress 

42:35 - 44:25 | Clarity 

44:25 - 48:30 | Long-term relationships 

48:30 - 51:40 | Measuring internal progress 

51:40 - 52:44 | A message to future-self 

After 13 years of leading weekly parenting groups, I, Cristina Young, am beyond ready to bring my favorite question to the mic: “How Are You Arriving?” These honest conversations go beyond small talk and into family dynamics, parenting, wellness, tough decisions, aging, and what it means to live authentically. If you’re craving real talk with heart, you’re in the right place. 

Welcome to the first episode of How Are You Arriving! This week we have Vicky Shusterman who is an attorney and a mother of two high school daughters. We talk about transitions, goals, marking progress, setting things up for the future, and reflecting on things in the past. Tune in!

In this episode… 

• Expectations 

• Reflecting 

• Transitions 

• Setting goals 

• Learning lessons 

• Gratitude 

• Self-accountability

Quotes

“A vision board is so good because it's a tangible reminder of what you aspire to.” - Cristina Young 

“So many things that are parent-based really have an impact on other aspects in my life, like my career.” - Vicky Shusterman 

“The other day I said to my son ‘do you want any advice, or do you want me to just bear witness to what you are saying’ and he just wanted me to listen.” - Cristina Young 

“I would like to set goals that are not purely tied to external markers.” - Vicky Shusterman 

“Lean into the transition, because it’s happening whether you want it to or not.” - Vicky Shusterman

Timestamps: 

0:00 - 3:35 | Intro 

3:35 - 10:30 | Shifting of seasons 

10:30 - 13:40 | Expectations 

13:40 - 18:25 | Documenting progress 

18:25 - 21:50 | Self-accountability 

21:50 - 23:50 | Structured feedback 

23:50 - 27:50 | Knowing when your expectations are too high 

27:50 - 32:00 | Having a partner  

32:00 - 35:10 | Patterns 

35:10 - 39:30 | Where we feel motivation 

39:30 - 46:35 | A lesson from this conversation 

46:35 - 46:56 | Outro 

Connect with Cristina Young 

https://cristinayoung.com/

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